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Lauren ashley


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xxxx...im pissed off right now..I told my gpa if he can take me to an alanon meeting..and he bitched saying do i have to go everyday


I told them how much it meant to me...Without it I have nothing..bc my grandparents don't understand they are too old,and already set in their ways


I am actually crying right now bc it is not fair...I xxxx hate this...At first i was reluctant to go to alanon,and now that I like it,they are trying to take it away from me..


Everytime I get something good..they take it away from me...Then they wonder why I want to die....I don't think I can take this xxxx anymore....


They need to be more understanding..just bc they had the so called perfect life,they can't cheat me out of the only thing in my life that is making me happy...and it is alanon...


and then my aunt bitches to me..I should be in alateen..xxxx her at least I am going to one..I did try an alateen meeting,and they were all btwn 11-12..


The issues that I have would be to hard to comprehend for a 12 yr old..and I relate more to adults because I g rew up around them...


SOmebody plz help me b4 i loose it......here is my email lovingmuhlife@adelphia.net


Lauren~



-- Edited by canadianguy on Wednesday 18th of March 2009 01:38:25 PM

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Hi laurenash


 


Can someone from the alanon group give you a ride?
I am sorry your grandparents are not more understanding.


 


have you shown them any of your writing?


I enjoy your poetry and maybe it would help them see through your eyes


 


In recovery


Megan



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Sweetie..get a hold of the phone number to that meeting asap. Let them know that you are in need of a ride. You may not be able to go tonight, but they will make an announcement and more than likely someone will volunteer to pick you up. Don't give up hope, okay?!

It's okay to be pissed. I would be too. Take that anger and let it work for you.

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Lauren,


You have this Alanon board if you can't make the f2f meeting. We are here for you. We need you here as much as you need Alanon! Have you asked for help from your HP? Maybe there is a message in all of this for you.


In support,


Nancy



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((((((Lauren))))))))


Do I remember that kind of anger.  When I was younger I let it eat me alive.  However, through Alateen I did learn to let it go.  I also remember relating to older people because for me I wanted to be an adult in a hurry.  My childhood sucked and I wanted to grow up fast.  However, through Alateen I learned it was ok to feel the feelings, and it was ok to be a kid.  I had to learn to be a kid - and I found that although I had a crappy upbringing it was fun to be a kid.  Keep writing out your feelings, dont try and grow up so fast, and keep working your program.  The suggestions of getting numbers from group members to get rides is great.  Let your anger work for you instead of against you - it will help you to grow in your recovery.


Karen


 



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Lauren,


I also do not get to face to face meeting.  I can not pay for a babysitter to go right now.  I have not given up hope.  I come here as much as I can.  For me this is my alanon group right now.  My mother doesn't understand why I come here or my A go to all his meeting.  I have learned to let it go and just do my thing.  I can not change them only myself.  take one day at a time their is aways hope.


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Hi Lauren Ashley I am sure Hp will come through for you.  Maybe there will be someone on this board who lives in your area that can give you a ride.  You are right Grandma and Grandpa are probably feeling a bit long in the tooth to be running you around.   Maybe you could just get them to drop you off and someone gives you a lift home?  You are actually lucky to have alanon in your town - where I live there is none but I have just received all my membership back as a lone member.   Someone will now write to me and phone me if I want them to.   You could always look at that option to get you through for now if you need it.  Luv Leo xxx

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Hi Lauren...  I don't pretend to know how tough your life has been up until this point, but suffice to say that is sounds like it has been challenging at least...  One of the many principles of our own recovery is for us to take ownership of ourselves, our actions, our feelings, etc...  We have a "right" to any and all of our feelings, but we also give up the right to blame others for our stuff....


You have received lots of good advice from people on here about the f2f meetings, particularly about contacting your meeting and asking for a ride.... ("where there is a will, there is a way").... 


Nobody can justify or rationalize all the bad stuff that has happened to you during your formative years....  However, if you are going to get better, and "break the cycle", so to speak, I believe you are going to have to "look in the mirror" for the solutions to your issues...  You can, and will, succeed in Al-Anon and in life, but one of the major stumbling blocks may in fact be for you to stop "blaming others" for your predicament...  Your past happened, and it is real, and yes, it effects who you are today....  But your "today" isn't good or bad, it just IS.  What you choose to do with your today, is within your control and choice.  Anger at the rest of the world around you is keeping you stuck, and NOT helping you feel better...


I hope you can hear this, without feeling judged, as that is not at all my point....  Many of us here, myself included, spent way too much time focussing on our plights, mired in self-pity, and it served only to keep us sick for longer, and prolonged our ability to get better sooner... 


I am hoping for a better path for you


Take care


Tom



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