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Hi everyone, As I'm recovering I notice more and more people are dropping out of my life, and this is scary. My sister tried to make me talk about a family issue that I don't want to discuss. She was so insistant. I ended up walking out rather than argue with her. I felt I did the right thing. But now it all hangs in the air...
I think she should have apologised for putting me in such a position. She hasn't. I know she is a stubborn person and thats okay. But I have realised that I no longer want to chase after people just to have them in my life, family or not.
She is a materialistic person. I am not. I have to ask myself if we would be friends if we were not related and the answer is probably no. We are so different. There are other people that are irritating me lately, just by being how they always were. They can't all be wrong. I feel I'm growing in a different direction.
My exA is drinking like mad still. And I'm slowing getting okay with that too. I suppose I kind of hoped he would get sober when we broke up. He didn't.
Anyway life is changing so much. I may have to change job soon too. My contract is only temporary.
How to cope with all these changes. I pray hard and try to accept whats put in front of me. Does it sound like I'm going in the right direction? Sometimes I don't know.
Things in your life are changing because you are changing...for the better. I can relate to your situation with your sister. My sis-in-law sounds very similar. You have every right to set boundaries for yourself and not discuss something painful if you do not want to. Be careful, however, regarding your expectations. She probably sees the situation differently from you and sees no reason to apologize. Try to let go of resentment and expectations toward this event, it will only disrupt your peace. Just like you cannot change an A, you cannot change her either. You cannot control what she does or tries to do, you can only control how you choose to react. If you have "The Language of Letting Go" by Melody Beatty, read July 15, about FAMILY BUTTONS, I have it bookmarked in my copy! BBsteps
Feel free to grow in a different direction sweet one. I am doing the same.but I know it's in the right direction for me.
Hang in there. Be true to yourself. It's the only way. I sometimes feel these huge doubts that where i am headed for isn't where everyone else is going.but I know I am heading for the right place.
Keep coming back here.....post and watch and learn......... I may sometimes think I am alone.....but I learned that a lot of the unconditional love I got from some of the people here is absolutely fantastic. I learned here how to be true to myself.
My life changes almost every hour of the day it seems alike. Sometimes people do not understand as much sickness in my family that I am not in control of making plans and keeping them. Any suggestions?
