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I got this idea from Friendofyours - great idea by the way! I have thought of some questions and thought I would post them. You don't have to answer if you don't want to, I just thought I would post and see what responses (if any) that I get. Well here are some questions I thought of that would help us to get to know each other too...
1) Who is/are the A (alcoholic(s)) that you are affected by? 2) How old are you? 3) What country are you from? 4) What made you come here? 5) Does your A know that you are on this board? 1) If they do, how do they feel about it? 2) If they do not, why do they not know? 3) If they do not, do you plan on letting them know? 6) Do you have someone you can get support from ouside the board?
Feel free to add questions if you would like, hehe.
1) Who is/are the A (alcoholic(s)) that you are affected by? My husband of seven years 2) How old are you? 35 3) What country are you from? United States/Florida 4) What made you come here? Obviously living with an addict. lol and I can't get out to go to f2f meetings. 5) Does your A know that you are on this board? yes 1) If they do, how do they feel about it? he doesn't care. 2) If they do not, why do they not know? he doesn't control me so I do what I want. ;) 3) If they do not, do you plan on letting them know? I would, I'm an adult. 6) Do you have someone you can get support from ouside the board? I probably could but I'm pretty strong headed on my own and know right from wrong so I handle things alone. I'm my own best support.
1.) I left my "A" husband seven months ago. 2.) I just turned 50 on July 26th. 3.) United States/Ohio 4.) Married to an alcoholic...and I also couldn't get out to go to f2f because his parents are very well known people in the itty bitty town we lived in, and God forbid if the world knew their son followed in his daddy's footstep in that area! That just couldn't happen. So rather than embarrass the family...I left. 5.) I didn't tell him anything about the M.I.P. board until well after a year... 6.) It didn't change anything for the better because it just didn't matter...His beer/whiskey/pain pills/ came first in his life and that was that! 7.) I'm where I am for the past seven months because my prayers were an- swered....no if's, and's or but's, about it! And even tho we will be going thru with a divorce, we still talk on the phone and I'm grateful for that. I don't hate him...I hate the lifestyle he's not willing to even "TRY" to change.
-- Edited by afmom03 at 02:41, 2007-08-05
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Today, I am grateful to be on the path of dealing with my life and continuing to grow truly stronger.
1) Who is/are the A (alcoholic(s)) that you are affected by? My Father, growing up. And more recently a friend in recovery. 2) How old are you?36 3) What country are you from?Scotland 4) What made you come here?Joined the Fellowship, and was curious if there was online Al-anon. 5) Does your A know that you are on this board? Yes 1) If they do, how do they feel about it?Encouraging me to get help. 2) If they do not, why do they not know? 3) If they do not, do you plan on letting them know? 6) Do you have someone you can get support from ouside the board? Yes, been in Al-anon f2f 20 months, have lots of support and making lots of friends, who "Understand" me and love me for who I am..lol
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Great Idea guys....Maybe if we done this more often, It would give people who "Dont" post a chance to start.....
1) Who is/are the A (alcoholic(s)) that you are affected by? my dad (sober, not thanks to AA) and my H 2) How old are you? middle of life years 3) What country are you from? usa 4) What made you come here? came here cause I was desperate for some ESH 5) Does your A know that you are on this board? yes, but he does walk behind me often to see what i'm doing 1) If they do, how do they feel about it? doesn't mind 2) If they do not, why do they not know? n/a 3) If they do not, do you plan on letting them know? n/a 6) Do you have someone you can get support from ouside the board? i have a sponsor and regularly attend alanon meetings 2-3 times a week
1) Who is/are the A (alcoholic(s)) that you are affected by? Stepfather (passed away in 1996) and exbf (together for 19 years - ended last month) 2) How old are you? 48 3) What country are you from? USA/Delaware 4) What made you come here? Began to attend f2f mtgs, then, because I'm a computer geek wannabe, looked online for support and was blessed by finding this board. 5) Does your A know that you are on this board? No 1) If they do, how do they feel about it? 2) If they do not, why do they not know? Right now, his thoughts are pablum. He probably wouldn't understand, and if he did, would say it was stupid. 3) If they do not, do you plan on letting them know? No - while the relationship was the catalyst, this board is not about him. 6) Do you have someone you can get support from ouside the board? Yes - f2f meetings and friends who have been in Alanon for years.
-- Edited by mhgal at 15:37, 2007-08-05
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Vocatus atque non vocatus, Deus aderit ("Bidden or not bidden, God is present") - Erasmus
1) Who is/are the A (alcoholic(s)) that you are affected by? Grandfather, Father, Ex-wife, et al! 2) How old are you?44
3) What country are you from? US OF A/Texas
4) What made you come here? Live in Town with one alanon meeting a week, I needed a lot more than that!!! I was looking on internet for online help and was guided to this site.
5) Does your A know that you are on this board? Ex-Wife was still around when I started, so I suppose she might.
1) If they do, how do they feel about it? I couldn't care less...lol 2) If they do not, why do they not know? 3) If they do not, do you plan on letting them know?
6) Do you have someone you can get support from ouside the board? Oh yes! 2 ftf groups that I attend weekly and my alanon family all over the world.
7) Do you think this web site has been a help to your recovery?Yes! Between the chat room and this board I have learned so very much about the family disease of alcholism, about who I am and about who I want to be. And I have made some of the most wonderful friends I have ever known.
1) Who is/are the A (alcoholic(s)) that you are affected by? My common-law ex is my A (or is that ex-common-law? Common ex-law??) 2) How old are you? 42 3) What country are you from? Good ole USA 4) What made you come here? Pain, desperation and hope 5) Does your A know that you are on this board? I've told him 1) If they do, how do they feel about it? He told me online Alanon was about the most ridiculous thing he'd ever heard of and that we were probably a bunch of morons avoiding working a REAL program 2) If they do not, why do they not know? 3) If they do not, do you plan on letting them know? 6) Do you have someone you can get support from ouside the board? Yes, and hope to find more and more as time goes by!
Wow, I wasn't expecting responses! Thanks for the support and encouragement of me posting this. I also did it in hopes of seeing if there were any other people like me here. I will now post my answers to my own questions:
1) Who is/are the A (alcoholic(s)) that you are affected by? My mom and her boyfriend but my mom is more why I am here. 2) How old are you? 20 and 6 months from 21 (drinking age) 3) What country are you from? USA 4) What made you come here? i don't remember but im glad i did 5) Does your A know that you are on this board? Yes 1) If they do, how do they feel about it? they are okay with it, even supportive. 2) If they do not, why do they not know? 3) If they do not, do you plan on letting them know? 6) Do you have someone you can get support from ouside the board? yeah but it doesn't always feel as if i do.
I have thought of some questions and thought I would post them. You don't have to answer if you don't want to, I just thought I would post and see what responses (if any) that I get. Well here are some questions I thought of that would help us to get to know each other too...
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