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As you all know I live in a place where I am constantly intruded up on by other people who live in the house. Last night this one person knocked on my door twice to ask me some stupid question about the laundry. I have put notes on my door to say do not knock and she rips them off. This other person who is a total psychopath is supposed to leave this week. He has not packed one thing and is making a huge mess in the interim. He has started back on his screaming and shouting routine. I get up at 5:00 a.m to go to work so I go to bed early and it really upsets me when I am woken up regularly by these people. The other day I could not even get out the front door because the psychopath had it blocked up with his junk. Instead of packing things he seems to be bringing stuff into the house.
I have complained to the landlord till I am blue in the face to the point of going down late at night to the manager's house and waking her up. Nothing changes. Nothing changes Nothing changes. This week the owner told me the psychopath is leaving and I said I will believe it when I see it.
The issue is that this is now affecting my health. I am holding out hoping I can move to another house to a better place. My credit is smashed to pieces by the A's actions. I have an unlawful detainer on my hands after the A refused to move out from our last place. I am not a good match for looking for an apartment. I have put out a lot of feelers about places but I never get too far. I am going to start going and networking but all that takes time and I am absolutely exhausted most of the time anyways.
I feel defeated by the mess in my house. I feel defeated trying to have boundaries around people who simply won't hear of them much like the A didn't. I feel defeated by not having a path through my debt. I am afraid to answer the phone in case it is a creditor and I know that comes across when I am looking for work.
Al lthis mess with my housing was one reason I did not want to leave the A. I knew all I could afford was this. I also did not think I could take on the dogs and cats. I know I am so lucky to have them but my stress is on the ceiling with the constant unremitting harassment I get from the psychopath and the crazy woman who will not stop banging on my door.
oh dang Marisie, I am so sad this is happening. If you are reading or sleeping use earplugs. Ignore her. The longer you ignore her, the better.
Get some head phones for the tv.
Have you tried to find a place and talk to other landlords? Many landlords look at the situations of a person.
I am not the only one. Keep the faith. It is horribly hard to be a single woman alone! I know you are nervous, but lady maybe now you are ready to put an add on Craigslist saying what you need as far as living conditions in your private room.
As far as your leaving A,hon this would have come sooner or later anyway. you are doing very well for what you came out of!
Think about ya all the time.Keep an eye out for your posts.
My dog Pepi barks like crazy when people hammer on the door. She is really an incredible nuisance who everyone complains about. I do not even want to go into what the latest thing the psychopath did. I am sick to death of it.
I have done the ignore thing, I put a notice up on my door. i am going to do that again.
I am fed up to the back teeth of living in poverty.
I think my health is about to totally collapse from the strain of this last year. I will end up in the hospital. I now have high blood pressure. I did not have that before. I am absolutely totally exhausted from standing on my head at work, at home and trying to make ends meet. I simply am unable to take one more stressor at this time.
I wish I had one person who was "there" for me in some way but right now I have absolutely no one.
