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Today I woke up and filled out some applications online and updated my resume. I fed my 3 year old and I a bagel and fruit for breakfast and I went out to finish the my raking in the backyard and last time I forgot my gloves and had gotten blisters. So I grabbed my gloves and got to work. I finished and felt dirty so I took a shower. It is a nice day so I called my friend to go on a 5 mile walk later it's a 2fer since I need to lose 30 pounds and walk the dog. My skin is dry so I applied lotion. I know this sounds funny, but this is just my Saturday morning and since I had the day off I was productive and used my self care which makes me feel more self loved. I have learned to meet my own needs and it makes me feel better within.
I never used to take the time to do little things like, lotion, gloves and a walk for myself, sometimes I would even cut out a shower to meet everyone else's needs and house chores, but now I know how good I feel if I don't wait until the end of the day if I still have the energy to do something for myself. Now that I do it and incorporate my kids in these things we are so much more bonded and enjoying life. I never imagined life could be so relaxed.
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
Thank you for your share, I relate to what you say about always taking care of others first, so much so that even the little things get trampled under foot. I also have been so busy trying to water and weed everyone else's garden that my own has become a wasteland.
I'm happy to say that I'm doing some long over due spring cleaning in my own house right now. I left my addict bf and am taking the steps to take care of me now. I have a lot of work to do. The damage done by my dysfunctional relationship as well as my own self neglect seem overwhelming at times. But I keep coming back to read these posts and it helps me to take it easy on myself and appreciate the little things.
I am grateful for the support, understanding and sense of community I get from this forum. THank you so very much.
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"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? If I am for myself only, what am I? If not now, when?"
"Be happy for this moment, this moment is your life."
That sounds wonderful. I hope to get to where you are at. I'm glad you were able to enjoy this beautiful day and put yourself first. It is definitely not easy with little ones to take care of.
YAY! I did a good job today of taking care of myself as well! I even sat out by the pool in my bathing suit, turned on the waterfall, and read a magazine. I had laundry that needed to get done but I put it off. Oh, and I also made it to the gym and did 30 mins of cardio too! Thanks for sharing!!
I find that when I fill my reserve I can give more freely from my overflow. Great job working your program!! You go sister friend :) Hugs to you, P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Love it and thanks everyone, yes Pushka everytime I fill up my reserve tank I have some to give from the overflow tank! Sending you all love and support!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
Al-Anon/Alateen Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 800-344-2666
" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
Again, I have to overcome the thoughts like "it doesn't matter, won't work is a waste of time"....but when I care for myself I always feel just a little bit better.
Sound wonderful! Thanks a lot for sharing!Enjoy this beautiful day, but do not forget about others!Also, I would like to admit thatI completely agree with the statements mentioned in the (link removed by moderator)...
-- Edited by Iamhere on Thursday 3rd of November 2016 10:07:00 AM
It is inspiring..I too stopped doing all the things I loved to do or even knew I should do, for myself..I neglected friendships, even my children sometimes, and I am angry about that..but probably one of the few things I cannot be angry at my abf for lol..those were my choices..and I'm trying to rebuild a life that has more focus on me, even tho I am still with him. He does this, has no problem having his hobbies, his passions, his social life..I gave up all of that, being so overwhelmed with worry and fear and codependency on him. It's a struggle, every day..but I know it's what I need to do.
MYback has been out for over a week. Although i know my boyfriend will help despite his hard work schedule, i took care of myself. I usually feel like a victim when im ill because of not being cared for as a child but this time was pleased that i got to the ER myself for some muscle relaxant pills and a exam. I had gone to the clinic earlier in the week but felt worse. I was frustrated that the pain/back is holding up my work search but thats life....
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