The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
It's been awhile since i have been on. I had many things happend in my life which turned it into crisis mode. My best friend lost her leg in a car accident in November which completly messed me up. I was just so thankful that god took her leg but spared her life. I was working fulltime, trying to be some form of mother to my daughter while running to the hospital everyday as her parents are both dead and we are the closest thing she has to family. I have learned so much about acceptence and love over the last 2 months its overwhelming. All the little things i bitched about just don't seem so important. The dinner dishes can wait until i read my daughter a storey. I just learned to live life and love those around you like you may never get to see them again. This loss of limb that my friend suffered brought me and my sister back together. We hadn't spoke in a year because of issues with my A father. It made us realize life is just to damn short to fight over stupid things.
My ex-mother in law who is like my second mother. I have known this women since i was 15, over half my life time. She was diagnosed with breast cancer and had surgery to have the lump removed a week after my friends accident. I was devasted, i was so afraid of lossing this women who i love so dearly even though me and her son have been divorced for 4 years. My bond with her start when she told me you can;t choose who your parents are....only the person you become. This hit home for me because she came from an alcholic family also and over the years expierened the pain i went through with my dad and his struggle. She starts radation in the new year and we are hopping for the best.
MY gift this christmas was a sobber father.....first time in 10 years. My daughter, sister, her boyfriend, and our aunt all travelled 2 and half hours to be with my parents on x-mas day. The present I have received in 10 years from him was a weekend of sobriety and the happy loving father that i had so missed. For the first time in years i did not want to leave with my head held in shame. I had a great holiday. He has even built a ramp for my friend when she comes to visit so she can get in the house.
I so look forward to reading all the posts i have missed and talking with all the friends i had made.
bd, Glad to see you back. It sure sounds like you have had a lot on your plate, but even better, have taken some very useful life lessons from it instead of parking on the pity pot. I think that's the main plan for these trials of life....to grow, to learn, to love.
good for you! Christy
__________________
If we think that miracles are normal, we will expect them. And expecting a miracle is the surest way to get one.
Brandie: I am so very sorry to hear of your friend's car accident. I am glad that you are bearing up under the strain and finding something positive in it. I hope that your friend will soon be out of the hospital and on her way to rehabilitation. I am glad that you could be there for her on so many levels.
I am very sorry to hear of your friends car accident...You have been going thru so much..just don't forget to take care of yourself...my thoughts and prayers are with you..take care.
