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Hello again to everyone. OK so we planned the little get together for Sunday (yesterday). Not an intervention but to for the family to talk to My AH. The plan was to see what his reaction would be after everyone spoke. Well the day before (Saturday) He called me from work and said he would like to talk about us when he gets home. I told him I'd be here. so he got home and we talked for a very long time. Once again he told me how he doesn't want this marriage to end and that he doesn't want to lose his family. He FINALLY admitted that he DOES have a problem and he his willing to do ANYTHING to quit drinking. Now..he has said that before that he would quit. the only difference this time is that I'm not the one making him quit. I'm not telling him you quit or I leave. This time is was on his own. SO to me that's a big deal. I have been doing really good at taking care of myself and I think he sees that. Now I'm not going to get to excited quite yet, but i think this is a start. There is a chance. We still had our get together and I did warn him before hand. I thought he was going to be uspet. He wasn't. He actaully prepared dinner for everyone instead. The talking was great!. Lots of crying though. lol. I'm going to continue on my recovery as he does his and hope for the best. Thanks to everyone here for all your support. ((((EVERYONE)))
Changed attitudes may aid recovery. If he does get with a program and grows, if you grow too you can grow together.
If he relapses, then you have your recovery.
Bottom line is that nothing but good can come out of working on recovery and seeing the good in yourself.
I'd pray he gets sober this time but I don't try to pray for specific results. I will pray that both of you are able to have your paths revealed to you with clarity and that you travel that road.
Bob
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(((Sg)), Wow. How great is that? This may not be it, but sounds like a seed has been planted. When my "A" was working a program and he would say that all he had to do was ruin the other persons high. He said it doesn't matter if they stay clean, the high will never be the same again once they see there is a different way.
I truly hope all goes well for you. I would like to say ditto to what Bob posted.
Keep working on you.
Yours in recovery, Mandy
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"We are not punished for our unforgiveness, we are punished by it" Jim Stovall
That's an excellant start for him. I agree with bobump, if you work a program and get yourself better it will help aide him. My ah saw that I was healing and growing and becoming positive in life in general and he wanted what I was getting. So please work a program. It sounds like you are not setting yourself up which is really good, keep faith. There is hope. ;) Sometimes that's all we need to go on. Good luck. I'm very happy for you. ^i^
