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Phil · Phil

You seek comfort by hiding away, but all you get is loneliness. You seek comfort by judging and criticizing others, but all you get is resentment. You seek comfort by striving and acquiring, but all you get is the insecurity of knowing that those things you have will not last. You seek comfort...

twinkie · twinkie

So yesterday I post how I did the right thing and then.....my emotions are all over the place last night. I spoke to the A and was telling him about it and then I went off on an uncontrollable tyriad of how serious this is and he needs to get to AA and I know he's not going like he should and on and on I went naggin...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) Every few days, I talk with my 11 year old Son about what is going on with my seperation from his mom. Of course the topic last night was patience. Patience, since Mom is not really doing anything towards her sobriety, but that doesn't mean she won't. Patienc...

lilms · lilms

Good afternoon alanon family, I just wanted to post a note thanking you all for being a part of my "Miracle In progress". Tomorrow is my six month anniversary in alanon, started right here on this page. How cool is that

I have learned much in six months but not nearly enough.&nbs...

kabbie · kabbie

I am sometimes sad and ashamed. I am sometimes afraid or glad. But I am not angry. I am not angry at my A for all the pain she causes, or at myself for how I react. She has a disease. She is doing what she can today to recover from that disease. I am doing what I can today to support her...

Rita G · Rita G

Al-Anon's Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions pg. 15. "Accepting disappointments, often unrelated to alcoholism, with calm poise, saved wear and tear on the nerves, as well as demonstrating our confidence that things ultimately worked out as they were meant to. This was by no means wea...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family))))), Last year John came up with the wonderful idea of sending Holiday Cards to our MIP family members in the recovery house. It was an incredibly wonderful, magical and loving thing to do for them. I for one felt so good about sending a bit of cheer to some total strang...

serendipity · serendipity

i am not sure what has been going on here while i was on vacation. i knew it....i turn my head for one week and everything gets crazy!!! lol it is so difficult being responsible for the whole world!!! but honestly, this site has been a god send. there have been so many nights when i was so lonely and sad and i c...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Today is my Al-Anon Birthday...i'm graduating from the Terrible Two's into the Tyrannical Three's (teehee). Sooooo.... I wanted to post and pass out some "gifts"... mainly thank you's. Firstly, a big thank you to John for having created this site. 3 years ago when I began my search I needed to ta...

Phil · Phil

Rage is an advanced form of anger, just as panic is to fear, a state in which we are even less in control of our words and behavior. Hate is a condition in which we think very badly of someone, avoid contact with him, and probably wish the worst for him, perhaps even hoping that he might experience a tragedy...

hersh · hersh

(((Hi all))) Tonite AH may or may not go to his 2nd AA meeting - I am going to divert my worrying and my thinking and obsessing about if he is or is not going, what he got out of it, etc. to the following: I am free to do whatever I want tonite I may just go home and watch a movie; I may buy myself some dinne...

Orchid Lady · Orchid Lady

I got really sick 4 months ago - my spirit and mind ganged up on my body and forced me to confront the problems with my marriage. I was swimming in the denial river for quite awhile. H is in midlife crisis and deals with his problems by drinking, staying out to all hours, coming home smelling o...

Gailey · Gailey

think back to last week, last month, last year at what you were doing. ....Last year...Oh my!!! ...I was riding past bars where I thought my A son hung out to see if his car was parked anywhere around them on my way to work in the morning. I would also do that after work. ....

Noni · Noni

I read somewhere - don't remember where - that guilt is a type of fear: of being afraid of living up to someone else's expectations. With that said - I feel guilty that I have no desire to be in touch with my immediate family members anymore (my mother, brother & sister). The guilt came on whe...

Christy · Christy

I recently purchased a video called "The Secret". Right now it can only be purchased on the net. This video is very powerful and is sweeping the internet along with a forum of the same name. This is directly from the CNN Larry King website Thursday's show Change your mind to change your...

Diva · Diva

that sobriety is never forever. This lifelong addiction can be kept at bay for years and years; my own A was sober for 25 years. Sooner or later it will reappear to the devastation of all concerned with the A. My partner is sober today, but he has had several relapses in the past four years. AFTER 25 YEARS S...

butterfly6 · butterfly6

I have been attending meetings sporadically for a little while. The first meetings I think I was drug, kicking and screaming to. Not literally, but I really didn't think I needed it, nor did I have time for it. So, I've been to a few meetings now and am beginning to let g...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

My local newspaper has an article in it's LIFE section about codependency, along with a checklist and some recommended authors and books. I don't know if they'll ask for email and such like that--if so, you may just get to know what's going on in Dayton, OH!

www.daytondailynews.c...

Gailey · Gailey

Loving someone with this illness is the worst thing I have ever gone through I so agree and knowing I am not alone in feeling this way is what is keeping me sane today. (((Heidi)))..thank you! Love.....Gail p.s. There's a special place in heaven fo...

lilms · lilms

Good afternoon my friends, Just a reminder that we are all human first. Disagreements arise, misunderstandings happen yet we all belong to the same family. On that note, I celebrate you all, a part of my family. lilms

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

So my AH came home last night after a week of golf with his buddies. The night before he left for his vacation he came in at 4 AM. Not much of a goodbye for me or our daughter. Well he arrived home on time but not a word about how hurtful his actions were before he left. I was polite an...

allnamesrtaken · allnamesrtaken

How's that for a subject title? I do not know who I am more ticked at right now... myself... or the alcoholic in my life. some history......... My A has been on and off the wagon so much I swear the axles are going to break. He's 36 yrs old... and me being the one who picks up everyones peices and puts them...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi Everyone, Today I am so sad and just need to talk it out really. Last weekend my Abf went on another crazy binge. I was so worried. I tried not to be, but I knew he could end up in real trouble. I worried and I missed him so much. Eventually, he came back full of remorse. I told him I could not live this way any m...

ally · ally

Good Morning People Just a quick reminder of why people come into this chat room. We are all at different stages in our Recovery, No-one is any different in here. Some people can gather the strength quicker than others. But We must ALWAYS remember that this disease causes great pain to everyone...

kabbie · kabbie

We were almost "snowed" by A daughter in rehab. She has been negotiating for a weekend pass, which was granted for upcoming wkend. Started bullying me for rides to and from, money for train, etc. I put my foot down - no train money, and I wasn't ready for her to come home. Meanwhile, she recieved some mone...

barisax · barisax

I mentioned taking an art class when I was going through my divorce... something to throw myself into, new, stimulating. I thought I'd share this funny little story of my first feeling of independence. I pulled up in the parking lot the evening of my class, and called home to check my voice mail. Th...

Phil · Phil

Before I have any type, of a healthy relationship with anyone else.. I have to form a healthy relationship with myself... And in return, I will attract other healthy relationships...

Phil · Phil

God Grant me the serenity, to accept the things, I cannot change The courage to change things I can And the wisdom to know the difference.

twinkie · twinkie

I keep praying for some guidance on this one. When my A relapsed last August it prompted his ex to file for a change in custody as my A has custody of their 9 year old son. My A has been embroiled in court hearings and a guardian ad litem was appointed to repre...

hersh · hersh

(((Everyone))) Part of this program is recognizing emotions and it is so up and down, a lot of the time. Lastnight, after dropping off AH at his first AA meeting, I was panicked all of a sudden. I just prayed to God that something would sink in to him, but I was so physically affected, even...

nmike · nmike

Well Alanon Friends, My 777 posts show alot of pain but also alot of growth. Thanks for your support. I had a great weekend and a great birthday. I love the fall and Halloween. I am learning so much each and every day. It is stressful this fall. Since my AHsober moved out, I have alot of chores to do by my...

barisax · barisax

I notice that next to each member's post there is a description, "Newbie", "Member", "Veteran Member", "Senior Member", and "Service Worker" are the ones I've seen. While they are more or less self explanatory, I don't know what determines the setting. I have changed from newbie to member to vetera...

Feather · Feather

Hi! I haven't posted in a long while but my life has been the usual - working my program, looking after my three children, home and working. I have had good days and bad days, more good than bad though! Just in case you don't remember my situation about 4 years ago my AH and I separated. He has his...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Hardest part is the realization that your life is all about what someone else is doing and trying to find ways to fill the holes left when you stop the obsession. I have been studying math of all things with an alanon tutor!(scary) I look forward to it (even scarier). I go to meetings...

sandie123 · sandie123

I'm not sure what is going on with me right now. Last night while I was journaling a quote came to me that one of my students use, "I don't know why I am doing this to my self!" This quote hit me hard. One of my students, an obsessed & compulsive eater, uses it everytime he gets caugth stealing foo...

Violeta · Violeta

Hi! I'm new to this forum, but not to Al-Anon. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. He's an addict since 12. He's 29 now. He's been in rehab twice, but relapsed and never went back. His main problem is alcohol, but when he gets drunk, he gets high. Lately he has been trying to stop drinking and I think...

sensitive1 · sensitive1

I have not heard from my A mother who estranged me back in April AGAIN!.... WEll today after a "gloomy" day I got a card in the mail from my mother. She seemed okay in the card...she said with love in it. BUT NOTHING bout me coming over for the upcoming holiday (Thanksgiving). BUT maybe that i...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Family))))) I hope everyone is well today! I recieved this quote from our CEO. I thought it particularly timely with all that is going on around me and thought I would share it with you. Take care of you! "Change has considerable psychological impact on the human mind. ...

kicky · kicky

It's been 2 weeks since I separated from my A after 7years. He is living with a friend. He calls me and leaves nice messages in the mornings (sober) and at night he calls irrate. I have kept my boundaries. I haven't seen him. When he is nice and saying how much he misses me, I just say, "I'm sorry, but you ne...

Tammy · Tammy

I thought I was doing okay lately. At least the last few days. Since my husband and i split up about 7 weeks ago I have had a lot of ups and downs to say the least. We talk several times a day and I see him nearly everyday. Our talks were long in fact we have talked more in the last 7 weeks then we did in the last 6 m... >>>>

Barbara · Barbara

A check was enclosed and I want to rip it up and throw it out! I did that with an anniversary check she just sent us a few weeks ago. I want nothing to do with anyone in my family!

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, I am in a rage this morning.....as most of you know, hub stole two of my check books and wrote checkes all over the place.....I have been getting letters from magistrates for days now......he is well aware of this situation....I was feeling a little bad about pressing charges and s...

Barbara · Barbara

anyone sign up yet? Its at the SeaCrest in No Falmouth and they are starting to take reservations

laurab · laurab

Yesterday morning, at 7:00, my 29 yr old A son, called because his shoulder had popped out of it's socket. This is an old sports injury that happens once in awhile and usually he can push it back in. Of course it required PT when it first happened 3 years ago, but he never followed through and now all the mus...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, Well went to the Da to presss charges, told me had to file with the police first, went to three different police stations they all kept telling me to go back to the other one...it was awful.....finally contacted an attorney.....she is going to take care of this for me....it is just a...

Rita G · Rita G

"a Housewarming Party without a House" Well this is what I wrote almost a week and half ago. The day after the contractor delivered the dirt for the slab, our area received 10-12 inches of rain. Lots of flooding. We have not heard from our contractor since then. T...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

So much has been going on this past week. My mother has really let go, w/ the help of one of the physical therapist my father allowed us to admit her to the hospital. She has been there for four days and is being moved to a nursing home for two weeks. Then she'll be back home. I hate...

kabbie · kabbie

HELLO ALL - ANY THOUGHTS ON MY LIST? I'M SURE I'VE MISSED SOME THINGS.. THANKS, Kabbie CONTRACT (Begins the day you return home from rehab) Daily AA meetings and weekly counseling a must to stay at home. No rides except to daily AA meetings and job interviews, not on bus or train r...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) This is a topic that has come up since my AW and I have seperated. She showed great panic in the fact that the house looks great, that I cook and provide just fine for myself and our son, and life goes on if she's not there. It really threw her for a loop coming over to the hou...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((Family))))))))), Just wanted to wish all of you who celebrate Halloween or all Saints Day: HAPPY HALLOWEEN! May you and your little goblins have an extra fun and safe day. Enjoy your trick or treating. Remember a black kitty is only bad if it's a panther!

W...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Got a sponsor last nite at the f2f meeting

Then I got home and was chatting on yahoo late into the night and ran into this very interesting guy and of course he asks if I am single, married, etc. and I say seperated. Then we get into a deep discussion and he challenges me... He as...

Lexie · Lexie

((((((((friends)))))))))) I just heard from my son after coming out of his sentencing hearing. It really could not have gone any better. He will have to serve probation concurrent to what he is all ready serving....24 months. He has no additional fine! He will have a re...

Violeta · Violeta

Hi guys! I need to know what kind of activities you do with your A's. I'm tired of spending the whole weekend watching movies and would like to suggest something fun. I live in Costa Rica and almost every activity is associated with alcohol. Also I think my boyfriend is really bored with me, I guess he m...

marmare · marmare

So I put a call back for the job shadow I did last week. Said a prayer to my HP to guide me. Got online this morning looking for other opportunities when I got a phone call from a candy company that I applied at a couple weeks ago. I AM SO EXCITED. It's locally owned and it's a custom...

maresie2 · maresie2

I would really like to tell you all that the A is the only issue in my life. I have issues with all authority figures, anyone who doesn't behave humanely and anyone who is really not seeing life from my point of view. Right now I am dealing with a regional manager at work (who thankfull...

akristab · akristab

I used to believe that my AH really meant it when he said he was sorry and that he now knows that he cannot “socially” drink and party after no-showing at work, turning off his cell phone, driving our new truck under the influence and not resurfacing for days for the umpteenth time this decade. In the past...

hersh · hersh

Well.... Things have been spinning, spinning out of control for all of this year. How many bottoms can the AH hit? I always expected the worst, always expected him to be drunk. When he wasn't it was pleasant, but hated the making of plans and them being ruined because he was drunk...

maresie2 · maresie2

I signed up for benefits at one of the jobs I am at. I will not get the card for another month. When I do I will be able to get anti depressants which I badly need. I will also have a window to get dental work which I also badly need. This is huge for me in terms of self care. ...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

The a showed up a few mins ago to pick up the kids and take them to get pumpkins for carving. First thing upon entering the house he runs upstairs and brushes his teeth with my toothbrush mind you. Then he comes down. I notice the aroma of alcohol eminating from him. He swears he hasn't been drinking, then g...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, What a long three weeks this has been, and I want to thank you all for your support and kind words, thoughts and prayers. I got the results this week and the lump was benign. It was fatty tissue, a bit of something that was maybe the beginning of a fibroid, and an old hemmorahage. So all in all, a b...

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	Take Comfort (Preview) You seek comfort by hiding away, but all you get is loneliness. You seek comfort by judging and criticizing others, but all you get is resentment. You seek comfort by striving and acquiring, but all you get is the insecurity of knowing that those things you have will not last. You seek comfort...	Phil	2	378	Nov 3, 2006 by nmike
	struggling today (Preview) So yesterday I post how I did the right thing and then.....my emotions are all over the place last night. I spoke to the A and was telling him about it and then I went off on an uncontrollable tyriad of how serious this is and he needs to get to AA and I know he's not going like he should and on and on I went naggin...	twinkie	5	395	Nov 3, 2006 by Jerry F
	Talk is cheap (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Every few days, I talk with my 11 year old Son about what is going on with my seperation from his mom. Of course the topic last night was patience. Patience, since Mom is not really doing anything towards her sobriety, but that doesn't mean she won't. Patienc...	rtexas	10	424	Nov 3, 2006 by barisax
	6 Month Anniversary (Preview) Good afternoon alanon family, I just wanted to post a note thanking you all for being a part of my "Miracle In progress". Tomorrow is my six month anniversary in alanon, started right here on this page. How cool is that I have learned much in six months but not nearly enough.&nbs...	lilms	6	358	Nov 3, 2006 by Karilynn
	I am not angry (Preview) I am sometimes sad and ashamed. I am sometimes afraid or glad. But I am not angry. I am not angry at my A for all the pain she causes, or at myself for how I react. She has a disease. She is doing what she can today to recover from that disease. I am doing what I can today to support her...	kabbie	3	303	Nov 3, 2006 by hersh
	Calm Poise (Preview) Al-Anon's Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions pg. 15. "Accepting disappointments, often unrelated to alcoholism, with calm poise, saved wear and tear on the nerves, as well as demonstrating our confidence that things ultimately worked out as they were meant to. This was by no means wea...	Rita G	2	352	Nov 3, 2006 by rtexas
	MIP Holiday Cards (Preview) ((((((((Family))))), Last year John came up with the wonderful idea of sending Holiday Cards to our MIP family members in the recovery house. It was an incredibly wonderful, magical and loving thing to do for them. I for one felt so good about sending a bit of cheer to some total strang...	Karilynn	8	460	Nov 3, 2006 by Becky1
	just some gratitude (Preview) i am not sure what has been going on here while i was on vacation. i knew it....i turn my head for one week and everything gets crazy!!! lol it is so difficult being responsible for the whole world!!! but honestly, this site has been a god send. there have been so many nights when i was so lonely and sad and i c...	serendipity	2	272	Nov 3, 2006 by hersh
	Al-Anon Birthday Gifts (Preview) Today is my Al-Anon Birthday...i'm graduating from the Terrible Two's into the Tyrannical Three's (teehee). Sooooo.... I wanted to post and pass out some "gifts"... mainly thank you's. Firstly, a big thank you to John for having created this site. 3 years ago when I began my search I needed to ta...	kismetstrand	11	530	Nov 3, 2006 by tea2
	Anyone going through rage and anger? (Preview) Rage is an advanced form of anger, just as panic is to fear, a state in which we are even less in control of our words and behavior. Hate is a condition in which we think very badly of someone, avoid contact with him, and probably wish the worst for him, perhaps even hoping that he might experience a tragedy...	Phil	4	451	Nov 3, 2006 by carosie
	Healthy thinking.... (Preview) (((Hi all))) Tonite AH may or may not go to his 2nd AA meeting - I am going to divert my worrying and my thinking and obsessing about if he is or is not going, what he got out of it, etc. to the following: I am free to do whatever I want tonite I may just go home and watch a movie; I may buy myself some dinne...	hersh	6	420	Nov 3, 2006 by annmarie
	Dealing with my physical problems also (Preview) I got really sick 4 months ago - my spirit and mind ganged up on my body and forced me to confront the problems with my marriage. I was swimming in the denial river for quite awhile. H is in midlife crisis and deals with his problems by drinking, staying out to all hours, coming home smelling o...	Orchid Lady	7	398	Nov 3, 2006 by Noni
	when you think you are not recovering.... (Preview) think back to last week, last month, last year at what you were doing. ....Last year...Oh my!!! ...I was riding past bars where I thought my A son hung out to see if his car was parked anywhere around them on my way to work in the morning. I would also do that after work. ....	Gailey	6	379	Nov 3, 2006 by Noni
	Guilt (Preview) I read somewhere - don't remember where - that guilt is a type of fear: of being afraid of living up to someone else's expectations. With that said - I feel guilty that I have no desire to be in touch with my immediate family members anymore (my mother, brother & sister). The guilt came on whe...	Noni	4	291	Nov 3, 2006 by Noni
	Positive Thinking (Preview) I recently purchased a video called "The Secret". Right now it can only be purchased on the net. This video is very powerful and is sweeping the internet along with a forum of the same name. This is directly from the CNN Larry King website Thursday's show Change your mind to change your...	Christy	3	332	Nov 2, 2006 by just me
	Iam convinced... (Preview) that sobriety is never forever. This lifelong addiction can be kept at bay for years and years; my own A was sober for 25 years. Sooner or later it will reappear to the devastation of all concerned with the A. My partner is sober today, but he has had several relapses in the past four years. AFTER 25 YEARS S...	Diva	12	621	Nov 2, 2006 by snoopy
	Recovery (Preview) I have been attending meetings sporadically for a little while. The first meetings I think I was drug, kicking and screaming to. Not literally, but I really didn't think I needed it, nor did I have time for it. So, I've been to a few meetings now and am beginning to let g...	butterfly6	8	459	Nov 2, 2006 by butterfly6
	Codependcy article (Preview) My local newspaper has an article in it's LIFE section about codependency, along with a checklist and some recommended authors and books. I don't know if they'll ask for email and such like that--if so, you may just get to know what's going on in Dayton, OH! www.daytondailynews.c...	Tiger2006	4	375	Nov 2, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Heidi wrote....................... (Preview) Loving someone with this illness is the worst thing I have ever gone through I so agree and knowing I am not alone in feeling this way is what is keeping me sane today. (((Heidi)))..thank you! Love.....Gail p.s. There's a special place in heaven fo...	Gailey	1	320	Nov 2, 2006 by hersh
	Human First (Preview) Good afternoon my friends, Just a reminder that we are all human first. Disagreements arise, misunderstandings happen yet we all belong to the same family. On that note, I celebrate you all, a part of my family. lilms	lilms	1	359	Nov 2, 2006 by canadianguy
	Back from vacation (Preview) So my AH came home last night after a week of golf with his buddies. The night before he left for his vacation he came in at 4 AM. Not much of a goodbye for me or our daughter. Well he arrived home on time but not a word about how hurtful his actions were before he left. I was polite an...	Elizabeth M	3	271	Nov 2, 2006 by Lunamoth
	So the ambulance just left... (Preview) How's that for a subject title? I do not know who I am more ticked at right now... myself... or the alcoholic in my life. some history......... My A has been on and off the wagon so much I swear the axles are going to break. He's 36 yrs old... and me being the one who picks up everyones peices and puts them...	allnamesrtaken	12	484	Nov 2, 2006 by hersh
	wisdom to know the difference (Preview) Hi Everyone, Today I am so sad and just need to talk it out really. Last weekend my Abf went on another crazy binge. I was so worried. I tried not to be, but I knew he could end up in real trouble. I worried and I missed him so much. Eventually, he came back full of remorse. I told him I could not live this way any m...	annmarie	6	408	Nov 2, 2006 by hersh
	PLEASE REMEMBER PEOPLE ARE HURTING (Preview) Good Morning People Just a quick reminder of why people come into this chat room. We are all at different stages in our Recovery, No-one is any different in here. Some people can gather the strength quicker than others. But We must ALWAYS remember that this disease causes great pain to everyone...	ally	5	414	Nov 2, 2006 by shadow1
	Snowed (Preview) We were almost "snowed" by A daughter in rehab. She has been negotiating for a weekend pass, which was granted for upcoming wkend. Started bullying me for rides to and from, money for train, etc. I put my foot down - no train money, and I wasn't ready for her to come home. Meanwhile, she recieved some mone...	kabbie	9	489	Nov 2, 2006 by kabbie
	A moment when I first took care of myself (Preview) I mentioned taking an art class when I was going through my divorce... something to throw myself into, new, stimulating. I thought I'd share this funny little story of my first feeling of independence. I pulled up in the parking lot the evening of my class, and called home to check my voice mail. Th...	barisax	3	376	Nov 2, 2006 by Noni
	Took this kid a long time to learn this one.. (Preview) Before I have any type, of a healthy relationship with anyone else.. I have to form a healthy relationship with myself... And in return, I will attract other healthy relationships...	Phil	6	403	Nov 2, 2006 by Karilynn
	Simple to read...not always simple to do (Preview) God Grant me the serenity, to accept the things, I cannot change The courage to change things I can And the wisdom to know the difference.	Phil	5	369	Nov 2, 2006 by Karilynn
	Am I doing the right thing? (Preview) I keep praying for some guidance on this one. When my A relapsed last August it prompted his ex to file for a change in custody as my A has custody of their 9 year old son. My A has been embroiled in court hearings and a guardian ad litem was appointed to repre...	twinkie	9	522	Nov 2, 2006 by Karilynn
	Now comes the fear.... (Preview) (((Everyone))) Part of this program is recognizing emotions and it is so up and down, a lot of the time. Lastnight, after dropping off AH at his first AA meeting, I was panicked all of a sudden. I just prayed to God that something would sink in to him, but I was so physically affected, even...	hersh	7	489	Nov 2, 2006 by Jerry F
	On 777 posts (Preview) Well Alanon Friends, My 777 posts show alot of pain but also alot of growth. Thanks for your support. I had a great weekend and a great birthday. I love the fall and Halloween. I am learning so much each and every day. It is stressful this fall. Since my AHsober moved out, I have alot of chores to do by my...	nmike	3	321	Nov 2, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	Question about the board (Preview) I notice that next to each member's post there is a description, "Newbie", "Member", "Veteran Member", "Senior Member", and "Service Worker" are the ones I've seen. While they are more or less self explanatory, I don't know what determines the setting. I have changed from newbie to member to vetera...	barisax	8	381	Nov 1, 2006 by Lexie
	Sad today... (Preview) Hi! I haven't posted in a long while but my life has been the usual - working my program, looking after my three children, home and working. I have had good days and bad days, more good than bad though! Just in case you don't remember my situation about 4 years ago my AH and I separated. He has his...	Feather	5	271	Nov 1, 2006 by Feather
	The hardest part of this (Preview) Hardest part is the realization that your life is all about what someone else is doing and trying to find ways to fill the holes left when you stop the obsession. I have been studying math of all things with an alanon tutor!(scary) I look forward to it (even scarier). I go to meetings...	carolinagirl	6	512	Nov 1, 2006 by Phil
	Struggling and NEED support (Preview) I'm not sure what is going on with me right now. Last night while I was journaling a quote came to me that one of my students use, "I don't know why I am doing this to my self!" This quote hit me hard. One of my students, an obsessed & compulsive eater, uses it everytime he gets caugth stealing foo...	sandie123	8	431	Nov 1, 2006 by peewee
	Hello (Preview) Hi! I'm new to this forum, but not to Al-Anon. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. He's an addict since 12. He's 29 now. He's been in rehab twice, but relapsed and never went back. His main problem is alcohol, but when he gets drunk, he gets high. Lately he has been trying to stop drinking and I think...	Violeta	7	467	Nov 1, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	Got a card from my mom! (Preview) I have not heard from my A mother who estranged me back in April AGAIN!.... WEll today after a "gloomy" day I got a card in the mail from my mother. She seemed okay in the card...she said with love in it. BUT NOTHING bout me coming over for the upcoming holiday (Thanksgiving). BUT maybe that i...	sensitive1	3	222	Nov 1, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	Change... a quote (Preview) (((((Family))))) I hope everyone is well today! I recieved this quote from our CEO. I thought it particularly timely with all that is going on around me and thought I would share it with you. Take care of you! "Change has considerable psychological impact on the human mind. ...	rtexas	5	353	Nov 1, 2006 by Karilynn
	Did my A really love me? (Preview) It's been 2 weeks since I separated from my A after 7years. He is living with a friend. He calls me and leaves nice messages in the mornings (sober) and at night he calls irrate. I have kept my boundaries. I haven't seen him. When he is nice and saying how much he misses me, I just say, "I'm sorry, but you ne...	kicky	6	405	Nov 1, 2006 by Orchid Lady
	Making myself CRAZY (Preview) I thought I was doing okay lately. At least the last few days. Since my husband and i split up about 7 weeks ago I have had a lot of ups and downs to say the least. We talk several times a day and I see him nearly everyday. Our talks were long in fact we have talked more in the last 7 weeks then we did in the last 6 m... >>>>	Tammy	7	354	Nov 1, 2006 by Elizabeth M
	Birthday card from my mother and (Preview) A check was enclosed and I want to rip it up and throw it out! I did that with an anniversary check she just sent us a few weeks ago. I want nothing to do with anyone in my family!	Barbara	3	334	Nov 1, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	Going the Da to press charges (Preview) Hello Friends, I am in a rage this morning.....as most of you know, hub stole two of my check books and wrote checkes all over the place.....I have been getting letters from magistrates for days now......he is well aware of this situation....I was feeling a little bad about pressing charges and s...	Andrea12	11	589	Nov 1, 2006 by carolinagirl
	MA AlAnon convention Apr 13-15 (Preview) anyone sign up yet? Its at the SeaCrest in No Falmouth and they are starting to take reservations	Barbara	0	263	Nov 1, 2006 by Barbara
	a little bit stronger (Preview) Yesterday morning, at 7:00, my 29 yr old A son, called because his shoulder had popped out of it's socket. This is an old sports injury that happens once in awhile and usually he can push it back in. Of course it required PT when it first happened 3 years ago, but he never followed through and now all the mus...	laurab	4	308	Nov 1, 2006 by hersh
	Update And A Little Venting (Preview) Hello Friends, Well went to the Da to presss charges, told me had to file with the police first, went to three different police stations they all kept telling me to go back to the other one...it was awful.....finally contacted an attorney.....she is going to take care of this for me....it is just a...	Andrea12	9	533	Nov 1, 2006 by Karilynn
	Rescheduling that Party (Preview) "a Housewarming Party without a House" Well this is what I wrote almost a week and half ago. The day after the contractor delivered the dirt for the slab, our area received 10-12 inches of rain. Lots of flooding. We have not heard from our contractor since then. T...	Rita G	3	424	Nov 1, 2006 by maresie2
	Praying for a better day (Preview) So much has been going on this past week. My mother has really let go, w/ the help of one of the physical therapist my father allowed us to admit her to the hospital. She has been there for four days and is being moved to a nursing home for two weeks. Then she'll be back home. I hate...	Lunamoth	4	337	Nov 1, 2006 by Jennifer
	Boundaries for daughter's return home after rehab (Preview) HELLO ALL - ANY THOUGHTS ON MY LIST? I'M SURE I'VE MISSED SOME THINGS.. THANKS, Kabbie CONTRACT (Begins the day you return home from rehab) Daily AA meetings and weekly counseling a must to stay at home. No rides except to daily AA meetings and job interviews, not on bus or train r...	kabbie	12	4749	Nov 1, 2006 by Karilynn
	Don't NEED the A (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) This is a topic that has come up since my AW and I have seperated. She showed great panic in the fact that the house looks great, that I cook and provide just fine for myself and our son, and life goes on if she's not there. It really threw her for a loop coming over to the hou...	rtexas	13	575	Nov 1, 2006 by kicky
	Happy Halloween (Preview) ((((((Family))))))))), Just wanted to wish all of you who celebrate Halloween or all Saints Day: HAPPY HALLOWEEN! May you and your little goblins have an extra fun and safe day. Enjoy your trick or treating. Remember a black kitty is only bad if it's a panther! W...	Karilynn	8	396	Nov 1, 2006 by peewee
	Struggling (Preview) Got a sponsor last nite at the f2f meeting Then I got home and was chatting on yahoo late into the night and ran into this very interesting guy and of course he asks if I am single, married, etc. and I say seperated. Then we get into a deep discussion and he challenges me... He as...	carolinagirl	13	374	Oct 31, 2006 by albertarose
	answered prayer (Preview) ((((((((friends)))))))))) I just heard from my son after coming out of his sentencing hearing. It really could not have gone any better. He will have to serve probation concurrent to what he is all ready serving....24 months. He has no additional fine! He will have a re...	Lexie	9	329	Oct 31, 2006 by twinkie
	Sober activities (Preview) Hi guys! I need to know what kind of activities you do with your A's. I'm tired of spending the whole weekend watching movies and would like to suggest something fun. I live in Costa Rica and almost every activity is associated with alcohol. Also I think my boyfriend is really bored with me, I guess he m...	Violeta	8	534	Oct 31, 2006 by Karilynn
	Another Interview! ! ! (Preview) So I put a call back for the job shadow I did last week. Said a prayer to my HP to guide me. Got online this morning looking for other opportunities when I got a phone call from a candy company that I applied at a couple weeks ago. I AM SO EXCITED. It's locally owned and it's a custom...	marmare	6	299	Oct 31, 2006 by Tammy
	authoirity figures (Preview) I would really like to tell you all that the A is the only issue in my life. I have issues with all authority figures, anyone who doesn't behave humanely and anyone who is really not seeing life from my point of view. Right now I am dealing with a regional manager at work (who thankfull...	maresie2	8	330	Oct 31, 2006 by carolinagirl
	When is enough really enough? (Preview) I used to believe that my AH really meant it when he said he was sorry and that he now knows that he cannot “socially” drink and party after no-showing at work, turning off his cell phone, driving our new truck under the influence and not resurfacing for days for the umpteenth time this decade. In the past...	akristab	5	417	Oct 31, 2006 by carolinagirl
	DUI - message from HP???? (Preview) Well.... Things have been spinning, spinning out of control for all of this year. How many bottoms can the AH hit? I always expected the worst, always expected him to be drunk. When he wasn't it was pleasant, but hated the making of plans and them being ruined because he was drunk...	hersh	8	511	Oct 31, 2006 by athena12
	self care (Preview) I signed up for benefits at one of the jobs I am at. I will not get the card for another month. When I do I will be able to get anti depressants which I badly need. I will also have a window to get dental work which I also badly need. This is huge for me in terms of self care. ...	maresie2	6	309	Oct 31, 2006 by maresie2
	why do I have to care? (Preview) The a showed up a few mins ago to pick up the kids and take them to get pumpkins for carving. First thing upon entering the house he runs upstairs and brushes his teeth with my toothbrush mind you. Then he comes down. I notice the aroma of alcohol eminating from him. He swears he hasn't been drinking, then g...	carolinagirl	7	555	Oct 31, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Biopsy Results (Preview) Hi all, What a long three weeks this has been, and I want to thank you all for your support and kind words, thoughts and prayers. I got the results this week and the lump was benign. It was fatty tissue, a bit of something that was maybe the beginning of a fibroid, and an old hemmorahage. So all in all, a b...	Dolphin123	25	498	Oct 31, 2006 by Noni
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