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I went to the dr today for a minor thing (follow up to quitting some meds) and she told me I have to quit stressing and take care of myself. I had a complete melt down and cried through the entire time I was there (I'm not a cryer, normally.) She's echoing Al-Anon, and I guess I just don't feel up to the job of taking better care of myself.
Sometimes the release of letting someone know how you feel makes me cry too sometimes. Just remember Easy Does It and you can Keep It Simple. Start slowly taking good care of you and then build on it ~ one minute at a time, one hour at a time, one day at a time.
Maria123
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
That is what alanon is all about. Learning to take care of us while having a support group to help us with the journey. You are not alone and don't need to do this by youself. Keep on posting and reaching out for help. Just sharing our feelings here or getting suggestions is taking care of us. There was a time when my psychiatrist told me to keep going to alanon because he saw such a difference in me! It works if we work it. Your friend in recovery, cdb (((((((WAkingUp))))))) xoxoxoxoxoxo
Detaching has been very very difficult for me. I have to remind myself of my separateness my separate goals, my separate needs and my separate path. I have also had to focus a lot more on my health. Not the up and down stuff but the daily eating right, exercising, taking care of basics stuff. Are you doing that?
Detaching has been very very difficult for me. I have to remind myself of my separateness my separate goals, my separate needs and my separate path. I have also had to focus a lot more on my health. Not the up and down stuff but the daily eating right, exercising, taking care of basics stuff. Are you doing that? Maresie.
Frankly, it's a struggle. I think that's what the melt down was about. In spite of my best efforts to take care of myself, I don't feel very successful. The chaos & stress at home seems to be rising rather than the reverse. My blood pressure measured really high yesterday. <sigh>
Hi waking up can you go for a walk or something when you feel things getting on top of you? Sometimes just being in the house is tension enough. Keep taking your baby steps and if your blood pressure is high you do need to take care of you now. Luv Leo x
Having a meltdown and crying is not a bad thing. It's a way our bodies deal with relieving some stress. If you get to the point where you feel you need to cry, just cry. Don't hold it in. It's not healthy. Sometimes it takes a good cry to feel better. Taking care of yourself doesn't necessarily mean that you have to change everything all at once either...sometimes it's too much. Do it in baby steps, each day focus on doing one more thing that's good for yourself, and they don't have to be big things either. I hope this makes sense.
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Just concentrating on getting through one day at a time.
