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kitty


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Yeah, (rosie) I know saying "never" or "always" are a little crazy.  I would love to find someone *special* to share myself with.  Ppl just seem to change when they get married to each other - it's bizarre.


I would love to think it is a possibility (marriage), someday, who knows. 


But you are absolutely right, like attracts like or whatever it is that we are lacking in ourselves is what we attract in another - as an opportunity for growth in love - by Divine Design - at least this is my understanding of it. 


I think I need about a year or at least several extremely intense months of therapy before I would consider a relationship.  I am willing to date a mentally healthy person (geez, normal used to be such a dirty word for me) even a balanced person...  that would be a nice change!


I heard that my cousin is battering her husband & her 17 yr old daughter too...  poor guy, I don't think I like my family very much.  Now I am concerned & praying for them specifically.  It makes me very sad to know this cycle of abuse is continuing.  Hurt people, hurt people, unless they are very courageous & willing to change.


Awareness is the first step - I plan to go to my therpist once a week.  Hopefully with very concentrated effort & work in al-anon daily, I'll be able to go through some radical transformations...  I know I'll be okay. 


Besides, I continue to say/pray I am changing these acoa patterns within me and I refuse to continue to be co-dependent -- I can get everything I need right from within myself. 



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debilyn


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Wow this was a very powerful post. You sound strong on your path to
self actualization!! This is so cool.

i hope, if you can and want to, you might look at some classes at your local
college. there are usually lots of self growth ones. I loved those.

Anyway thank you for posting. love,debilyn

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Dolphin123


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Kitty,


Thank you for your post. You sound so impowred and inspiring. I read confidence in your words. You are doing great!


Much Love,



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kitty said.............I think I need about a year or at least several extremely intense months of therapy before I would consider a relationship.  I am willing to date a mentally healthy person (geez, normal used to be such a dirty word for me) even a balanced person...  that would be a nice change!


 


rosie says............(((kitty))))    GOOD thinking!!!!!!   i am doing this....21 months and still no guy.....am not even looking!!!! if it is to be???? it will come and in good ways......if not????  than  "que sera sera".....its OK,  Bcuz i know i am ok....................love  n hugs   / rosie



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Girls who defines normal.  I think all of us have dysfunctional families/relationships in one way or another.  Luv Leo x

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