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Hi Gang, I just found out I am a veteran member. My how time and posts do fly. I only have a moment but I do hope people will post to this because I can check from work and get encouragement. I am really nervous because I have a big test on Friday. It is a 2 month self study test for a certificate in my field of work. The best way to describe it is I can put some more initials after my signature at the bottom of an email or letter. And I will get this beautiful plaque that I so dearly desire. It is funny because "before" in my sickness I never thought I could even attempt something so hard or would have tried. I would knock myself down before anyone else had the chance too. I was always putting myself down in a joking way. Now i can still joke in fun but watch out if anyone "makes fun of me". I treasure who I am today and I am very aware that nobody has the right treat me in a unfair or rude manner. I seem to be more quick to judge though, I don't put up with as much and I also do tend to notice things that I would have just overlooked before because I was just so grateful you would be my friend or spend time with me. Now, I am much more careful who I spend my time with. It may sound predjudiced of others but I think it is more just self preservation. LIfe is short and I don't want to waste it today. I spent way to much time in my life with unhealthy people who didn't help me and I doubt very much whether I helped them either. Today I am around positive people and I am positive in return to them.
I hope all of you have a positive and uplifting day. Bella
I agree that unhealthy people are bad to be around and it's great that you are aware of it. It's funny how you will pick up real fast on those people...I've been running into a few myself. You are a positive person and it's great that you can see that in yourself. You are wonderful!! I really hope you get that plaque chickie...be proud! I'm off to have my positive day. ;)
I think there is a difference between being judgmental and using good judgment. I know I felt that way too in the beginning because I had always let everything slide. In reality, being judgmental is about making judgments about others not for yourself. As long as you say to each his own and he can smoke crack all he wants that's not my problem that's not judgmental, that's detached. I don't think there is anything wrong with being around people you want to be like and avoiding those you don't that's just using good judgment.
Bella, it's good to hear you sounding so positive! Whenever I find myself anxious about an upcoming event, I have to remind myself to replace fear with faith, faith that God is watching over me and things will turn out as they should.
Keeping you in my prayers, and let us know how things went!
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"If a dog will not come to you after having looked you in the face, you should go home and examine your conscience." - Woodrow Wilson
