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I am new to Al Anon and this is my first posting. I am so grateful to you all for the helpful advice and love shown to me in the chat room.I have felt very isolated since I am English but living in Turkey and there are no resources here to help me. I give thanks to God that at last I have found you as for the last 2 and a half years I have been struggling with this on my own. I found this poem in a book I have had for a long time,but for some reason not read before. I guess it's strange I should find it now. I shared it online at a meeting and kismet urged me to post it on the message board. I hope someone else finds it as inspirational as I did. It made me cry.
To "let go" does not mean to stop caring, It means..I can't do it for someone else.
To "let go" is not to cut myself off, It's the realisation that I can't control another.
To "let go" is to admit powerlessness, Which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To "let go" is not to enable, But to allow learning from natural consequences.
To "let go" is not to try and change or blame another, It's to make the most of myself.
To "let go"is not to judge, But to allow another to be a human being.
To "let go" is not to be in the middle arranging the outcome, But to allow others to affect their own destiny.
To "let go" is not to be protective, It's to permit others to face reality.
To "let go" is not to nag,scold or argue, But to search my own shortcomings and correct them.
To "let go" is not to criticise and regulate, But to become the what I dream I can be.
To "let go" is not to regret the past, But to grow and accept the future.
To "let go" is not to deny, But to accept. To "let go" is to fear less.....AND TO LOVE MORE.
I struggle a bit with all these things but from now on it's one step at a time. Thank you for listening.
I am in Australia so we are miles away by distance but very near by computer. I loved your posting thanks for sharing it with us. We are all here for you anytime of day or night. Luv Leo xx
I heard this at a meeting once and loved it. Still do and it is printing as I write. This is such a great reminder to me for someone who forgets easily lol!!!
