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sorry i haven't posted in a while, I have actually been busy taking care of me! Not forgetting my program, trying to keep it in the day (both with my Dad's illness and my A) and doing things for Kim. Yesterday, I bought (well, leased) a new car! I was nervous and anxious about the money....but I was nervous and anxious about my old car as well. My Dad came with me, as he has when I've bought all my cars, and we spent a nice day together.
Today is family day and the ATC where my A is. I am going and I must admit, I am a little nervous. I haven't seen him in a while, I don't know what to expect (although I have spoken to him a few times and have gotten numerous letters) mostly I'm concerned about what to do when he gets out in ten days. But again I keep reminding myself, I'll cross that bridge when it comes. No need to make a decision today. Let me see where the day takes me, listen to where he is and go from there. After family day I am meeting friends in the city for a show I got tickets for and then dinner....so it will be an action packed day!!!
Congrats on your car Kim!!! Sounds like you're doing some good work on yourself through the program, that will get you through whatever happens with your A. I know it's so hard for me not to project what may happen, but taking it one day at a time does help! Hope you have an awesome time with your friends tonite!
Hope you had a great day and everything went according to plan. Congrats on the new car. Hopefully you won't get the snow that we got.
As for deciding what to do with your A when he gets out in 10 days that's a hard one. I know my A and I sat down with a councelor and discussed what options we had. He wanted to come home and I agreed not knowing better. (This being the first time dealing with it head on.) They wanted him to go to a halfway house. Hindsight says we should have listened to the councelors. Only you can decide what is best for the both of you. But I would have encouraged him to go to the halfway house because it was best for him. Oh well, no use dwelling on the past. What's done is done and we go foward from here. Good luck!
Live strong, Karilynn
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