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hi all.havent posted in awhile,so i thought it was time to post.AH is doing very well,he is in treatment and has been for almost 4 months now.he just found out that he was and never was bi-polar{mistake of upstate ny}but he does have anger issue the same thing his dad had.and he is now on meds to control it.he also has some depression issues and he is seeing a doctor for all of this..his mood is better then ever since he has been put on the right meds..in the 9 years we have been together i never seen him like this or heard him or seen him work his program like he is now...im still in ny but im moving back to florida in july,we wont be living together not until he is done with his program,me leaving him was the thing that happened to us and that came from my SAH ok i will post more later love to all of you
Lotsa miracles eh? glad you guys found doctors that really could help his needs.
Sounds like you guys are setting a great foundation. Are you going to f2f? I have read more than once in many books, if you both are on a 12 step program the chances are so much better you both will be happier together.
Congrats on his sobriety and recovery. I hope it continues. More importantly, I hope you will continue to work on your recovery as well. The dynamics of a sober relationship vs. an active are very different, especially if you have only know each other when he was active. Take good care of yourself.
Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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acually i have been though this with him 4 times before.rehab then relapse..all the times before we lived in upstate ny and they said the reason he relapsed was because he was bi-polar and stopped taking his meds..and the program never really worked for him{he was doing it for other reasons..but down in florida it is very differant when in recovery,they have a 4 step program,first is being in detox for a week,then a safe house for 3 months,then you live with another aa member who has been in the program for many years{and you have to work and pay rent and bills while there and do all your recovery stuff,the 4th is going out on your getting a better job and paying all your bills on top of still doing your recovery stuff,the process takes 2 years or more..this is a very program down there..he and wont be able to live together for at least a year....but he also had some test done and goes to see a psychiatrist and he said he was never bi-polar the tests proved that but he hasanger outbursts and something else along the lines of that but i cant remember what it is,plus depression....but he is on several meds to control all of it...he said me leaving was the best thing i did cause it made him relise what re was doing to me and the family and that he is exaclylike his father and he doesnt want to be like him..he is a differant person and im so proud of him.i still have to do my recovery and work on my trust,go to al-alon and also go see a psychiatrist myself..i am moving back to florida in july..i will be living with my mother-in-law as i cant afford to live at my house and make the mortgage and all the bills unless i rent 2 of the bedroom out until the house sells,then i can afford it..it will be hard to leave my children and grandchildren but they are grown adults now,and it is time for my AH and i to be alone together{my children arent his they are from my first marriage}and he and i have never been alone since we have been together..i really miss and love him,but im also enjoying the time with my family here in ny,but cant wait to get back to florida to the nice warm weather again i miss it...well enough for now
