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Well we went to the counselor again tonight. My husband was not drinking and was in good spirits. The kids and I told him what was on our minds. We told him how much we love him, miss him and how much we do want him home and well.
We all decided that we are going to try. I would say one last time, but there have been so many last times over the years.
The counselor helped set everything in motion and my husband is going into detox on Wednesday night. He will be there from three to five days and then he will begin an Intensive Outpatient program at a local rehab. He will be coming home here, right from the detox, and will do the twelve week program from here. He had agreed to the IOP, but the rehab wants the detox as he is over 40, in poor health and actively drinking. I have to admitt I am suprised he has agreed.
I have to admitt I am afraid, and I don't know how things will be, but we decided that as a family all of us, this is the best thing for us. I hope that he is ready, but only time will tell, but in my heart I truly believe that this is the best chance we have, for our marriage, our family and hopefully for his sobriety.
My son drove the kids home after the session and my A and I went for a walk at a park by our house. It was nice, he held my hand and hugged me and told me that he felt good about things, and called it a fresh start. Theres a lot of water under the bridge and kids and a lot of years, I hope it isn't too late for a fresh start, but I know I love him as much or more than always and want him back in our lives.
He just called to day goodnight and while I could hear that he had been drinking, I didn't say anything. I guess only time will tell.
I am not sure if we have made the right decision, but it feels right. My heart and head are in agreement that we have to try again.
Hi Jeannie - Lots of love and prayers for you and your family.
Remember not to hear his words too much but to see his ACTIONS.
He is very fortunate to have so much love from you and the kids. Maybe this is the right time for him. He'll certainly have lots of prayers from us al-anoners.
Love in recovery - Dot (((((((((Jeannie/kids/a)))))))))
Well, they do say - "Don't quit before the miracle".
Your job now is to stay out of the way of his recovery. Keep your own side of the street clean, and leave him to his higher power.
For me, it was so much easier to be compassionate and understanding when I saw that he really was trying. I was again able to see the man I loved standing there, suffering, rather than the monster living in his body who had been lurching through our lives.
I am so happy for you and so jealous at the same time. It brings tears in my eyes just to think your a is giving it a shot, I hope it all works out for you and your family, you deserve it.
This is great news that your husband is willing to seek recovery. Now is the time to really work on you. If you don't attend face to face meetings it's time to start. If you don't have a sponsor it's time to get one. If you haven't worked the steps it's time to begin. If you work on you while he works on him, in the end you could both be much healthier spiritually than ever before. Just as anyone else in an alcoholic/addict relationship I am sure you have resentments........we all do. Working the steps will help you let those resentments go so this truley can be a fresh start for all of you. Good Luck!
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~*I trust my Higher Power that I am exactly where I am supposed to be in my life today.*~
Holly don't feel jealouse, him and I have been down this road before, and it hasn't worked, he wasn't ready. Only time will tell if this time will be different. I'm not ready to walk away, so I have to try again.
I hope and pray that this time he truly means it, but if he doesn't I will go from there. "One day at a time." For right now I have butterflies in my stomach, a smile on my face and a little hope for the future.
I am glad that you are doing so well. Hope is a good thing to have and I think that the butterflys are good to because it keeps us aware of the situation rather than easily falling into old habbits.
I send hugs your way Jeannie. You are so strong and brave. I am enthralled each time I read a post of yours whether it is positive or negative, because in my heart I know you and your lovely children will land on your feet. The kids cannot help but be ok with you for a Mom. Most sincerely, Diva
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