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I am so new. Took a day off work so I could go to a face to face group yesterday, but all the groups in a 30 mile radius are either when I am supposed to be at work or too late at night... 7pm, an hour away from my home. So, I turn to the miracle of the internet? My father is a dry A (but wasn't in my life hardly at all). I thought, "whew, I dodged that bullet!" Until my now-adult daughter contracted the disease. She has a diagnosis of Aspbergers syndrome, (which is autism, but high-functioning.) Like, she doesn't bang her head on the wall, but she also doesn't connect with people, and will go on forever about dinosaurs or origami cranes- Hyper focussed. She is on SSI and multiple depression meds. She is drinking drastically, and I am stuck in RAGE, because I feel like I can't do anything to make things better for me. I can't kick her out, because she's mentally ill as well as sick with A. Rage is bad. I know this, I just don't know the way out of it. I guess I could leave rather than be around her behavior, but isn't that just another way that she controls me? Do I cheerfully say, honey, your behavior is really making me angry right now, please go to your room? augh. thanks for listening.
I worked with the handcap adluts. Are you getting services to help you with your daughters mentally ills like restpike care. Most state will help you have a time out form her witch you may need to get your rage under control just an ideal. I know that with a handcapped daughter of my own that I need time a way to think, take a bath, go to the store. My daughter has Cri-Du-Chat syndonme.
I'm new here too, and would like to take the time to welcome you. Like you, F2F meetings are a hard thing for me to do, do to other obligations that MUST be met, however the miracle of the internet helped me to quit smoking after 16yrs so I am all for it. Keep coming back.........
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Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!
Welcome to this group. I came here 4 years ago at the end of my rope. I am also from a family of alcholics. I can't even begin to tell you what this group has given me. I certainly don't live in ideal circumstances.
If you choose to stick around you will learn detachment, focusing on what you can do and learning to look within for resources.
Meetings are a definite challenge for many of us. I have the same issue with meetings being pretty far for me to get to. I contend with that and so do others. Nevertheless we can certainly work a program. We can also get a sponsor, my sponsor is actually someone who lives many miles for me and I comunicate with her by email. She is not available at the moment due to life circumstances.
You can learn to live with what is in your life and not go crazy with frustration and rage. It is possible. There are many people on this board who have lived through lots of crises. Maybe no one has the exact same stress as you but we have all dealt with impossible situations. You are in the right place. Welcome.
Welcome to MIP. Many people here are very supportive and caring. I'm fairly new to this group myself actually. My A fiance is also bipolar. It's hard having an A who also suffers from mental illness. It helps me to remember that both are diseases. They can try to control them as best as they can but it dosen't always work out that way. I try to support my A as best as possible without enabling him or nagging. Detatchment does help but it's not always an easy thing to do. I wish you luck!
