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ollie · ollie

Hi everyone, Need some feed back on this if you can. Hubs doctor is going to refer him to hospital for detox,as this is the first time he has had this ,i was wondering if anyone can tell me what exactly this entails,is it a day thing or does he have to stay in. Any feedback will be gratefully recieved....

hudsond · hudsond

I am on edge this morning. Just feel anxious and uneasy. My ex is picking up the kids for his time with them at Christmas. They will be with him from today through the day after Christmas. I just feel like I could fall apart at any minute. That is so not right I know. ...

hersh · hersh

(((Everyone))) I don't know when in the steps that I learned to work on forgiveness, but it is such an important tool. The hurt that the alcoholic causes is sometimes unforgiveable, I thought. Now I know that it is important for ME to forgive them in my mind and heart, that this is for me,...

gardengal · gardengal

I am just getting unable to connect? Is there a problem with the site? Thank -you ........gardengal

abbyal · abbyal

Found this today and thought I would share it , Steps 1-3 are about GIVING UP - I give up the illusion that I can control the alcoholic, that I am sane and the I can manage my life alone. steps 4-6 are about OWNING UP- In these steps I seek the truth about my strengths and weakn...

jewely · jewely

i looked at him last night laying on the family room bed, relaxed and watching TV. and, in a rare moment of calm, the the thought came to me............, '' HE IS NOT TRYING TO DESTROY ME, I AM NOT TRYING TO DESTROY HIM, THE DISEASE IS DESTROYING US''. bing !!! off in my head goes this litt...

david62 · david62

Hi ((((Family)))) I just felt like letting you guys know how my day was today. Actually started last nite. My ex wife called me and asked me to try to find something for her she thought she might have left here at my house when she left. To make a long story short...I didnt have it. And I called her b...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

I have bent over backwards all my life to prove care and love to a family of A's. After 40 yrs of it I left. For 12 years they never noticed I was missing and if i tryed to contact for any reason, it was my fault it was like that. When Hurricane Katrina came and a friend ,supposedly, dropped me at my A daug...

maresie2 · maresie2

One of the things the A does pretty regularly is let certain things be cut off. One of them is the internet. today it happened again. For once I said nothing. I normally go into total over reaction mode and feel martyred by his actions. I know now it is nothing personal to me. I also kno...

serendipity · serendipity

i haven't been here in a while. my ex has been hanging around here with the kids and my old patterns have come back full force. he's sober working his program but i have let my boundries slide. and i am mad at myself. very mad. i really want to re-direct my anger towards him but that would accomplish nothing...

kabbie · kabbie

i have not posted in awhile, and i wanted to wish everyone a peaceful holiday. my daughter has completed her rehab stay, and is now at a halfway house closer to home. she's attending meetings daily, finding a new sponsor since her move to help her with 4th step, job hunting, making new friends, ...

carol · carol

A had 2/3 bottle of vodca yesterday. now is very sick today. I think I'm enablling him by worrying about his health. he doesn't want to worry about health until we are at emergency situation. been in detox 2x. the second time almost killed him. We had a plane to c...

cgolly · cgolly

This is my first post, but I have been reading posts on this board for awhile now and I've learned a lot, so thank you for that. I know I have no control and I have become a lot more calm about his drinking knowing that nothing that I do or say would make any real difference. I have also been pract...

tea2 · tea2

For those who know the story, here is a picture of my lil' guy. He will be missed

(((((Christy))))) Ty for adding the pics and inc a bit of the story. -- Edited by tea2 at 13:43, 2006-12-19

Jennifer · Jennifer

Good morning Everyone, Thanks for the replies to my previous post. The feeling of the doom cloud is passing, and I have a thought that maybe this fire was the reason I was placed in my house with my A for so long. Mom's house will survive and hopefully be redone before I need to move, we all are actually lo...

CJ · CJ

Electrical power has been out for a week... my email consisted of chiseling stone tablets and shipping them through Bedrock Postal Service. Funny how my serenity was at its greatest when I needed to make sure there was wood chopped, candles on hand, food to keep, cooking in the fireplace, making ba...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I was reading a post and it said there is hope, people do get better and get everything back. I am confused as to how anyone can live like that. Before I moved out I had been living on hope for a long time. Hope he would get better, hope this time it wouldn't happen again, hope I wasn't mak...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

Hi All, Been a long time since I posted. I still feel like I'm blowing in the winds Of Hurricane Katrina. All is lost of what life I did have . I have moved twice and 1 more to go. And hopefully this time I will be settled for awhile. As some of you know I hadn't seen my family in 10 yrs before Hurr Katrina and...

JS · JS

Hi There - First I just wanted to wish everyone a very Merry Christmas. I know for some the holidays is very difficult and a sad reminder of the state of affairs in their life, but I pray for blessings and hope for every person on this board during this season. My way of coping and trying t...

debilyn · debilyn

Light now, omg I have to get dressed and go out. Last night was awful and scarey and my guts are like jello. A huge branch came down Sissy and Walters house and went thru the roof. I am praying it did not go in very far. I see the WHOLE ROOF is off the addition on th...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) We had a nice time saturday and sunday. AW, 11 year old son and I, went to see some great light displays all over town on Satuday, Sunday we fished for a while and then went bowling. Son and I had planned on staying at the apartment with my AW on Saturday if she wanted us t...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, I was just thinking..... Whilst going through the breakup with my Abf he told me that he absolutely loves to drink and will do so till he dies. He says he thinks about it at work, and looks forward to the evening when he can drink. He feels he deserves it after a hard day. He says he love...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hello all. I have been laying down for a lot of the afternoon and do not have enough energy to stay on during the meeting. Pray for me. I am really struggling. I will be back. God Bless Stacie

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, I recently broke up from my Abf and have a nice place to live by myself. I know I am very lucky, and I do count my blessings. I miss him a lot though. He's still drinking whenever he has money, and seems to be happy with this. He says he wants to stay friends, and if I'm honest I would like t...

jewely · jewely

hi, i have tried unsuccessfully for half an hour to get into the alanon meeting. i have no idea what a mirc or ir.chat4all is. can anyone enlighten me? sadly disappointed, jewely

jaja · jaja

I know this question is elementary but I've only been back to Al-Anon a few months. I've been going to a particular meeting where there are about 13 regular people and it's a nice group. I have done a reading or two but I haven't shared yet. I'm getting familiar w...

desperate for help · desperate for help

How do you guys deal with it? I am so tired of being miserable in this marriage. He drinks every single night. He gets drunk every single night. I caught him sneaking vodka in the garage. I was mortified. He told me today that he wil not quit drinking no matter wha...

jewely · jewely

hi, my name is jewely and i am a grateful member of alanon. looking for correspondence, and, meetings on line. i love the logo of this site. "MIRACLES IN PROGRESS" Jewely

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

I am praying for those affected by the storm that went through the Northwest. I understand it was devastating. Many without power. I haven't seen a couple of our MIP's in a couple of days. Hope to see them back in real soon! Ziggy

gardengal · gardengal

Just wanted to share and perhaps you can incorporate this into your Alanon meetings. Each year at this time we have one alanon meeting where each one of the members bring a candle and some goodies. We each light our candles and dim the lights and have our meeting in difused lighting. It is a nice touch......

kingston · kingston

The demon in me has come out. My A has been detoxing from h for the past 2 weeks and he has been drunk the whole time drinking at least a 1/5th a day he has been screaming flopping around the house just complete agony and I should feel sorry for him and try to help more but we went through this last January and it...

leo · leo

Hi everyone just wanted to wish you all a safe and Merry Xmas. I am flying out tomorrow to the city to surprise my Mum and Nanna. My Nan is 94 and quite frail and my heart tells me she will not be with us next year. I will be back on the 28th of December. For all of you who are doi...

babysteps · babysteps

I can't wait for Christmas morning!!! I have a six year old daughter who is so excited for Christmas that she has been counting down since Dec. 1. This is such a great age! I can't wait to see her face when she comes down the stairs. I am even more excited to make amends to her for ruining her 6th birt...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I forgot to mention that I talked to my sponsor yesterday and told her I felt a little bad because I told my daughter that I didn't want any of the drunk woman's kids coming over. Nothing against them, I just didn't want her drama in my life. Then I realized OH $#!+ Is this why none of us have any...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I went over to my new one and only friend's house Sat. nite for margaritas. I brought all the stuff to make this great soup and she was supplying margaritas and all the kids came too. She also has 3 kids. both she and I are recently separated. Everything was great until the neig...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((Family)))))))))), Just wanted to send my love and blessings for a beautiful holiday season. Whatever holiday you choose to celebrate my wish for you is that it may be surrounded by peace and love. I am incredibly blessed to call you family. I will be thinking of you and se...

irish54 · irish54

Hi MIP family, I have needed to post but latekly the pain has been so much that I couldn't. Many of you know the story of my grandaughters living with me now. My oldest grandaughter, who i have had since a baby, she's 17 now; decided week b4 last to just not come home at night, showing up in the m...

afmom03 · afmom03

dessiray · dessiray

thurs he got home at midnight drunk, fri. bailed out, i enabled w/his money, sat. slept most of the day, sunday got up and cleaned garage....said he was sorry, can't drink anymore, feels stupid, won't drink anymore, going to church, going to change. all i can do is listen, if i get my hopes up or be...

HereIam · HereIam

olice: Child Refuses Ride With Drunk Mom POSTED: 5:14 am MST December 16, 2006 UPDATED: 4:35 pm MST December 16, 2006 E-mail this story | Print this story http://www.kpho.com/news/10551836/detail.html Sign Up for Breaking News Alerts MESA, Ariz. -- A 12-year-old boy refused to g...

lmt123 · lmt123

Just wanted to wish all my wonderful family here a blessed Christmas, and a very prosperous New Year! I do love you all,

and I am thankful that I found this site almost two years ago. I hope Santa brings every single one of you every good thing that you need and desire! ...

Diva · Diva

to see Gardengal's lighter post asking us to talk a bit of our favorite Christmas carols. I am sure her post brought a smile to quite a few faces, and we could use that. While I realize that the purpose of MIP is to help the loved ones of abusers deal with their lives, I think an occasional light post is refre...

Spiritually Calm · Spiritually Calm

Since I've been poking around in all of your lives and you have all graciously allowed me to reply to your posts, I thought it was time to share my story. First of all, I am not new to the concept of alanon, I have though, only attended one "physical" meeting. I may return ... who knows. ...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Keep on pondering, and suddenly the flower of mind will bloom with enlightenment, illuminating the whole universe. This can be called getting it in the mind, responding to it in action. Thereupon you can turn the earth into gold and churn the rivers into cream. Wouldn't that make life exhilarating?...

marty · marty

I have this friend who when i write her a email does not write me one back, The way i handle it is i get mad and say what i think and then i get a email I feel i dont deserve this type of treat ment do you think i am wrong to say so or should i stop dealing with this person What do you feel marty

dessiray · dessiray

i have to write...in 97 my a started drnking/na ...for 6 yrs it went on...i was in church and surrounded by support...i finally stood up and put him out after restraining orders, fights and such..he tried suicide which put him in a hospital..he blamed me...he then came out and it started again....

Maria123 · Maria123

((((((((((Friends))))))))))), I have found that I am unable to continue my service work on the Family Teens Room. They meet on Thursdays and Sundays at 8 PM EST. Not only has my schedule changed and the next month is going to be hairy, it's very important for me and others to rotate service wor...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone)))))) My AW, who is living on her own right now... is trying to detox herself. It is very confussing to talk to her right now. One minute she is raging at me over forcing her to do things this way, the next she is crying and wanting me to "entertain her" because she is being go...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

is there anyone out there who has an extra alanon book or can lead me in the right online direction to find a way to get some donated program literature because I need something to read when I am away from the puter. I have not idea when I can get to a f2f meeting. Is anyone willing to help me? Does...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I am sorry I confused everyone with some posts. I think I screwed up and what I thought was posted wasn't. Anyway, the post that said "old donated alanon literature" was the one I am speaking of. I need ESH on the book or books I need to start out with in alanon. I do not get out much due to my health, and I am d...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I know I hae only been here a while, and I may not have senority to be sending so many posts, but this is my haven, my outlet, and you all have so many wonderul suggestions, thoughts, and you truly care. Like I said, I have my A with me under false pretenses. This is MY HUD apartment. But he uses the fact that...

ragingchild · ragingchild

Okay, first you should know the basic information so confusion doesn't set in. Okay my mom lives with her 2nd cousin, which also has the same name as her and was married to my dad first (no, they are not "together" if you know what I mean). Her and my dad had my sister and brother, they divorce...

ragingchild · ragingchild

My world has been twisted turned and flipped in the past month and half. First the murder of my friend's sister, that was a total and complete shock and it was rough watching my friend go through that. Okay, Dec. 1st, my best friend of 21 years, calls me to tell me her mom died last night.&nbs...

ragingchild · ragingchild

OK, so I went to get my mom on her birthday 5 days ago and told her we were going to take her somewhere. I had already decided to take her to bath and body works (I had a great coupon too LOL) to get her some smelly goodies. I let her smell all the stuff and decided I'd pick up a few things (not...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Restraint with the eye is good, good is restraint with the ear. Restraint with the nose is good, good is restraint with the tongue. Restraint with the body is good, good is restraint with speech. Restraint with the heart is good, good is restraint everywhere. A monk everywhere restrained is released...

debilyn · debilyn

If anyone wants pictures email me. I have a few edensheart@centurytel.net. I also got the nerve to ask my animal list people of 12 years to help me fix my pickup. My friends are donated some, I have fifty. my son and his mechanic friend are going to do it. Hopefully it will be done soon. Being up here...

Party for a family member and alcohol · Rosepetals

Hi I am new here but not new to al-anon. My sibblings and I are/were planning a birthday party for our mom. I wanted only a moderate amount of alcohol, as there will be children invited. I would prefer no alcohol but it is not up to me. My siste...

twinkie · twinkie

This is tough...his disease and his weapons of trying to get me angry and anxious are in full throttle. He is not calling as he says he will - all week long and for the past few - he doesn't do what he promises he will do. I know it is futile for me to get angry - I am not dealing with a sane man and his diseas...

annah · annah

I swear I am (used to be?) an upbeat optimistic person who always had high hopes. Sometimes too high I guess. Now, how did I get to be the doomsday prophet. When the bingedrinking A gets sober and swears that all is well with the world I can only listen to a certain amount of what I perceive as bullshit. It is...

maresie2 · maresie2

I have to remind myself when I get slumped down with yet another holiday with the A that there is only two more weeks to go. I know there is a lot of light for me in the nwe year. For one my financial obligation to the A is less. I will finally have paid for the truck that h...

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	NEED SOME INFO (Preview) Hi everyone, Need some feed back on this if you can. Hubs doctor is going to refer him to hospital for detox,as this is the first time he has had this ,i was wondering if anyone can tell me what exactly this entails,is it a day thing or does he have to stay in. Any feedback will be gratefully recieved....	ollie	7	472	Dec 20, 2006 by barisax
	Applying Principles to other areas (Preview) I am on edge this morning. Just feel anxious and uneasy. My ex is picking up the kids for his time with them at Christmas. They will be with him from today through the day after Christmas. I just feel like I could fall apart at any minute. That is so not right I know. ...	hudsond	3	329	Dec 20, 2006 by rtexas
	Forgiveness.... (Preview) (((Everyone))) I don't know when in the steps that I learned to work on forgiveness, but it is such an important tool. The hurt that the alcoholic causes is sometimes unforgiveable, I thought. Now I know that it is important for ME to forgive them in my mind and heart, that this is for me,...	hersh	6	349	Dec 20, 2006 by annmarie
	Anyone else experincing difficulties getting into chat? (Preview) I am just getting unable to connect? Is there a problem with the site? Thank -you ........gardengal	gardengal	5	338	Dec 20, 2006 by gardengal
	Giving up steps 1-12 (Preview) Found this today and thought I would share it , Steps 1-3 are about GIVING UP - I give up the illusion that I can control the alcoholic, that I am sane and the I can manage my life alone. steps 4-6 are about OWNING UP- In these steps I seek the truth about my strengths and weakn...	abbyal	6	486	Dec 20, 2006 by Karilynn
	step one: POWERLESS OVER ALCOHOL (Preview) i looked at him last night laying on the family room bed, relaxed and watching TV. and, in a rare moment of calm, the the thought came to me............, '' HE IS NOT TRYING TO DESTROY ME, I AM NOT TRYING TO DESTROY HIM, THE DISEASE IS DESTROYING US''. bing !!! off in my head goes this litt...	jewely	10	516	Dec 20, 2006 by jewely
	Thanks again Al-anon (Preview) Hi ((((Family)))) I just felt like letting you guys know how my day was today. Actually started last nite. My ex wife called me and asked me to try to find something for her she thought she might have left here at my house when she left. To make a long story short...I didnt have it. And I called her b...	david62	8	484	Dec 20, 2006 by Karilynn
	Once they are drinking, count yourself out (Preview) I have bent over backwards all my life to prove care and love to a family of A's. After 40 yrs of it I left. For 12 years they never noticed I was missing and if i tryed to contact for any reason, it was my fault it was like that. When Hurricane Katrina came and a friend ,supposedly, dropped me at my A daug...	d53sjurne	7	568	Dec 20, 2006 by jewely
	Over reaction (Preview) One of the things the A does pretty regularly is let certain things be cut off. One of them is the internet. today it happened again. For once I said nothing. I normally go into total over reaction mode and feel martyred by his actions. I know now it is nothing personal to me. I also kno...	maresie2	1	350	Dec 20, 2006 by jaja
	obsessions (Preview) i haven't been here in a while. my ex has been hanging around here with the kids and my old patterns have come back full force. he's sober working his program but i have let my boundries slide. and i am mad at myself. very mad. i really want to re-direct my anger towards him but that would accomplish nothing...	serendipity	3	326	Dec 20, 2006 by maresie2
	Update from Kabbie (Preview) i have not posted in awhile, and i wanted to wish everyone a peaceful holiday. my daughter has completed her rehab stay, and is now at a halfway house closer to home. she's attending meetings daily, finding a new sponsor since her move to help her with 4th step, job hunting, making new friends, ...	kabbie	4	394	Dec 20, 2006 by maresie2
	enabling (Preview) A had 2/3 bottle of vodca yesterday. now is very sick today. I think I'm enablling him by worrying about his health. he doesn't want to worry about health until we are at emergency situation. been in detox 2x. the second time almost killed him. We had a plane to c...	carol	6	429	Dec 20, 2006 by maresie2
	Did he hit bottom? (Preview) This is my first post, but I have been reading posts on this board for awhile now and I've learned a lot, so thank you for that. I know I have no control and I have become a lot more calm about his drinking knowing that nothing that I do or say would make any real difference. I have also been pract...	cgolly	11	700	Dec 20, 2006 by maresie2
	Scout (Preview) For those who know the story, here is a picture of my lil' guy. He will be missed (((((Christy))))) Ty for adding the pics and inc a bit of the story. -- Edited by tea2 at 13:43, 2006-12-19	tea2	10	550	Dec 20, 2006 by maresie2
	just me & 100 loads of laundry (Preview) Good morning Everyone, Thanks for the replies to my previous post. The feeling of the doom cloud is passing, and I have a thought that maybe this fire was the reason I was placed in my house with my A for so long. Mom's house will survive and hopefully be redone before I need to move, we all are actually lo...	Jennifer	2	497	Dec 19, 2006 by debilyn
	Powerless... literally (Preview) Electrical power has been out for a week... my email consisted of chiseling stone tablets and shipping them through Bedrock Postal Service. Funny how my serenity was at its greatest when I needed to make sure there was wood chopped, candles on hand, food to keep, cooking in the fireplace, making ba...	CJ	4	365	Dec 19, 2006 by debilyn
	I'm confused... (Preview) I was reading a post and it said there is hope, people do get better and get everything back. I am confused as to how anyone can live like that. Before I moved out I had been living on hope for a long time. Hope he would get better, hope this time it wouldn't happen again, hope I wasn't mak...	carolinagirl	10	511	Dec 19, 2006 by bubbles1990
	Blowing in the winds still (Preview) Hi All, Been a long time since I posted. I still feel like I'm blowing in the winds Of Hurricane Katrina. All is lost of what life I did have . I have moved twice and 1 more to go. And hopefully this time I will be settled for awhile. As some of you know I hadn't seen my family in 10 yrs before Hurr Katrina and...	d53sjurne	9	474	Dec 19, 2006 by Cindy
	How do you overcome the Fear? (Preview) Hi There - First I just wanted to wish everyone a very Merry Christmas. I know for some the holidays is very difficult and a sad reminder of the state of affairs in their life, but I pray for blessings and hope for every person on this board during this season. My way of coping and trying t...	JS	12	1505	Dec 19, 2006 by JS
	hurricane at Eden (Preview) Light now, omg I have to get dressed and go out. Last night was awful and scarey and my guts are like jello. A huge branch came down Sissy and Walters house and went thru the roof. I am praying it did not go in very far. I see the WHOLE ROOF is off the addition on th...	debilyn	8	464	Dec 19, 2006 by Rita G
	Why doesn't mom want us to stay with her? (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) We had a nice time saturday and sunday. AW, 11 year old son and I, went to see some great light displays all over town on Satuday, Sunday we fished for a while and then went bowling. Son and I had planned on staying at the apartment with my AW on Saturday if she wanted us t...	rtexas	8	586	Dec 19, 2006 by Rita G
	a reason for drinking... (Preview) Hi everyone, I was just thinking..... Whilst going through the breakup with my Abf he told me that he absolutely loves to drink and will do so till he dies. He says he thinks about it at work, and looks forward to the evening when he can drink. He feels he deserves it after a hard day. He says he love...	annmarie	2	338	Dec 19, 2006 by Lunamoth
	MISSING TONIGHT'S MEETING (Preview) Hello all. I have been laying down for a lot of the afternoon and do not have enough energy to stay on during the meeting. Pray for me. I am really struggling. I will be back. God Bless Stacie	hippietrippiechick	3	464	Dec 19, 2006 by hippietrippiechick
	it's tough to break up with someone you love (Preview) Hi everyone, I recently broke up from my Abf and have a nice place to live by myself. I know I am very lucky, and I do count my blessings. I miss him a lot though. He's still drinking whenever he has money, and seems to be happy with this. He says he wants to stay friends, and if I'm honest I would like t...	annmarie	9	537	Dec 19, 2006 by Karilynn
	meeting (Preview) hi, i have tried unsuccessfully for half an hour to get into the alanon meeting. i have no idea what a mirc or ir.chat4all is. can anyone enlighten me? sadly disappointed, jewely	jewely	2	334	Dec 19, 2006 by jewely
	How do you pick a sponser? (Preview) I know this question is elementary but I've only been back to Al-Anon a few months. I've been going to a particular meeting where there are about 13 regular people and it's a nice group. I have done a reading or two but I haven't shared yet. I'm getting familiar w...	jaja	1	686	Dec 18, 2006 by Christy
	I am so tired of my alchoholic husband (Preview) How do you guys deal with it? I am so tired of being miserable in this marriage. He drinks every single night. He gets drunk every single night. I caught him sneaking vodka in the garage. I was mortified. He told me today that he wil not quit drinking no matter wha...	desperate for help	12	902	Dec 18, 2006 by jewely
	new to this online alanon site (Preview) hi, my name is jewely and i am a grateful member of alanon. looking for correspondence, and, meetings on line. i love the logo of this site. "MIRACLES IN PROGRESS" Jewely	jewely	10	492	Dec 18, 2006 by carosie
	Northwest Storm in the US (Preview) I am praying for those affected by the storm that went through the Northwest. I understand it was devastating. Many without power. I haven't seen a couple of our MIP's in a couple of days. Hope to see them back in real soon! Ziggy	ZiggyDoodles	9	432	Dec 18, 2006 by Diva
	Alanon meeting in candlelight (Preview) Just wanted to share and perhaps you can incorporate this into your Alanon meetings. Each year at this time we have one alanon meeting where each one of the members bring a candle and some goodies. We each light our candles and dim the lights and have our meeting in difused lighting. It is a nice touch......	gardengal	4	3859	Dec 18, 2006 by Lunamoth
	The Deamon (Preview) The demon in me has come out. My A has been detoxing from h for the past 2 weeks and he has been drunk the whole time drinking at least a 1/5th a day he has been screaming flopping around the house just complete agony and I should feel sorry for him and try to help more but we went through this last January and it...	kingston	6	426	Dec 18, 2006 by kingston
	Merry Xmas (Preview) Hi everyone just wanted to wish you all a safe and Merry Xmas. I am flying out tomorrow to the city to surprise my Mum and Nanna. My Nan is 94 and quite frail and my heart tells me she will not be with us next year. I will be back on the 28th of December. For all of you who are doi...	leo	4	342	Dec 18, 2006 by hudsond
	I can't wait for Christmas (to make amends) (Preview) I can't wait for Christmas morning!!! I have a six year old daughter who is so excited for Christmas that she has been counting down since Dec. 1. This is such a great age! I can't wait to see her face when she comes down the stairs. I am even more excited to make amends to her for ruining her 6th birt...	babysteps	2	313	Dec 18, 2006 by babysteps
	Revelation from interesting weekend (Preview) I forgot to mention that I talked to my sponsor yesterday and told her I felt a little bad because I told my daughter that I didn't want any of the drunk woman's kids coming over. Nothing against them, I just didn't want her drama in my life. Then I realized OH $#!+ Is this why none of us have any...	carolinagirl	0	279	Dec 18, 2006 by carolinagirl
	Interesting weekend.. (Preview) I went over to my new one and only friend's house Sat. nite for margaritas. I brought all the stuff to make this great soup and she was supplying margaritas and all the kids came too. She also has 3 kids. both she and I are recently separated. Everything was great until the neig...	carolinagirl	2	334	Dec 18, 2006 by carolinagirl
	Happy Holidays (Preview) ((((((((((((Family)))))))))), Just wanted to send my love and blessings for a beautiful holiday season. Whatever holiday you choose to celebrate my wish for you is that it may be surrounded by peace and love. I am incredibly blessed to call you family. I will be thinking of you and se...	Karilynn	1	270	Dec 18, 2006 by hersh
	sad Christmas (Preview) Hi MIP family, I have needed to post but latekly the pain has been so much that I couldn't. Many of you know the story of my grandaughters living with me now. My oldest grandaughter, who i have had since a baby, she's 17 now; decided week b4 last to just not come home at night, showing up in the m...	irish54	15	617	Dec 18, 2006 by Karilynn
	Peace/Quiet Ends Today :-( (Preview)	afmom03	4	343	Dec 18, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	another day of uncertainty (Preview) thurs he got home at midnight drunk, fri. bailed out, i enabled w/his money, sat. slept most of the day, sunday got up and cleaned garage....said he was sorry, can't drink anymore, feels stupid, won't drink anymore, going to church, going to change. all i can do is listen, if i get my hopes up or be...	dessiray	3	454	Dec 18, 2006 by carosie
	Smart kid refuses to ride with drunk driver (Preview) olice: Child Refuses Ride With Drunk Mom POSTED: 5:14 am MST December 16, 2006 UPDATED: 4:35 pm MST December 16, 2006 E-mail this story \| Print this story http://www.kpho.com/news/10551836/detail.html Sign Up for Breaking News Alerts MESA, Ariz. -- A 12-year-old boy refused to g...	HereIam	1	349	Dec 18, 2006 by lmt123
	Christmas blessings... (Preview) Just wanted to wish all my wonderful family here a blessed Christmas, and a very prosperous New Year! I do love you all, and I am thankful that I found this site almost two years ago. I hope Santa brings every single one of you every good thing that you need and desire! ...	lmt123	4	412	Dec 18, 2006 by lmt123
	It was so delightful... (Preview) to see Gardengal's lighter post asking us to talk a bit of our favorite Christmas carols. I am sure her post brought a smile to quite a few faces, and we could use that. While I realize that the purpose of MIP is to help the loved ones of abusers deal with their lives, I think an occasional light post is refre...	Diva	10	531	Dec 18, 2006 by Karilynn
	My Story (Preview) Since I've been poking around in all of your lives and you have all graciously allowed me to reply to your posts, I thought it was time to share my story. First of all, I am not new to the concept of alanon, I have though, only attended one "physical" meeting. I may return ... who knows. ...	Spiritually Calm	4	413	Dec 18, 2006 by doxie
	Keep coming back! (Preview) Keep on pondering, and suddenly the flower of mind will bloom with enlightenment, illuminating the whole universe. This can be called getting it in the mind, responding to it in action. Thereupon you can turn the earth into gold and churn the rivers into cream. Wouldn't that make life exhilarating?...	Tiger2006	2	355	Dec 18, 2006 by nmike
	how my day going (Preview) I have this friend who when i write her a email does not write me one back, The way i handle it is i get mad and say what i think and then i get a email I feel i dont deserve this type of treat ment do you think i am wrong to say so or should i stop dealing with this person What do you feel marty	marty	8	379	Dec 17, 2006 by marty
	sorry to bother.... (Preview) i have to write...in 97 my a started drnking/na ...for 6 yrs it went on...i was in church and surrounded by support...i finally stood up and put him out after restraining orders, fights and such..he tried suicide which put him in a hospital..he blamed me...he then came out and it started again....	dessiray	6	600	Dec 17, 2006 by dessiray
	a wonderful opportunity for service work (Preview) ((((((((((Friends))))))))))), I have found that I am unable to continue my service work on the Family Teens Room. They meet on Thursdays and Sundays at 8 PM EST. Not only has my schedule changed and the next month is going to be hairy, it's very important for me and others to rotate service wor...	Maria123	0	281	Dec 17, 2006 by Maria123
	Well I guess I hadn't counted on this... (Preview) (((((Everyone)))))) My AW, who is living on her own right now... is trying to detox herself. It is very confussing to talk to her right now. One minute she is raging at me over forcing her to do things this way, the next she is crying and wanting me to "entertain her" because she is being go...	rtexas	4	516	Dec 17, 2006 by maresie2
	needed a bit of a favor or direction (Preview) is there anyone out there who has an extra alanon book or can lead me in the right online direction to find a way to get some donated program literature because I need something to read when I am away from the puter. I have not idea when I can get to a f2f meeting. Is anyone willing to help me? Does...	hippietrippiechick	3	341	Dec 17, 2006 by gayle
	apology, plus a small request (Preview) I am sorry I confused everyone with some posts. I think I screwed up and what I thought was posted wasn't. Anyway, the post that said "old donated alanon literature" was the one I am speaking of. I need ESH on the book or books I need to start out with in alanon. I do not get out much due to my health, and I am d...	hippietrippiechick	1	341	Dec 17, 2006 by gardengal
	sorry or all the posts, but... (Preview) I know I hae only been here a while, and I may not have senority to be sending so many posts, but this is my haven, my outlet, and you all have so many wonderul suggestions, thoughts, and you truly care. Like I said, I have my A with me under false pretenses. This is MY HUD apartment. But he uses the fact that...	hippietrippiechick	1	355	Dec 17, 2006 by rtexas
	sister living with her mom.... long post again (Preview) Okay, first you should know the basic information so confusion doesn't set in. Okay my mom lives with her 2nd cousin, which also has the same name as her and was married to my dad first (no, they are not "together" if you know what I mean). Her and my dad had my sister and brother, they divorce...	ragingchild	2	436	Dec 17, 2006 by ragingchild
	the past month and half (Preview) My world has been twisted turned and flipped in the past month and half. First the murder of my friend's sister, that was a total and complete shock and it was rough watching my friend go through that. Okay, Dec. 1st, my best friend of 21 years, calls me to tell me her mom died last night.&nbs...	ragingchild	0	376	Dec 17, 2006 by ragingchild
	Mom's Birthday surprise... long, sorry! (Preview) OK, so I went to get my mom on her birthday 5 days ago and told her we were going to take her somewhere. I had already decided to take her to bath and body works (I had a great coupon too LOL) to get her some smelly goodies. I let her smell all the stuff and decided I'd pick up a few things (not...	ragingchild	1	272	Dec 17, 2006 by Spiritually Calm
	Minding my own biznazz.... (Preview) Restraint with the eye is good, good is restraint with the ear. Restraint with the nose is good, good is restraint with the tongue. Restraint with the body is good, good is restraint with speech. Restraint with the heart is good, good is restraint everywhere. A monk everywhere restrained is released...	Tiger2006	2	336	Dec 17, 2006 by maresie2
	forgot (Preview) If anyone wants pictures email me. I have a few edensheart@centurytel.net. I also got the nerve to ask my animal list people of 12 years to help me fix my pickup. My friends are donated some, I have fifty. my son and his mechanic friend are going to do it. Hopefully it will be done soon. Being up here...	debilyn	2	341	Dec 17, 2006 by Maria123
	Party for a family member and alcohol (Preview) Hi I am new here but not new to al-anon. My sibblings and I are/were planning a birthday party for our mom. I wanted only a moderate amount of alcohol, as there will be children invited. I would prefer no alcohol but it is not up to me. My siste...	Rosepetals	5	358	Dec 16, 2006 by ShelBell
	his disease is trying to pull me in again... (Preview) This is tough...his disease and his weapons of trying to get me angry and anxious are in full throttle. He is not calling as he says he will - all week long and for the past few - he doesn't do what he promises he will do. I know it is futile for me to get angry - I am not dealing with a sane man and his diseas...	twinkie	4	391	Dec 16, 2006 by nmike
	optimism versus truth (Preview) I swear I am (used to be?) an upbeat optimistic person who always had high hopes. Sometimes too high I guess. Now, how did I get to be the doomsday prophet. When the bingedrinking A gets sober and swears that all is well with the world I can only listen to a certain amount of what I perceive as bullshit. It is...	annah	3	401	Dec 16, 2006 by Lunamoth
	2 more weeks (Preview) I have to remind myself when I get slumped down with yet another holiday with the A that there is only two more weeks to go. I know there is a lot of light for me in the nwe year. For one my financial obligation to the A is less. I will finally have paid for the truck that h...	maresie2	1	326	Dec 16, 2006 by nmike
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