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Seeing the Difference


A few years back I when my grandmother passed away, I remember my then active husband was so wrapped up in his disease that he was not there for any support.  For years I resented him for it and made it a point to make sure he knew just how much he wasnt there for me then yada yada.  After many years of recovery and working on me I learned to let go of that resentment and forgave my husband for what he could not do under the guise of this disease.

Fast-forward to 7 AM this morning.  My mother called to tell me that my aunt (who has been a favorite) passed away yesterday.  It was very unexpected and a big shock.  My now recovering husband didnt even bat an eye this morning when he took over the morning routine with the kids, checked on me often to see how I was or if I needed anything, and just did what I guess normal people do.

While I am very saddened by the lose in my life, I can help but be thankful and grateful for all that I have gained by way of this program.  I know that as I move forward over the next few days & months of greiving that my husband will be there by my side.
Karen



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Firstly, I am sorry for your loss.
Secondly, I am so happy that you have reached that point in your life with your husband. You have come a long way, I'm sure. I bet your realize that eventhough your journey has been long and difficult at times, look where you are today.



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Please know I extend my deepest sympathies to you and yours during your time of berevement. Please keep us posted as to how things are going and what you will and do need during your time of grief.
I am glad that I/we can be here for you during this time. please do not hesitate to contact us.

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(((((((((((((((Karen))))))))))))))))))))),

I am so sorry for the loss of your Aunt.  What a gift that you had this wonderful lady in your life.

However, WOW!!!! so cool that E backed you up 100%.  You must be on a high.  I have cherished being part of your recovery and am so happy for your successes along this journey.

I'm here for you if ya need.
Love ya,
Maria

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(((Karen)))

So very sorry for the loss of your Aunt. What a blessing that your hubby is there for you.

I'll be praying for you and your family.

Take care of yourself.

Love and Blessings,

Claudia

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So very sorry for your loss, but what a story of HOPE to know that you husband is by your side all the way.

Sent with love and prayer for all of you as you mourn your loss, take care. Continue to take one day at a time. Great recovery.

Heart

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ala, thank you for your post which demonstrates that it works if we work it! Please keep sharing your successes with us, we need to hear this! Hugs, J.

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