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Some people from the program encourage me to study medicine. I know it is better in the long run. Though I doubt my powers. I was never good at the subjects like chemistry, biology and maths. I am neither used to study a lot. I know everything is possible if I know I can. But it is something so big and unusual to me that I just cannot make up my mind. It is like going on an unusually strict diet. You basicly don't know what to start from, although it's obvious.
Should I go safe and continue on my social science direction, which will not guarantee me a good future but isn't too challenging, or should I do my ******ng best and risk for something that might end up the best decision I ever made? I don't have this American ''Go for the A! You can do it!'' attitude. I might gain it if I get enough encouragement that it is possible. I mean, I am not**** right... I can... convince myself I like medicine? Biology? It is interesting in some ways....
So to the point. Is it my logic that says that I can't do it, or is it my al-anon side that says so?
-- Edited by hotrod on Friday 1st of March 2013 07:53:01 AM
Thank you. I am working on my forth step with a sponsor. I hope God talks through people, because the ones I trust most, which my sponsor is included in, tell me that I can.
I don't want to do medicine. But I don't know what I want either. So rather than choosing something I hate less I will choose something I hate more which assures for a better future.
People generally don't tend to do well at subjects they don't like. It's hard to make yourself study something that you're just plain not very interested in.
I don't think it's a choice between an interesting subject that pays badly vs. a tedious subject that pays well. For one thing, the tedious subject may not pay well if you don't do well, drop out, or can't stand it. And something you have a zest for, you generally end up in, and do well at. It's probably more worthwhile not to waste years trying to fit yourself into a shape that doesn't work for you, and then finally coming around to what you like to do after all.
Most people end up in occupations that they didn't study for. They graduate with general skills, go get an entry-level job, find it's not really the right field, get a couple more entry-level jobs, get better and better identifying what they like and do well, and start climbing the ladder in a field that suits them. The good news is that they're being paid to do all this learning, instead of going into enormous, crippling debt for it, as medicine typically demands. In my job I advise many people starting out, and this is how I've seen it work for many years.
Al-Anon urges us to take good care of ourselves. I think finding the right position for our talents and interests is part of that.
Loves your post Mattie. You are right. And it isn't too late to study some extra after my school if needed, in Sweden it isn't so difficult.. but now I am scared to disappoint my sponsor :D
I can... convince myself I like medicine? Biology? It is interesting in some ways....
