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It must be almost 2 months since I've had time to read the posts on this board, let alone update you all on my situation with my ex A b/f
My relationship with my ex has been (this may sound corny) SPECTACULAR!! As you may remember, I decided to set some rules in our relationship and those "rules" have truly rekindled our friendship into something amazing. I still havent let my guard down, but it is much more relaxed than it had been.
I see my ex at least 3 or 4 times a week... whether its for a few hours a day or 10 hours or even going away on the weekends together. We are having a BLAST. I think the time we spent apart was greatly needed, by both of us. Now that we are back together, "as friends" its like our relationship started all over, this time though without all the headaches. We enjoy each others company so much. He has been introduced to my children and they just adore him. We go to their sporting events or away to the beach for the weekend with my kids. They have really taking a liking to their moms "friend" and I think he likes them too!!
We're still taking things day by day and quite honestly enjoying one anothers company tremendously! The main thing is that he's still sober and doing really well with it. If he wasnt sober, I dont think he'd be back in my life... I cant go through all that again with him or any relationship I may be involved with in the future.
Maybe we werent meant to be together as a couple..... maybe instead we were meant to be best friends. Thats the route this relationship is taking. We've blocked out the past (all the ups and downs due to his dependency) and concentrate on just one day at a time.
Even though alcoholism is often classified as a disease... with proper support and guidance, an A can conquer anything thats put in front of them. Never give up on an alcoholic. My friend is proof that things can turn around!!
I thank God for giving him a second chance to live a happy and healthy life... without the drugs and alcohol. May your loved ones all be blessed with the same gift from God.
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Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want, doesn't mean that they don't love you the best way they know how
