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alcoholic "flashback"


Hi everyone.
It's Easter sunday and I was just thinking about where I was and what I was doing last year at this time.

My A husband and I were invited to brunch at my sister's house. I had told my sister we'd be there early to help out. My A was strung out that morning from staying up most of the night drinking and doing cocaine. I told him what time we were expected to be at my sister's house. In the morning when I was ready to go, he was dragging his feet, drinking vodka and whining about going. I finally managed to get him out of the house and on our way... with me driving, of course. We got there much later than I said we would, so I was of no help to my sister. My A was quiet and antisocial. Right after we ate, he disappeared and we found him in another room sleeping on a couch.

When he woke up he insisted that we leave immediately. I wasn't ready to go... but also didn't want him driving my car home in his condition. On the way home he started criticizing me and my driving. He was yelling at me, making me very nervous and eventually, insisted that I stop the car so he could drive... I knew that the alcohol from that morning had probably worn off... so I let him drive. We had a HUGE fight and didn't speak the rest of the day.

This year, my Easter sunday was very different. I left my AH back in September and the divorce was final just a week or so ago. Today, I had a nice day with my mom and my sister...a quiet, normal, peaceful day. I may not be settled or exactly where I want to be right now, but I'm much happier.

Best wishes to you all for peace... however you find it.
Artygirl.

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RE: alcoholic "flashback"


((((((((((((((Arty))))))))))))))))))))),

It's ok to glance back, just don't stare too long hon.

You had the courage to know that you are deserving of life's riches.

Sounds like a beautiful Easter to me - peace and serenity.

So happy for you,
Maria123

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I did the same thing. It's so much better with a change isn't it? I'm glad you had a nice ending to this Easter.

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good for you, you deserve the peace and serenity,

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Maire rua


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artygirl,
Thank you so much for posting this.  The idea that serenity is achievable helps me so much. 

Love in recovery,
Leetle

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