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He was still mad this morning, which is why I was still so upset and wrote that huge vent (thanks for the comforting replies everyone). He just called to apologize and says he'll be home around 7:30 tonight. We'll see abt that...my anxiety always starts to pump as the minutes tick by after I get home from work and am waiting for him on Fridays. I am taking a step as part of my boundaries - one that I forgot to mention to him LOL, although it doesn't make a difference to him cause he's either home right after work on the weekends or leaves me hanging and doesn't come home the entire night/wkend. ANYWAY, I'm going to start dinner and eat around 8pm whether or not he's home. I am so tired of being lied to though - I hate to waste time cooking a meal for all of us (he eats alot more than us cause he works so hard during the day) then he doesn't come home like he sais. Anyway I'm gonna make just enough and if he doesn't come we'll just save it and eat it for lunch tomorrow.
On a much better note, I interviewed for a new job last week - which I might get, they said they were very impressed with me (but they're still interviewing other applicants). Then today I was just told abt another position really close to where I live (20mins away) which would be much better than the hour+ drive I have every day there and back. I sent my resume to the mgr. The person who told me abt the job thinks I'll be extremely qualified for the position...both jobs' salary are $10,000 or more above what I'm making now - and honestly I'm hoping for it mostly bc I'd like to be able to know that my income is enough to take care of me and my kids and then some, so that if this crap doesn't stop - I have a much much easier out ahead of me. So please send me some good (net) vibes for that!!!
I love this place, thanks for your support everyone!! I'll probably be offline for most of the weekend. I hope everyone has a decent, drama-less, dissappoint-less Father's Day wkend. Be good to yourselves FIRST no matter what's goin on! I'm trying to get that through to myself too. (((Hugs&Love)))
I applaud your boundry about supper. Fact is many boundries don't have to be told I find. They have issues in many ways, but being an A does not make them stupid. If he arrives 4 or 5 times after 8 and supper is eaten and put away... he will figure it out.
Good luck with the job search... that is always a challenge, but the right oportunity is out there, just have to keep your eyes open.
Take care of you!
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
