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Well I've been having one of those "moments" when I know I must be getting better. I've had a very busy weekend and start of the week with no end in sight. Most of you know that I work retail, and right now it is the second busiest time of the year for footwear next to back to school. It's the start of spring sports as well as the week before Easter. Forget the notion that children come if for dressy shoes. By this time their school shoes need replacing and the battle royale between teenagers and parents as to what sneakers they want is on as well as people getting ready to go on vacations,etc. So we have just been nuts and it has been stressful to say the least.
On top of that I completely threw my program out the window when dealing with my sister. Serenity? What serenity? Now all the stress has gotten to me and I'm sick again! I'm thinking it's a sinus infection, plus for someodd reasonI must have pulled my back. OUCH!But NOT AGAIN! So needless to say I am grumpy and hubby is overly tired because he spent a great weekend with his grandkids and kids. Not a bad thing to be. The plus side is that we are not grumpy at each other!
I was suppose to go have dinner with friends, and frankly after the weekend I just didn't want to be around anybody.Icame home last night after a more exhausting work and wastempted to sleep on the couch! Why wouldI give up my nice comfy bed and miss the chanceto be with thegreatest snuggler in the world along with the best kitty? (Okay maybe I'm a bit biased there! )After hearing customers complain about the lack of help, yelling at their children, and not feeling well - why would I want to have dinner with friends? I love them dearly but I really didn't want to go. But like the good cody I can be, I didn't want to disappoint them. I called my friend this morning and asked her when and where (all the meanwhile muttering under my breath). I went back to bed and tried to sleep. After a short nap, I was talking with hubby and he reminded me what I always remind him of. It's OKAY TO SAY NO and not feel guilty about it. But I made every excuse in the book: I won't be able to see them next month before his surgery. The cat's birthday is coming up. We've got inventory. You name it, I came up with it. But then after more talking he made me realize that if I go, I'd be miserable and not very good company. He's right. It also wouldn't be fair to my friends. It's not like they are going to disown me after 25+ years. I thought about and called her back. I told her quite bluntly "I just feel like crap." I felt so good in just saying it like it is. A weight was lifeted off of my shoulders. I went back to bed and hubby had orderd lunch/slash dinner for us. Well it turns out one of the friends can't make it easier because she's sicker than I! Poor woman she might actually have the flu. So we'll try and reschedule for next week.
I guess the lesson here is that it's okay to say no and not feel bad about it. I don't know why this old brain of mine wasn't allowing me to see things the way they really are. Probably because I am so bumfuzzled and exhausted. I certainly wasn't practicing what I always preach. I mean the world hasn't stopped because dinner was cancelled. Now as long as I don't feel guilty about not feeling guilty I'll be okay.
Have a wonderful rest of the evening. Love and blessings to you and your families. Time to go back to bed.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
P.S. I was able to say NO to my sister's gift of a princess canopy bed for Piper's birthday, without feeling a bit of guilt. Her heart's in the right place. But no cat of mine is sleeping in a pink canopy bed for cats. She's too much of a mighty hunter for that. Besides she sleeps in an antique rocking chair and between her Dad and I.
-- Edited by Karilynn at 19:10, 2007-03-27
-- Edited by Karilynn at 20:37, 2007-03-27
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good for you learning to say no and take care of you.
i bet if you felt better, the people at work won't seem so bad. Are you wearing comfy cloths at work??? That helps, and drink water too. do what you need to to be ok at work.
Get a Farside book and read one little cartoon every once in awhile and destress.
I would love to come into your store and bug the heck out of you. lol
hugs hon, debilyn who hands you some 7 up, toast and homemade potato soup. and some raspberry sorbet.....
karilyn, Thank you for sharing and reminding me I'm ok too. When we get stressed out and sick, we are the important part...take care of you first. I know how sis's can get at you, and glad you dealt with yours straight forwardly. Great going!
You are ok, you are a good friend, and that is what I have to say. Ms wp aka you know who
A Pink Princess canopy bed??? - That would be a dream come true for me - but I am definitely a "girly girl" and thanks to Al-Anon - very proud of it.
How awesome for YOU to be proud of You & Piper's Kitty to know that she is NOT a girly girl and wouldn't like a canopy bed. How awesome for you to tell the Guilt Monster to LEAVE THE ROOM!!!!
Please keep taking care of you & thank you for giving me something else to add to my gratitude list (add to list: All of your daughters are no longer teenagers and you are not responsible for buying shoes for any of them )
Hope you have a blessed day, Rita
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I'm thinking it's a sinus infection, plus for someodd reasonI must have pulled my back. OUCH!But NOT AGAIN! So needless to say I am grumpy and hubby is overly tired because he spent a great weekend with his grandkids and kids. Not a bad thing to be. The plus side is that we are not grumpy at each other!
)After hearing customers complain about the lack of help, yelling at their children, and not feeling well - why would I want to have dinner with friends? I love them dearly but I really didn't want to go. But like the good cody I can be, I didn't want to disappoint them. I called my friend this morning and asked her when and where (all the meanwhile muttering under my breath). I went back to bed and tried to sleep. After a short nap, I was talking with hubby and he reminded me what I always remind him of. It's OKAY TO SAY NO and not feel guilty about it. But I made every excuse in the book: I won't be able to see them next month before his surgery. The cat's birthday is coming up. We've got inventory. You name it, I came up with it. But then after more talking he made me realize that if I go, I'd be miserable and not very good company. He's right. It also wouldn't be fair to my friends. It's not like they are going to disown me after 25+ years. I thought about and called her back. I told her quite bluntly "I just feel like crap." I felt so good in just saying it like it is. A weight was lifeted off of my shoulders. I went back to bed and hubby had orderd lunch/slash dinner for us. Well it turns out one of the friends can't make it easier because she's sicker than I! Poor woman she might actually have the flu. So we'll try and reschedule for next week.
lilms
