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I was in the chatroom the other day when we all started joking around. I was bantering with everyone, and laughing and being silly. One person asked where I lived and I replied TX and FT.W. and we were talking about ice cream and I said I love ice cream , I chase the Blue Bell man! Blue Bell is a brand of ice cream popular in TX. This person said they liked ice cream too and told me they'd meet me at Billy Bob's a country dance place on the north side of FT.W. and I 'jokingly ' replied "what time?" They replied in 2 hrs. The other people in the chatroom were joking that I was next. I said next what? They said wife #4 for this person! I said having trouble? UNFORTUNATELY they were!!! Only I didn't know that , or for that matter that the person was married!!!! Later, he went to call his lady and have lunch. We all told him to have a good lunch and razzed him about making up with her. When he came back from call , he really upset! She had been in the room listening to our conversation and thought I was really "something" to him!
I want to 'publically' apologized to you. I never ever meant any kind of harm to you or your marriage. I never would hurt anyone's marriage, I've been there , done that and it hurts! I've been divorced twice and wouldn't ever want anyone to have to go thru it! I am so sorry if what I joked about hurt you . I hope you will accept my apology and realize that I'm new and was trying to fit in with everyone else! I'm learning a big lesson here, to stand back and listen and watch and make sure I know what's going on before I jump in with my two cents worth! I hope you will forgive me. I hope I don't make you uncomfortable in the chatroom. I have prayed to my HP that he will do what's best for both of you and that you'll forgive me.Thank you for reading this and I hope every thing works out for both of you.
What a heart felt apology. You should be proud of how you are working your program. Accepting our own part in any situation can be painful but once we do, we can learn and grow. Then let go and let your HP do his/her own thing, in his/her own time. Give yourself a great big hug from me...you deserve it. Just keep working on you....your doing great.
Later, he went to call his lady and have lunch. We all told him to have a good lunch and razzed him about making up with her. When he came back from call , he really upset! She had been in the room listening to our conversation and thought I was really "something" to him! 
