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Risks & Focus


 


"Risks and Focus"


How good are you at focusing your attention? It is an extremely valuable


skill, and I would like to talk about it today.


As I talked about yesterday, if we are to grow and reach our full potential,


it is absolutely necessary to take risks. By its very nature, risk implies


the possibility of loss. But at the same time, there is also the possibility


of benefit or gain. Whether a risk feels frightening or exhilarating


depends, almost entirely, on whether you are paying attention to the loss or


the gain.


If you focus on the loss, you will be tense, fearful and uptight, and your


performance will inevitably suffer. Maybe you will back down and decide it's


just not worth it. You will suffer a paralysis of will, and rationalize it


by saying to yourself, "Well, I didn't really want this after all. What I


have is good enough for me."


However, if you focus on the possible benefit and you picture yourself


enjoying success and gain, you will feel excited, even exhilarated. And you


know something? Fear and excitement feel pretty much the same in your body.


It is how you interpret and label them that makes all the difference.


So, the next time there is something you really want, and a risk is attached


(as there usually is), try controlling your mind. While you don't want to


ignore the loss altogether, focus instead on what you have to gain! We call


this deliberate focusing "visualization," and it's a powerful tool that will


help you take the risks you need to take in order to grow.


Lou Tice



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Peggy,


Thank you.   I'm about to so something I'm not to sure of.  That is what I needed to read to taday. THANK YOU prefect timing.


NIKKILOI



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Nikkilou


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Over the years I had gradually become more pessimistic, and it is hard for me to shake this feeling off.  I never used to be like this, but now I look forward to the future and expect dire circumstances.  As a recovering Al-Anon, this attitude is gradually starting to change, but it doesn't happen overnight.  Thinking in terms of risks and gains, rather than loss, is extremely beneficial.  I'm going to save this share.  Thank you.



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