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OK, I don't know why I did this, but I called the bars where my A said he'd be. He was not there. I had my baby, and we were in the car going down the hill(the 2yr. old is at my parent's b/c I am going out of town for work for 3 days, his parents are watching the baby while he is at work), and and I see him driving up the hill. So I went back. He was just sitting in a chair, about to fall out of it. which I expected. What I did NOT expect was for him to tell me he LOST my work cell phone! Maybe it is my fault b/c I let him use it. But I always let him use it, and he has always been responsible with it. He said that I should call the bar he thinks he left it at tomorrow to find it. I told him I was leaving town for the conferance, and told him to call. He was the one who lost it. I am so upset. I also asked him where he went, and he told me he went to this one bar that when I called it, they said he was NOT there. They didn't call for him, so maybe it was a mistake. But I don't believe that. he has been real into "pleasing" me lately, well only the last two days, when he has been drunk, but it makes me wonder. I am probably just being paranoid. I don't know. I am just so upset right now. he was just like "sorry about your phone" but to him it is no big deal. I could get in trouble for it. Anyway, thanks for listening.
I am sorry about your situation. When my husband was actively drinking, he lost his cell phone a couple of times. Each time, he'd say he didn't know how or where he could have lost it. Once when I suggested looking under the seat of his truck, he said he had already looked there. I told him, sometimes I overlook stuff, and it helps to have someone look again. He was almost adamant about me looking under the seat, but when I did, I found a nasty magazine. Of course he said it belonged to his brother, who had driven the truck a few days earlier. Anyway, I understand the anger...he has cost us a lot replacing cell phones and all the legal expenses incurred with this disease, the cost of alcohol, the stealing from our savings to buy the alcohol, my sanity.
Please take care of yourself, and go to your meetings, whether online or f2f.
