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I used to come to this message board alot....but haven't been here in quite awhile. A little history...my A is recovering 18 years now and he, for once, isn't my "issue". He actually has been quite an asset to this challenge I've come upon.
I have a new job. I've been there for about 5 weeks. Very small office. Actually, I work alone for about 4 hours which is very nice. For the last part of my day I work with a man who is very obviously an alcoholic. He has all the tendencies. I know I can't change the way he is and I CAN change how I react to him. To be very blunt, this man is an @$$ in the biggest sense of the word. Some days he's just fine and then other days he is impossible to work with! Very moody and inconsistant. AND a big kiss up where the boss is concerned. I had pneumonia and was very sick for one week at work and off last week. My boss was just a doll about it, but as it IS a very small office when one person is gone the other two people have to pick up the slack and that can cause a problem. My co worker came in yesterday (my first day back since being off) and was a total CREEP! I won't go into all the crap I dealt with, but at one point I was crying and told him I had to take a minute and started to walk out of the room and he followed me just pressing more. *sigh* I know not to be confrontational with him and I am being very professional. My husband suggested that his behavior is my "punishment" for being out last week. As long as yesterday was it, then I'll deal with it. But one issue is that I am supposed to be asking this person when I have questions and when I asked him yeseterday he made it abundantly clear that I was being a a "burden" to him, even though he was listening to his radio and humming and being perfectly polite to anyone else he encountered. (we have some workers that come in and out of the office) Anyway, for the most part I'm venting. For the other "part" I'm a little befuddled as the "correct" way to handle this. I don't want to be construed as a trouble maker or anything when that is actually not at all what I am. This is a tough situation. Any thoughts would be most welcome. And I'm sure I've been a little vague and if I can fill in any details to make this clearer, please let me know. Thanks!
I've had alcoholic bosses and worked with others who were obviously alcoholic. The only good thing I have to say about that is that I always knew where to find them. There was a restaurant/bar on the first floor of the building!!
Sorry you're going through all this. I suffered a lot before I got into Alanon and learned how to do what I call "friendly detachment" on the job. Sometimes if it didn't work for me, I had to move on.
This job is new so you might want to give it a chance. Each time a new person comes in, there's a change and most people don't seem to want change. Sometimes I believe they'll give you a rough time just to "try you out."
If you continue to be friendly and professional, it might work out for you. I hope it will.
I would say talk to the boss. You don't really have much of an option being the new kid on the block. I would keep your eye out in case a different job popped up. You might decide that leaving and working in a better atmosphere would be best for you. If the office is as small as you say, why would you want to stay there anyway? Good luck whatever you decide. ^i^
