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I just wanted to say that I have a similar situation to you.
My A, I forced to leave the house in september. I too have had an enormous amount of negativity directed to myself and my daughter(she is 4), especially from his family.
My A also wants to come home, but I am also getting stronger and told him no.
I am not going to feel guilty although others are trying to make me feel that way. I must be strong for myself and my daughter.
That's the way to do it tullemars! That's the way! I know it is tough as hell. I think I would rather dig my eyeballs with a spoon than have to deal with some of the things we get faced with, but then again....
It all works out when you trust your HP. It did for me!
My feelings about people who have nothing but negative things to say about me or to me? Why waste my time on them? Negative energy is wasted energy. I don't have to answer to them for my life. I'm not saying that life is always a bowl of cherries. Trust me, I've had my share of pits. But I'm at the stage in my life, that I refuse to look at the glass as half empty. I'd rather see it as half full. So we take baby steps in our recovery. Who cares? We do what we have to do to take care of ourselves and our family. We do what we feel is best.
Good for you and for your daughter. Keep being good to yourself and her. You can do this. You already are.
Live strong, Karilynn
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
What you did is a very hard thing! Good for you! My A now is home, but not because he manipulated his way in, because I made a decision with stipulations. I feel good about that, that this is on my terms for what is healthy for me. I told him that I am a different person and I will tolerate his rudeness or anger. Time will tell. Work hard on yourself and find what you need and want. One of the things my mother told me yesterday was not to let my friends tell me that I am dumb. She went on to say that they are not me and to do what was right for me and my family. If it's right for just right now, that's okay. (she is very wise!) Hang in there.
