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i just need to share that im feeling crazy. i have anger and i need help. there are some old freinds staying with us and i feel i am losing my serenity. my hubby who is normally silent, broody and distant, is very animated in this womans company. he is a different person. it makes me feel wierd and disconnected to be around him like this, he's talking about his meditation and joy at the love he experiences from god in a very enthusiastic way, arms flying, belly laughing etc. the woman of the visiting couple is very gushy, she talks about love and feeling the vibrations of this place, or how wonderfully changed she finds me etc, etc! i don't feel changed.... also she uses lots of jargon from healing, one technique she uses is tapping, so if i say i feel anything she wants to use this tapping to 'shift' the feeling. i find it an invasion of my space. there's a lot of talk about spirituality but there's no peace. everything has to be amazing and fabulous and for me it is all too hysterical. i feel like saying calm down. i'm getting angry and i think that the more i want space from her the more gushy and frantically posative she gets! esh anyone?
Can you get away for a bit. Maybe go for a walk or something. It sounds like it would be hard to think straight with all that going on. I hate it when people are phony like this woman sounds. If you could get away for a bit, maybe you can have a chance to figure out how to come up with an enforcable boundary that you can lay down. I get very mad when I feel like i am being overwhelmed by someone personally.
Hang in there. Hope they are not staying too long.
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
Gushing and exclaiming are one thing, but if someone wanted to "tap" me I'd feel it was intrusive. Listen to your gut, don't "endure" it and shut down. Like Jen says, take a walk, get some space, get your mind on your own brand of "spirituality".
My A was always either very religious or downright "bad", it was like watching a chameleon change colors. I felt nauseated watching him with Pentacostal friends, b/c I 'knew' he was telling them what they wanted to hear. If only they knew! I thought it was very unfair to them.
I find it very hard to just "ignore" that kind of stuff as well. It smacks of poor boundaries and false comraderie, and if you don't play along . . . pffft. Yuk, I'm with ya there.
Be good to YOU and "visualize" them going home soon :D
Kim
ETA: You aren't crazy at all, your instincts are just making a lot of "noise" in protest.
thank you so much guys! thats all i needed a bit of validation... yes i will immerse my self in my steps and enjoy surrendering. walks like a dog....ha ha that gave me a giggle! even as i type the commenting and interfering is constant. 3 more days!
