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I had a nice weekend, I was off on Monday. On Saturday my husband went out and I handled it very well. I would normal call him all the time to see when he was coming back. I did well I actually called him twice in a couple hour span. I did call someone on my Alanon phone list and talked to her for a while. Then I call some other people which kept me busy and kepting my mind off of the idea that he was out. I was hanging in there. I was so proud of myself for not calling him. I did have the urges but I did very well. So when I did call him he answered the phone.
Another day he went to visit friends that he has known for a long time. They were my friend as well but I haven't known them as long as he has. The one guy used to smoke pot and I really don't want my husband spending time with him. But there is nothing I can do about it. But I don't want him hiding out at these peoples house. I really him tell me where he is going so I don't worry about him. He has told me and I am happy about that. I know though I can't control who he hangs out with but I can hope he makes good judgment. He might decide to go there on Sunday to watch football. I am going to try and but my pride aside and get along with them because I don't want to sit home by myself.
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Hey everyone watch me grow. I go thru good & bad times. each day i am getting stronger.
If I do anything that resembles control my A goes ballistic. He has to be responsible for himself. But it is hard not to worry. My A doesn't even live with me anymore and I worry. It seems to be my problem.
Baby steps, NYCBT, and it is all progress.... way to go!
Try to keep in mind, that IF your hubby is gonna drink again, he will do it, regardless of who he is hanging out with.... You can't control his environment, to keep out all 'risky' people or places for him.... His sobriety is HIS, and your recovery is YOURS.
Take care
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
Good for you. I learned the hard way the only person I controlled was me. It used to drive me crazy when he went out....the constant worry and doubt. It takes along time to be able to trust again once it is broken. Wishing you all the best on your journey.
