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My ah's face is red and swollen. So it's only a matter of time. This is what happend to my best friend a few months before she passed away. :( There is nothing I can do from over here. It's so hard to sit and wait for someone to die. There is no other end to this story then his death. He will not come see the kids this weekend because he knows if he's shaking I will not let him in. At least he knows my rules. So sad for them though :( I hope all of your weekends are nice. xxx
I have also witnessed the alcoholic deaths of several people and your discription is accurate of how the alcohol and disease takes it toll. Having the expectation of eminent death actually helps when in acceptance of it and your powerlessness. One suggestion might help. Yes you are powerless but other recovering alcoholics might be of help. Call your local AA central office and tell them what is going on and ask if they would send over a recovering person(s) to speak with him about what it was like for them, what they found out in recovery and what they do now then turn the whole thing back over to your HP. What ever the outcome that is one hope you might try.
((((friendofyours)))))) though our situations' not the same, I just went through loosing someone very close to me to a very selfish disease... it is never easy to watch someone leave us, to say goodbye to someone we love, no matter how prepared You think you are. please know that i am just showing that i care, i'm not trying to give advice......I just know how it all hit me once it was over. ~ Please don't let yourself be alone with this. try to get out and do somethingsss for yourself. make some plans and keep the children focused on their future, support their goals. Go to a meeting, talk on the phone to family and/or friends about things that will help to keep your spirit up. even start a small project. i just want to let you know that my prayers are with you for strength and i pray you will keep coming back here for support.
Alanon is a wonderful supportive program. We love You!
I have also witnessed the alcoholic deaths of several people and your discription is accurate of how the alcohol and disease takes it toll. Having the expectation of eminent death actually helps when in acceptance of it and your powerlessness. One suggestion might help. Yes you are powerless but other recovering alcoholics might be of help. Call your local AA central office and tell them what is going on and ask if they would send over a recovering person(s) to speak with him about what it was like for them, what they found out in recovery and what they do now then turn the whole thing back over to your HP. What ever the outcome that is one hope you might try.
Keep coming back yourself. (((((Hugs)))))
Good I never thought about having someone from AA go to him. I will check to see if they will do that. Good idea. I don't want to get him fired (I know that sounds wierd...he'll get himself fired)
aunitedway wrote:((((friendofyours)))))) though our situations' not the same, I just went through loosing someone very close to me to a very selfish disease... it is never easy to watch someone leave us, to say goodbye to someone we love, no matter how prepared You think you are. please know that i am just showing that i care, i'm not trying to give advice......I just know how it all hit me once it was over. ~ Please don't let yourself be alone with this. try to get out and do somethingsss for yourself. make some plans and keep the children focused on their future, support their goals. Go to a meeting, talk on the phone to family and/or friends about things that will help to keep your spirit up. even start a small project. i just want to let you know that my prayers are with you for strength and i pray you will keep coming back here for support.
Alanon is a wonderful supportive program. We love You!
Take careYOU. (((((((You))))))
Thank you :) I have my three children so going to Al-anon is impossible. Even if they offered daycare I wouldn't leave them with anyone. I am over protective. I also have several projects going on....hehehe He hasn't been here in years so this house is definitly full of projects.....wanna help? lol The phone is the only social life I pretty much have ;) The prayers are the best thing you can do for me. I really appreciate that so much! Thank you for your love and support. mwah xoxo
Jerry's F suggestion is a good one. Hubby has gone on several of these as well as a few interventions. It's amazing to think that some people have no hope and then to hear that recovery is possible. Hubby was near death too. He is now 8 months sober. Sometimes it takes another addict to get through. I hope it works for him. Stay strong. The acceptance of death, while hard can be freeing in its own way. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers tonight.
Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn
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Jerry's F suggestion is a good one. Hubby has gone on several of these as well as a few interventions. It's amazing to think that some people have no hope and then to hear that recovery is possible. Hubby was near death too. He is now 8 months sober. Sometimes it takes another addict to get through. I hope it works for him. Stay strong. The acceptance of death, while hard can be freeing in its own way. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers tonight.
it is never easy to watch someone leave us, to say goodbye to someone we 
love, no matter how prepared You think you are. please know that i am just showing that i care, i'm not trying to give advice......I just know how it all hit me once it was over. ~ Please 
don't let yourself be alone with this. try to get out
and do 
somethingsss 
for yourself. make some plans and keep the children focused on their future, support their goals.
Go to a meeting, talk on the phone to family and/or friends about things that will help to keep your spirit up.
even start a small 
project. 
i just want to let you know that my prayers 
are with you for strength and i pray you will keep coming back here for support. 
program. We love 
friendofyours