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This morning I am numb. Last night I let my son use my car to cash his pay check. I was hesitant because it had smoked and I needed to get it looked at. I said to him, just go to the bank because it was smoking. Went out to finish mowing my lawn and showed my sis how to use my riding mower...( it can be fun) and we mowed for awhile, until I realized my son should have been back. I called his friends cell phone and friend said..."your not going to like this...he has been arrested, your car is impounded....he is on his way to jail..seems they had gone to the burger joint in town and when they left my car had smoked and they were pulled over. my son had a suspended license (what?) and when they searched him they found pot(what?!!!!)...so then they search my car and found 100 vicodin ( which are a pain pill) (((OMG!!!!!)))))...can you say rubber legs?... I got a ride to my car which was just be loaded onto the tow truck (you don't pass go now...tow bill for after hours and maybe 1 mile tow $267.00) and the police called and said we could bail son out ...son got on the phone and said get the money from friend and please come and get me ...so we did get him out of jail...we got my car back....which he has paid for..I put my house up for colladeral(sp) which I think will be all right..but one never knows with and A do they? I am wondering why I played an active roll in this bail out too. I never have before... There is this one detail that sickens me...Where in the heck in this small little town where I live did he get the vicodin? Well while I was out mowing in my yard......My sis sold 50 to him and 50 to his friend. Once again a family member has supplied my child with a drug that has once again lead him to a road of trouble...(his dad was his meth supplier) That really messes with my head! He has been to treatment 2x's and makes his own choices...I know I know...My head just says....this would be easier if it was the scruffy hair, stranger on the street corner. ugh! Last night I just shook my head, and went to bed. Didn't go there. Today I am just sad. Addiction is sad. Recovery for them can be a process too. Maybe he will get to treatment again...Maybe the third time will be the charm....for now, I am going to hit a meeting, and plant some veggies...let it all settle where it will...Thanks for being here.
(((((((Greta)))) so sorry to hear the news, but know that this too shall pass. We all do things we may not want to do for our kids..and I'm just beckoning on the mid-teen yrs!! Bein a mom is very difficult, and I can't imagine what its like in your situation with the addiction..My ex,their dad ,is my A..as you know...But I worry myself sick that it is in the genes... I do see what I believe to be alot of OCD and bi-polar tendencies with my 15yr old daughter and it scares me to death!!! This is something I need to address with the family Dr,so this is a great reminder for me,as you share your story. So glad you're here ..As always I admire your courage and honesty and keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. One day at a time kiddo~ Love you~ Carla
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I am so sorry you are going through this..again. Thank you for sharing. Your share was a reminder to me why I need this program. We have no control over anyone even our own kids. One never knows when the disease will rear its ugly head. Love you.
I think it is because addictions are cunning and insidious. And the addicts are good at disguising what they do. Our oldest son cleaned us out before we knew what hit us. We never saw it coming. But now we know better. Getting busy in your garden sounds great.
((((((greta)))))))) there are no words,,,,,,,,,for what its worth "this too shall pass". Keep the focus on you , let the concequences of anyone else's actions be theirs, and not yours. I am so sorry.
