The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
It's a simple formula; do your best and somebody might like it. --Dorothy Baker
We're never guaranteed success by others' standards. However, if we do our best according to the standards we think God has in mind, we'll be successful. And from God we'll always receive unconditional love and acceptance.
In the past many of us were haunted by fears that our best wasn't good enough. And not infrequently those fears hindered our performance, thus validating our fears. We can slip back into those immobilizing fears if we don't attend, with vigilance, to the program and its suggestions.
Our higher power will help us do whatever task lies before us. And no task will be ours except those for which we've been readied. Our job is simply to go forth, taking God as our partner, and set about completing the task. We will not falter if we remember where our strength rests, where the guidance lies.
Self-esteem is one of the byproducts of a job done with God's help. An additional byproduct is that we learn more quickly to rely on God's direction and strength the next time, thus reducing the time we give to fear.
I can be successful today, in every endeavor, if I let God manage my moves
I didn't realize how "spritually agitated and off center" I was until I sat in class and was like "If this prof does not shut up, for god sake and for the well being of all those involved, I will KILL HIM!" This reading pointed out to me that when I am spiritually bankrupt the most I need folks like you. I know I'm making progress because my usual action is to suffer in the pain and let my insane thoughts go round and round with "No one will truly understand. No one will truly get it. They have a life besides. Its not fair for me to burden them with my needs. To do this to them." Now, when any other member of MIP AFG has reached out for help, it has done me the most good to take 5 and listen to them. Even if at the end of the day all I did was listen to them share, I was the one that benefitted. Somehow, however,the logic doesn't flow both ways. I'm also seeing my spiritual exhaustion has translated into emotional bankruptcy, which of course is taking it's toll on me physically. I'm tight all over (and yeah, getting on the treadmill would be a smart move, but it's like, well, so sore to move? I know I've heard some of our marathoners talk about the feeling here; you'll feel better AFTER, but it's GETTING there), and it's like "NO ONE. TALK. TO ME. PLEASE. Thank you ever so much." Marge, some of you remember her, and I talked last night. Her husband Thom who negotiates prices for the USAF for whatever they need (from toilet paper to sheet metal, Thom's the man), gently pointed out to me that, if Dad persues legal whatevers, ultimately, the legal system will give him the kinda look. It'll be like "Wait, so your daughter goes through therapy to deal with these issues you're trying to file a legal brief for, becuase you're convinced that your daughter has mental health issues because of these issues she's in therapy for. Have we got the situation right? Because, really, it seems as if she's not the one that needs therapy any more. " Thom also observed that, worst comes to worst and I show up in court, I have no real secrets. "So, you go to al anon? Oh, good! They know what you're dealing with. They're smart people. So you're going to AA? Good! keep it up. Alright. Have a nice day! *judge waves bye bye*" Marge agreed, saying that the legal system isn't as frightening as it seems; they will be pretty explicit if I'm expected to be somewhere, and I will be told exactly what is expected of me if I'm to do something at sometime. And in the meantime, like all of you have echoed (thanks so much guys, I really can't say it enough, and I do mean it), just pray. Keep coming around. And share. Don't assume that being "the pillar of strength" earns me brownie points in heaven. Silent suffering is martyrdom, not sanity. Thanks again guys, for everything. I mean it. ((Mip Afg))
Ya know.....I think IF your Father tells anyone he needs protection, a normal reaction by anyone would be "why does this guy think he needs protection? " Is there any validity? No matter what his answer, someone will question it.
The other thing is...These are all scenerios so far. He hasn't done anything yet right? He may never. It might just be a scare tactic or a demented way of trying to drive a point home. Like, you will believe this never happened if I go THAT far.
The really amusing thing is if he/they do anything in court it will draw attention to what he is trying to protect himself from. Karma may just bite em in the butt.
Keep in mind too that nothing may ever become of the threats. In which case it's OK to be mentally prepared but don't panic, OK?
(((hugs)))) Christy
*edited to make sence..lol
-- Edited by Christy at 13:20, 2007-11-01
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If we think that miracles are normal, we will expect them. And expecting a miracle is the surest way to get one.
kinda look. It'll be like "Wait, so your daughter goes through therapy to deal with these issues you're trying to file a legal brief for, becuase you're convinced that your daughter has mental health issues because of these issues she's in therapy for. Have we got the situation right? 
Because, really, it seems as if she's not the one that needs therapy any more. 
" Thom also observed that, worst comes to worst and I show up in court, I have no real secrets. "So, you go to al anon? Oh, good! They know what you're dealing with. They're smart people. So you're going to AA? Good! keep it up. Alright. Have a nice day! *judge waves bye bye*" Marge agreed, saying that the legal system isn't as frightening as it seems; they will be pretty explicit if I'm expected to be somewhere, and I will be told exactly what is expected of me if I'm to do something at sometime. 