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this was the hardest part for me!!!! ACCEPTANCE....such a nice *sounding* word, but oh it stuck in my throat because i was such a *victim* in my pre-12Step years......"WHY accept being victimized???" was my ??? "doesn't that mean total defeat???" it wasn't until i got here, that i realized that *acceptance* to me is to , yes, allow the feelings, and than ask myself "can i control this??" "can i fix it???" and that was when i began to accept that its better if i don't *fight life, but to release the karma from me*........ i discovered that i don't have to *agree* with the situation....i don't have to *like* the situation......but for my serenity , i found that i DID/ DO have to "give to universe, that which i cannot control" acceptance is just saying "this is the way it is...and i can only control me/ my attitude towards it" and sometimes my attitude has been to *walk away*......i also found out that acceptance didn't mean i had to *wallow* in misery.....its just the reversal of DENIAL.........just my take....take what works, leave the rest......rosie
Wow...thank you...it makes so much sense. It is something I struggle with. I always have the courage to change the things I can....I have a hell of a time accepting those I can't. Thanks for giving me something to think about
