The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Let anger show, do not "clown feelings away" or argue inside your head without telling the offender. Trust your feelingsundeserved verbal or nonverbal abuse brings on feelings of rage and fear within us. Remember, sick people act in sick ways in spite of you, not because of you! Your SELFESTEEM will help you talk to the offending person in an appropriate manner. Remember, you have the right to ask for something, even if the other person chooses not to give it. It's O.K. to hurtBut you can make choices about your behavior prior to acting. Identify why you are angry. Detach from your reactive behavior. Decide how you will act or not act. Keep aware of the way we ACoA's cover up anger Use the program to aid in this awareness. Work the Third step. . .Have faith. . .then continue and work the program. Say the Serenity Prayer. Work through your anger in a safe place. Therapy can get you in touch with feelings of repressed anger. Choose safe people with whom you share your self. Learn appropriate ways of getting/letting anger out. Walk away from volatile situations whenever possible: Excuse yourself for the bathroom. Go for a walk. Say the Serenity Prayer, again.
I SAW THIS AND THOUGHT SOME OF YOU MIGHT LIKE TO READ IT
Good advice if you allow yourself to go there in the first place.
I tend to detach before it ever gets started and to not take on anyone else's stuff. It belongs to them, not me. If someone is dead set on creating drama I think "it sucks to be you" and let it go. I've spent the last few yrs of my life learning how NOT to be sucked in. What I've learned works for every instance of drama.
Christy
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