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Waiting for a change


My weekend was good. He hasn't drank in a couple of weeks but that doesn't mean he is easy to deal with. Since he doesn't drink he has a very good memory so if I do something wrong he will rember it an throw it back in my face. Which I try not to say anything. He is running out of things to talk about. I have done some cleaning that he has asked. SO he can't pick on that. He is trying to see how far he can push me because I still am not letting him drive my car without me in it. It is a month today that I took the car key away from him. I don't think he thought I would stick to my guns. I am. It is very anoying at times to get up and get dressed to go somewhere. It would be much easier if I say here are the keys you can go by your self. But I can't do that. He could disappear and I would be worried sick about my car and I don't want to go thrur that. So I am holding out. He can drive all he wants, I even like it when he drives but I have to be in the car. If I let him drive and he gets drugs they take the car then how am I going to go to work. I am not going to be taking the bus and have to walk. If he crashs it then I will have no way of getting around. If he is drunk then I have to pay for it to get out of the lock up for the car. No I am not in the mood for that. So until he goes to AA I am not willing to give up my freedom of being able to drive where I want to go.

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Good work there NYCBT


A whole month of sticking to your boundary with the car!


I am very very proud of you.


It is a hard boundary to maintain but such a very important one.


WAY TO GO


In support,


Megan



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nycbt wrote:
. No I am not in the mood for that. So until he goes to AA I am not willing to give up my freedom of being able to drive where I want to go.


 


i would keep the car ANYway,....its mine...let him get his own......even in recovery, they can mess up......i would take care of me.......i know, i've been there..got my car wrecked,  the whole works,  NEVER again...rosie


 


 



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nycbt,


Stay tough. It sounds like he is trying to wear you down. You are making changes and this is good.


In support,


Nancy


 



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