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Karilynn


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Hi roomies,

Question for you: we have a young girl at work (20) who's mother is an addict (alcohol and drugs) and is emotionally abusive to her children. The other 2 have gotten out of the house. "Emily" has now moved out. She's on the fringe of becoming an alcoholic herself. There are definte signs there. She has also moved in with a person who is on the edge of addiction. My feeling is that they will both enable each other now and the drinking will only get worse.

My question to you is she better off going to an Alateen or Alanon meeting? This girl is obviously hurting emotionally. I know she's not ready to face her own addiction or the possibilty of it, so there is no point in pushing that issue. But she did say that she wants to deal with her mother's. The father is long gone and out the picture. The siblings really have no contact with her now that she's moved out too. Any thoughts? Thanks.

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Karilynn

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kerry5


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In my alateen meeting i used to run, we accepted 20 year olds. It depends on her to what she feels more comfortable with. She would be encouraged to go  to alanon eventually if she did choose alateen. Hope this answers your question. All groups vary also, so she would have to check the ages directly at the Alateen Group she chooses.


 


 


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iona54


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first of all, is she open to coming to the programme?


perhaps a bit of the alanon lit for her? a beginners pack which is full of info could be given to her?


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cdb


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Hello Karilyn,


Bless you for being concerned about this person. First, they have to want to go. Providing literature like iona said is a great idea :) Our state has videos you can rent on alcoholism etc. to bring home. There are even some movies that may show an alcoholic family or a show on tv to open up communication. One I saw for an adult  "When a man loves a women" shows how it affects the marriage and the kids. Meg Ryan and Andie Garcia are in it too. They need to feel safe there. Dr Phil has had some great shows that show alcoholism in a home in progress. I didn't attend until I hit my bottom and it was for my 20 year old daughter. Just having a list of when meetings are and where may be of great benefit to have at her house. Give her the name of this website too. Let us know how things turn out. cdb



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