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This morning when my A awoke, the first thing he did was apologize. Haven't we all heard that?????? He had not been attending his meetings lately, and I know that sooner or later when he doesn't attend, he is going to slip. OK I forgave him. I do love this wonderful man with all my heart. He is kind, good, funny, loving...what can I say? Considering the incident and hoping it was a one-time slide which seems bound to happen now and again, I cannot throw away our otherwise lovely life together.
I am always the first one to insist that others stick with their boundaries. Forgive me if just once in a while...just once in a while, I don't practice what I preach.
My special love goes to each of you. You know you are all in my thoughts and prayers. And thanks to those who took the time to answer my cry for help last evening. I honestly appreciate you.
With great caring, Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
Diva, It's hard when the only thing that comes between you and the person you love is alchohol. My A is the same way. I'd move heaven and earth for him and he would do the same for me.
It's okay to slip - we're all human. Keep him close. Be good to yourself.
"Love shall lead us where we need to go."
Live strong, Karilynn
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
oh Diva you are so clear thinking and tell us exactly what you think. I was hoping you wouldn't react in a way that would work against your happiness. Sometimes I do when I feel pressured for time and feel honor-bound to live up to my declaration made under different circumstances. Now you have enough time to think it out. I hope the best for you - please keep posting. Jill
I am sorry that I didn't reply to your topic last night, I don't come to this board very often and I just saw these two posts.
It is so easy to sit and plan what we will do in this event or that event. When we are actually faced with an "event" we typically abandon our "plan" and do what feels right at the moment. Everything has a time, and you will do what you want to when the time is right for you.
Make very certain you are taking care of yourself, treat yourself kindly, and give yourself time to mourn this latest set back. It is your hopes which are being crushed, and you have every right to feel something about that.
