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So he just called, has the poor me's . Totally different tone then the past week or so. Will need to leave his dad's, fixated on "you are not alone" sign at meeting and felt alone, not doing good mentally, blah, blah....All that guilt in a 5 minute conversation. This is so tiring. All I could manage to say was, "I am sorry that you are feeling that way"
I am in a same place as you there. Situations may be different, but the confusion is the same. My son is bi-polar/schizo affective. When he was released from the hospital last week he wouldn't come back to my house. In his delusion, he felt I was causing the voices. After a few nights on the street he ended up back at the ER but they didn't admit him. The doctor didn't think he was bad enough. grrrr Very hard to let go.
He ended up staying with a friend of mine in the city, but now he has few meds left and on the downslide again, and I am left with very few options. The illness itself is sooooo confusing and hard to know how to respond to. God gives us the strength ....knowledge....Thy will!
I agree with Abbyal you did great. If you can screen the calls with an answering machine so you can respond to him when you feel strong and up to it. Luv Leo x
My a always projected all his poor me's all over me. I took them till I could barely stand up. Then I said I could not deal with them anymore. He can poor me very very well. So can I.
I have had to work on what I am responsible for and let him go with his. He has his own inimitable way of managing his chaos. I did not do very wel with it and in fact refuse to step in now no matter what the consequences.
I feel for you trying to deal with someone who is ill but will not get help. I feel much the same way dealing with the A. He has resources, more than I do, with the Veterans Administration, he very rarely goes to them. Then he will turn on that resource like a clock.
I have had to step back for me. My health and emotional health was at an all time low.
