The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Should you shield the valleys from the windstorms, you would never see the beauty of their canyons. --Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Time teaches us about the twofold connection of suffering and wisdom. For every loss, we've gained something new. We are learning that our pain makes us wise over time, but while we are in its midst we often feel alone and entrapped. We sometimes can make no sense out of our suffering - neither its depth nor its seeming unfairness - and we may even turn our backs on our Higher Power. We've only survived the darkness by stumbling through it each day. But in recovery we have gradually allowed ourselves to accept comfort from others, and their words help us in times of desolation.
We are learning that some pains can't be healed, but instead must be endured until they run their course. Sometimes the only hope we have is the deep knowledge that our Higher Power will give us no more than we can handle today. With His help and comfort, we can endure and find peace.
Today let me trust that - even though it may feel painful - my recovery has begun.
just what i needed to hear, thank you. even though i use my books etc it is always great to hear the program from another perspective. i'm working on forgiveness..... well-, i'm aware that i've been still resenting stuff that happened in our marriage before i entered the program. there was quite a bit of crazy behaviour before i learned the wonderfull alanon wisdom..... like, 'remove the body'...or....'if you don't know what to do, do nothing'! i learned to set boundaries, i learned about defining unacceptable behaviour, i learned that i deserved safety in my home as a basic right. all these things have transformed my life yet i'm quick to blame my husband and quick to anger. now i have become aware that this is because i still resent what he did back then, and i resent that i took it! i just couldn't figure out how the mess kept happening and i tried to make it better in every way i could. better for him!!!! when i started making it better for me, everything changed for the whole family. things are still odd at times but much improved overall. so now i am willing for god to help me let go of this blaming and resenting .......maybe i too will be a little wiser as a result of this suffering. thanks again!
