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a real nightmare. My friends threw a new year's eve party. My husband drank too much (he's an alcoholic who recently thought he could try drinking sociably). He overdid it and he made a scene. I was and am horribly embarrassed and upset. Then when we couldn't find him and I knew he was walking around drunk outside in the cold I was so scared, scared for his life...
Today is an emotional hangover and I don't know what to do
I am sorry you had such a difficult evening. I am sad that it did not turn out as you planned. I found myself today very envious of a couple I know who went out and had a nice new years. I had my own nice new years but I believe that someone out there is having it all and I get none. Maybe I have to shake that all or nothing view. I can have a nicer new years sometime and I hope you will to.
Sorry you are going through this. Maybe your A will now accept he is unable to drink socially - maybe not, the main thing is, you must now start to look after yourself.
Old habits die hard - I spent last night slightly anxious, trying not to worry about 2 of my grown up children, one is a recovering A, the other one, sigh, just cant handle drink. Anyway, the recovering A was OK, she phoned me shortly after midnight to say Happy New Year - no word from my son. This morning, on the news, 36 stabbing incidents in London - my head and imagination was running riot. It turned out my son had an early morning work call, he went to bed at 10.30, to get up at 6.00! No matter how or what we project, it never works out that way.
This will pass, I know that horrible, embarrassed feeling, yuck, many of the other people there probably had too much to drink as well, they might even use your A's behaviour to demonstrate that they were not too bad!
Try to get to a face to face meeting, come here, and into the chatroom - this is a new year, it may be a turning point, the time you started to put yourself first. I hope so.
