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i think i just need a moment to vent, so here goes...
i am the "proud" daughter of an alcoholic who has managed to ruin his entire world. my story would take forever to tell you. but the basics-alcoholic dad that swears he isn't drinking, has had 2 strokes,seizures, and multiple trips to the hospital, then he quits drinking & we "catch" him again and again, he makes excuses...blah blah-so i won't bore you. my sis & i have put our foot down and are not willing to be part of his life anymore. it sounds pretty easy,right? just don't talk to him. it's not that. my bro is upset with him also, but says dad is going to need someone around in case he needs to go to the hospital. my bro is well intentioned, but is crushing our hard nosed approach. my dad only needs one kid to be there and to love him, then he just pretends that everything is ok and his life is great. i am dissappointed in my dad, my bro, and myself. i know it isn't my place to fix it, but i have always been the GLUE that holds my family together. now that i am stepping out, i feel like my family is going to crumble. i somehow feel guilty, even though i know i shouldn't.
Welcome ((((((flintfeet)))))) Glad you are here with us!! One thing we are taught in Alanon is to keep the focus on us and it is not your fault if your family falls apart.. I too grew up "HOLDING" my family together and when I left they all fell to the bottom but they were going with out me anyways I was just in denial that "I" was keeping them from hitting bottom!! My mom died 4 yrs ago and the rest of the family I rarely see or hear from!!! It is sad but I am learning to lean on HP (God) and keep the focus on me and not blame myself for my family's choices !!!
Hi and Welcome! I'm glad you found this group. You will gain much experience, strength and hope (ES&H) here from our members. Just knowing that others truley understand how you feel and what you are dealing with is a comfort in itself. Read up on the posts, check out the chatroom and make yourself at home.
Kathy
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Kathy S --
~*I trust my Higher Power that I am exactly where I am supposed to be in my life today.*~
Welcome to our group. You are not alone. You cannot control your Dad's drinking anymore than you can make him want to quit!
Please keep coming back to join us. We have a great felowship here. Get yourself envoloved in Alanon locally if possible and you will see big changes in your perspective.
We are always ready to listen to a good vent.
josey
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Julianne - It's best to move on. You cannot look back in anger in life. It's too short
