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Do i enjoy pain? ** Update



Yes, she did TRY to go stripping.... it only yeilded her 4 dollars, and a lifetime of humiliation.  I went to check on her at her house, and she told me that she was getting sober (yet again) and going to try once more. I want to believe her soo badly, and i want to take her to meetings every day, and i want to call her all the time. but i cant.  I have learned, through my program, that i need to let her do it on her own.  I am trying to practice "loving from a distance". It's hard.  But when i get in a funk, i call another alcoholic. (yea, im an A too!)  That helps. 

I want her to instantly wake up and be done. I want everything to be normal again.  I know thats not going to happen, so i ask god to take away my fears and make me into who he wants me to be.

Thanks for being here, it helps me alot.smile

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Aloha Roger!!

Another part of my recovery story.  Thanks for the reminder that the program really does work when I rely on it and all that I have been led to.  Compassion helped.  Feeling sorry with her was much more supportive than feeling sorry for her.  And HP is real; really real and can, will and does much better with the outcomes than I ever imagined I could.  No force, just surrender and abandonment.  I let myself be carried and the journey only reveals one set of footprints.   The opposite of fear is faith and truely..."acceptance is the solution to all of my problems."

I'll hang on with you.

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