The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Well it is true what they say in Alanon about let go and let God. I am not sure if anyone had seen my previous post but I was at wits end. I finally had to turn everything in my life over to my Higher Power. I have been praying for answers as I love my husband but he has become a different person since drinking. After a week of turning it all over................. A Miracle Happened....................
My husband is an Alcoholic. He has FINALLY, THANK GOD, come to the place he is at right now where he can say this out loud. He is even going to AA and came home from AA the other night in tears. He says he can now see what he has been doing to himself as well as me. He has apologized profusely for what he has been putting me through and says he is going to continue going to AA and he is! WOW! I have a question though. I have been with him thru 4 or 5 detox's. This time he is absolutely exhausted all the time. I am thinking it's just that he is recovering physically as well as mentally. This last time he was drinking A LOT MORE than he used to and the detox was bad. They had to put him on some meds and he almost committed suicide. I am thinking that he has just taxed his body so bad that it is just needing to recover. Does anyone know anything about this?
I think that that is why they call it a progressive disease. It takes more and more alcohol to physically do the trick. And each time it takes a toll of the body. Good for him to keep trying and finding AA. Are you taking care of yourself?
I am pretty sure your husband's exhaustion is normal. My own husband has been sober nearly 7 months, and he is still exhausted. He has been told that this could last several more months, maybe even over a year, and that it is his brain and body in recovery, and that it will eventually pass. I did talk him into trying a daily multi-vitamin, and it seems to help a little. Beyond that, I can't help. It is getting to be a challenge to keep my patience, though, because he naps ALL THE TIME!!!!!!
I am happy for you that you feel things are progressing well. I don't want to burst your bubble, just give you a warning. My AH just had 13 days sober. He had been going to AA for several months, but was still drinking. He got a sponsor, but was still drinking. Then suddenly said, "I need for this to end." Thus began 13 glorious days. Well yesterday I found a receipt from the liquor store for 5 miniatures of Brandy. It was just laying on the desk, he made no attempt to hide it. I was crushed. There was no event, reason, disaster to precipitate his relapse, he just did.
Of course I hope that your AH is successful, but be prepared emotionally for him to fail. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. I didn't and I was hurt yet again. BBsteps
This probably had a lot to do with the alcoholism messing up his metabolism. It's kinda like this.........if you eat a ton of sugary and carb foods your body will eventually get used to that. Then if you shock your metabolism and quit eating junk and start eating healthy you will feel sick for a few weeks and run down because your body is withdrawling. Eventually those healthy fruits and veggies will take over and your motabolism will go back up and use the healthy foods now. So to me it makes perfect sense that he's feeling yucky. Try vitamins and healthy foods that might give him more energy. Sorry if I'm not much of a help. I helped my ah this way and his withdrawl took less time and he was feeling much better physically. Good luck
This is a 3 fold disease mental , physical and spiritual and all 3 need thier own time to heal , when my husb sobered up he was so sick physically that it was all he could do to be cival ,he went to meetings and talked , cried and sharred his fears for the first time in his life, it is exausting , stay focused on your own recovery lots ofmeetings and share your stuff , keep expectations low and you will be fine . Sobriety does not solve all problems . I lovingly refer to early sobriety as Stark Raving Sober for the first timein yrs they are living in reality and some days it just plain hurts . Let go and let God and AA take care of him and let Al-Anon take care of you , working prog together u have a chance he is not the only one who has to change we all do. good luck and enjoy , don't miss the good days . Louise
Yep! This last time hubby was in ICU because his kidneys had shut down. Then when they released him he had seizures because they didn't check his blood work. So needless to say this was it for him. He's gotten sober and stayed sober for 10 months now. But those first few months were exhausting, physically and emotionally for both of us. It does get better. I had to remember to stop and take care of my needs as well. Easy to forget when you are running back and forth to ICU or making sure his meds are layed out properly etc.
I'll tell you though, every moment of that was good for me. The sicker he got, the more I appreciate his sobriety. What a joy to see this man rediscover the joy of living eventhough at times it's a struggle. Makes everything worth it. Enjoy his sobriety and yours as well. Treasure it like there is no tomorrow. Congrats!
Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
__________________
It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
Thanks everyone who responded. He is feeling a bit better every day. He is sleeping like I have never seen him sleep before. He says that he can't get over how much better he does sleep now that there isn't any alcohol in his system. He had been sober a few times before this but never admitted that he was an alcoholic and didn't EVER want to hear the AA words! He went again the other night and says he is amazed at how he can relate. I am taking all of this one day at a time and being grateful he is going to AA. He is a different person the past few days. Thanks for all the support!
My husband also slept alot in the begining of his recovery. Not only did his body need time to adjust to not having toxins put in it, but it needed time to heal from the damage he had done to it. Then there is the emotional aspect.....when we are going through emotional times this too will cause us to become exhausted. When an A stops drinking they have to face the reality of life, no more hiding and escaping...for some A's this si alot to deal with.
Keep taking it a day at a time, and keep working your program while he works his.
So needless to say this was it for him. He's gotten sober and stayed sober for 10 months now. But those first few months were exhausting, physically and emotionally for both of us. It does get better. I had to remember to stop and take care of my needs as well. Easy to forget when you are running back and forth to ICU or making sure his meds are layed out properly etc. 
was good for me. The sicker he got, the more I appreciate his sobriety. What a joy to see this man rediscover the joy of living eventhough at times it's a struggle. Makes everything worth it. Enjoy his sobriety and yours as well. Treasure it like there is no tomorrow. Congrats!