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well i thought i was going to my alanon meeting tonight while he went to his..... our five year old had kindergarten orientation tonight at 6:45. the meetings started at 8:00. we got out of there at 8:09~ and that was fine with me i didnt even worry about the meeting till i got in the car and thought about the time. he was hungry (didnt eat work work work, came home took quick shower and we were off to orientation) and i wanted to get to the meeting. tried to go but the baby (she will be two in october) DID NOt want to let me go! so i was a little frustrated but what can i do about it now? the things i am glad for are the fact that i was so worried before i left my a about how my five year old would be starting school with all the drinking and drama that was going on. i have to be grateful for the fact in such a little period of time, a miracle has happened and the feeling that every thing is going to be ok dawned on me at the orientation. the bulletin board had welcome class of 2020 and my heart dropped. and then they had us stand and do the pledge and i started crying. THANK GOD for letting this little girl start school without a bunch of drama going on at home. she can actually go to school to learn with a fresh start. As it should be! as for the getting to f2f meetings, im gonna go talk to hubby now. i love this place! (this online group)
__________________ frazzled~sometimes!! its getting better one day at a time
Good for you Frazzled, being able to see through the fog and see that by both you taking care of yourselves are making in your daughters life. That she can start school just thinking about school not what is going on at home is HUGE!! Iknow jugling it all is hard at times but it will calm down and you will get a routine that work for you. Seems like you HP is shinning on you. thanks for the reminder that I need to look for the good. ) Mindful
Frazzled, my children are 7,6,6 and the Alcoholic chaos was really bad when they were 18 months and five month old twins (I hated that they heard alot) I got him out of the house and he came back in and out because I had not caught on to the BS of an alcoholic and was in love with the idea of a family unit. Long story short. I know what you mean about raising children with the calm. I figured out that's what it's ALL about. His problem no longer mattered, my "dreams" no longer mattered. What did matter was protecting these innocent babies that did not ask for a sick parent. Enjoy what you have. I know we never know when things could change for the worse. Life with an alcoholic is so unpredictable. It's very touchy when dealing with children and an alcoholic. Stay with this board. This is all I had (besides individual counseling) and they really really help you understand. Good luck hun. Keep those babies safe :) ^i^
Absolutely! Sometimes when my monkey mind really gets going . . . or there ARE crappy things happening beyond my control, I sort of stop and start thanking HP for the lovely cool weather (with sunshine, no less) or just watch the animals doing their "thing", or even say affirmations. Just to knock the negativity aside.
There have been times that I could not do it on my own and I brought my yukky mess here and had loving help clearing it out with support from this group. Every time it happens I'm still surprised at how easy it is to let go of crap and get reoriented when I turn to Alanon.
Great post, and I know that blessed little "voice" or whatever it is that tells me it's all going to be just fine. It's more of a feeling than a thought, and it doesn't mean life won't be hard or awful at times, just what it says . . . everything is going to be just fine. I'll take it!
