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Just a vent.
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Just a little while ago the tears started and it made me so mad. Why am I crying over this? Why would I let one person affect me so much? I have been going between fits of anger and crying like a baby for the last few hours. I went to my house today to get some more clothes and t...
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Went on a date last night...
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(((((Everyone)))))
The holiday season is upon us, rushing around decorating and shopping and cleaning up to get ready... whew I am bushed. But an oportunity came up to go out last night with my AW came up last night and I jumped on it.
We had a nice time, she was in a good mood.... and she didn't...
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Is this an AA typical behavor?
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It’s been almost 2-1/2 months when I told the X-AA in m life that I was unable and could not be his friend. Our relationship is over and in my grieving it’s extremely difficult therefore any kind of interaction with this X is not in my best interest or health.
He h...
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You've Gotta Have Boundaries, Baby!
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((((Roomies)))),
I have been taking an inventory of my last relationship and trying to own my side of the street, as it were.
For me, what I can see is now, in hindsight, is that growing up in an A home left me very unclear about what even very basic boundaries are.
I can see now that boundaries are to...
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eeek!
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i am having some trouble making friends with this online system.
do i need to tick the little box at the bottom that says,
email me whenever there is a new post to this topic ?
computer whiz i am not,
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Looking For E,S & H, for Step 4
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((((((((((((((((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))))))))))))
Yours In Recovery
Ally :e...
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vent:Just how far can the disease take you,take from you?
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Letting this out. No one would relate but many of you.
I work on my plan of recovery, it is my life. But being imperfect, things can get to me.
As A is surely living off that old girlfriend of his who has cancer, and I am sure is sharing all her drugs with him...
He has heat for free, food, she drives him a...
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AL-ANON REALLY WORKS
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((((((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))))))))
It's getting to the end of another year, and I think we all reflect on the past year, and how our lives have changed In that time. Sometimes for the better or sometimes for the worst.
My Life has had a dramatic U turn. Last Christmas I was suffering Depres...
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4 days until Christmas and...
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Been a while since I have been here. My hub and I bought the new house and moved in the first of November. Everything had been ok until tonight. Of course, all the things he said he was going to change never change, but I didn't expect it too. He actually started drinking...
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He's getting worse since I'm getting better...
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Well...where do I start really. i have a feeling this is going to be quite a long post so please bear with me!
I am very new to alanon and this board but since coming here I have made great changes in my myself. I can't thank you all enough for responding to my posts, listening to me rant in the...
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PRAYERS FOR SHADOW
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((((((((((((((((((Roomies)))))))))))))))))))))
Our good friend Is going through her surgery tomorrow WED. I would like to offer her some support, and love from all In MIP. I know we are all thinking of her at this time.
We will be saying prayers for you Shadow, and awaiting news from y...
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I've Come a Long Way - Showing Appreciation
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((((Roomies)))),
Recently, in a conversation with a dear friend of mine, she commented how appreciative she was about how thoughtful I had been recently.
When she said this, I felt such a nice glow inside.
And her appreciative attitude really helped generate a shift in attitude toward mysel...
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Happy Holidays
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I just wanted to wish everyone a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. This is my last day of work until Jan. 3rd. I'm not sure I will be getting online-I don't have a computer at home and then we will be traveling. I'm going to miss everyone, so I might be able to use my sister's computer,...
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Gratitude ... for lessons learned in Al Anon
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Dear (((Roomies))),
I am so grateful for this program, for the person who took me by the hand to my first meeting, to John for starting this site with the Board and the twice daily meetings, and to each of you and for all the folks who fill the al anon rooms I've entered, cause it is through you all t...
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Thank you Al Anon
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Until I first went, almost a year ago, I had little clue. Why didn't I go before? I am not alone.
Thank you all.
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Doing good
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I have not posted in a while. I have to tell you that I am doing much better then when I first started here. At this present time my husband is not drinking or drugs. He does have heptaitis but it not in a bad stage that we know of right at this moment. With this program I been able to reach out to other people tha...
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I didn't live a normal life
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Yesterday my siblings and I and our families gathered at my brothers house for a Christmas celebration.
My mother's best friend was there. (My mom is deceased 7 years now)
My mom's friend was happy to see a smile on my face and to hear my plans to move into a new apartment with my boyfriend...
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LIFE
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Hello (((((((((((freinds)))))))))),
Hope you are all well and done fighting the mad Christmas Shopping....lol.....I am doing
a little better these days.....not great...still have my sad moments....now, I think they are becomming more pissed off moments......
Hub calls sometime...
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Finding it hard to gain acceptance of As
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At present I am finding it hard to detach with love. I refuse to speak to my ex-A at present as I can no longer deal with him on any level. I could honestly not send christmas cards to the As in recovery as I am not in that place yet where I can accept the misery that alcoholism brings. This year I refuse to have a...
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Question?
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:I always seem to doubt myself and always seem like I am in a turmoil? I am sure its me-I know I am codependent. sorry---anyway last week I talked about my DIL-re: talking about amy son at lunch, etc.etc. I do feel I "stood" my for myself finally! But now she does'nt call or let me know she is not comin...
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New to Alanon
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I'm new to Alanon and was wondering why Alanon people do the 12 steps and have a sponsor? I thought the 12 steps were for people who have the addiction?
Thanks,
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Trouble keeping the focus today
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Well, I never would have guessed I was human after all. I have always been one tough cookie in the terms of, you just aren't going to get me to cryin'. Sure it has happened here and there. Since coming in the program, I found a new strength. Tears just didn't happen, but it was di...
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NEED SOME INFO
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Hi everyone,
Need some feed back on this if you can.
Hubs doctor is going to refer him to hospital for detox,as this is the first time he has had this ,i was wondering if anyone can tell me what exactly this entails,is it a day thing or does he have to stay in.
Any feedback will be gratefully recieved....
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Applying Principles to other areas
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I am on edge this morning. Just feel anxious and uneasy. My ex is picking up the kids for his time with them at Christmas. They will be with him from today through the day after Christmas. I just feel like I could fall apart at any minute. That is so not right I know. ...
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Forgiveness....
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(((Everyone)))
I don't know when in the steps that I learned to work on forgiveness, but it is such an important tool. The hurt that the alcoholic causes is sometimes unforgiveable, I thought. Now I know that it is important for ME to forgive them in my mind and heart, that this is for me,...
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Anyone else experincing difficulties getting into chat?
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I am just getting unable to connect? Is there a problem with the site?
Thank -you ........gardengal
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Giving up steps 1-12
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Found this today and thought I would share it ,
Steps 1-3 are about GIVING UP - I give up the illusion that I can control the alcoholic, that I am sane and the I can manage my life alone.
steps 4-6 are about OWNING UP- In these steps I seek the truth about my strengths and weakn...
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step one: POWERLESS OVER ALCOHOL
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i looked at him last night laying on the family room bed, relaxed and watching TV.
and,
in a rare moment of calm,
the the thought came to me............,
'' HE IS NOT TRYING TO DESTROY ME,
I AM NOT TRYING TO DESTROY HIM,
THE DISEASE IS DESTROYING US''.
bing !!!
off in my head goes this litt...
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Thanks again Al-anon
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Hi ((((Family))))
I just felt like letting you guys know how my day was today.
Actually started last nite. My ex wife called me and asked me to try to find something for her she thought she might have left here at my house when she left. To make a long story short...I didnt have it. And I called her b...
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Once they are drinking, count yourself out
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I have bent over backwards all my life to prove care and love to a family of A's. After 40 yrs of it I left. For 12 years they never noticed I was missing and if i tryed to contact for any reason, it was my fault it was like that. When Hurricane Katrina came and a friend ,supposedly, dropped me at my A daug...
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Over reaction
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One of the things the A does pretty regularly is let certain things be cut off. One of them is the internet. today it happened again. For once I said nothing. I normally go into total over reaction mode and feel martyred by his actions. I know now it is nothing personal to me. I also kno...
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obsessions
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i haven't been here in a while. my ex has been hanging around here with the kids and my old patterns have come back full force. he's sober working his program but i have let my boundries slide. and i am mad at myself. very mad. i really want to re-direct my anger towards him but that would accomplish nothing...
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Update from Kabbie
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i have not posted in awhile, and i wanted to wish everyone a peaceful holiday.
my daughter has completed her rehab stay, and is now at a halfway house closer to home. she's attending meetings daily, finding a new sponsor since her move to help her with 4th step, job hunting, making new friends, ...
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enabling
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A had 2/3 bottle of vodca yesterday. now is very sick today. I think I'm enablling him by worrying about his health. he doesn't want to worry about health until we are at emergency situation. been in detox 2x. the second time almost killed him. We had a plane to c...
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Did he hit bottom?
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This is my first post, but I have been reading posts on this board for awhile now and I've learned a lot, so thank you for that. I know I have no control and I have become a lot more calm about his drinking knowing that nothing that I do or say would make any real difference. I have also been pract...
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Scout
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For those who know the story, here is a picture of my lil' guy. He will be missed 
(((((Christy)))))
Ty for adding the pics and inc a bit of the story. -- Edited by tea2 at 13:43, 2006-12-19
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just me & 100 loads of laundry
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Good morning Everyone,
Thanks for the replies to my previous post. The feeling of the doom cloud is passing, and I have a thought that maybe this fire was the reason I was placed in my house with my A for so long. Mom's house will survive and hopefully be redone before I need to move, we all are actually lo...
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Powerless... literally
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Electrical power has been out for a week... my email consisted of chiseling stone tablets and shipping them through Bedrock Postal Service.
Funny how my serenity was at its greatest when I needed to make sure there was wood chopped, candles on hand, food to keep, cooking in the fireplace, making ba...
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I'm confused...
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I was reading a post and it said there is hope, people do get better and get everything back. I am confused as to how anyone can live like that. Before I moved out I had been living on hope for a long time. Hope he would get better, hope this time it wouldn't happen again, hope I wasn't mak...
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Blowing in the winds still
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Hi All,
Been a long time since I posted. I still feel like I'm blowing in the winds Of Hurricane Katrina. All is lost of what life I did have . I have moved twice and 1 more to go. And hopefully this time I will be settled for awhile.
As some of you know I hadn't seen my family in 10 yrs before Hurr Katrina and...
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How do you overcome the Fear?
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Hi There -
First I just wanted to wish everyone a very Merry Christmas. I know for some the holidays is very difficult and a sad reminder of the state of affairs in their life, but I pray for blessings and hope for every person on this board during this season.
My way of coping and trying t...
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hurricane at Eden
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Light now, omg I have to get dressed and go out.
Last night was awful and scarey and my guts are like jello.
A huge branch came down Sissy and Walters house and went thru the roof. I am praying it did not go in very far.
I see the WHOLE ROOF is off the addition on th...
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Why doesn't mom want us to stay with her?
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(((((Everyone)))))
We had a nice time saturday and sunday. AW, 11 year old son and I, went to see some great light displays all over town on Satuday, Sunday we fished for a while and then went bowling. Son and I had planned on staying at the apartment with my AW on Saturday if she wanted us t...
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a reason for drinking...
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Hi everyone,
I was just thinking.....
Whilst going through the breakup with my Abf he told me that he absolutely loves to drink and will do so till he dies. He says he thinks about it at work, and looks forward to the evening when he can drink. He feels he deserves it after a hard day. He says he love...
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MISSING TONIGHT'S MEETING
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Hello all. I have been laying down for a lot of the afternoon and do not have enough energy to stay on during the meeting. Pray for me. I am really struggling.
I will be back.
God Bless
Stacie
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it's tough to break up with someone you love
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Hi everyone,
I recently broke up from my Abf and have a nice place to live by myself. I know I am very lucky, and I do count my blessings. I miss him a lot though.
He's still drinking whenever he has money, and seems to be happy with this.
He says he wants to stay friends, and if I'm honest I would like t...
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annmarie
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meeting
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hi,
i have tried unsuccessfully for half an hour to get into the alanon meeting.
i have no idea what a mirc or ir.chat4all is.
can anyone enlighten me?
sadly disappointed,
jewely
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How do you pick a sponser?
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I know this question is elementary but I've only been back to Al-Anon a few months. I've been going to a particular meeting where there are about 13 regular people and it's a nice group. I have done a reading or two but I haven't shared yet. I'm getting familiar w...
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I am so tired of my alchoholic husband
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How do you guys deal with it? I am so tired of being miserable in this marriage. He drinks every single night. He gets drunk every single night. I caught him sneaking vodka in the garage. I was mortified. He told me today that he wil not quit drinking no matter wha...
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new to this online alanon site
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hi,
my name is jewely and i am a grateful member of alanon.
looking for correspondence,
and,
meetings on line.
i love the logo of this site.
"MIRACLES IN PROGRESS"
Jewely
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Northwest Storm in the US
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I am praying for those affected by the storm that went through the Northwest. I understand it was devastating. Many without power. I haven't seen a couple of our MIP's in a couple of days. Hope to see them back in real soon!
Ziggy
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Alanon meeting in candlelight
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Just wanted to share and perhaps you can incorporate this into your Alanon meetings. Each year at this time we have one alanon meeting where each one of the members bring a candle and some goodies. We each light our candles and dim the lights and have our meeting in difused lighting. It is a nice touch......
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The Deamon
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The demon in me has come out. My A has been detoxing from h for the past 2 weeks and he has been drunk the whole time drinking at least a 1/5th a day he has been screaming flopping around the house just complete agony and I should feel sorry for him and try to help more but we went through this last January and it...
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Merry Xmas
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Hi everyone just wanted to wish you all a safe and Merry Xmas. I am flying out tomorrow to the city to surprise my Mum and Nanna. My Nan is 94 and quite frail and my heart tells me she will not be with us next year. I will be back on the 28th of December. For all of you who are doi...
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I can't wait for Christmas (to make amends)
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I can't wait for Christmas morning!!! I have a six year old daughter who is so excited for Christmas that she has been counting down since Dec. 1. This is such a great age! I can't wait to see her face when she comes down the stairs.
I am even more excited to make amends to her for ruining her 6th birt...
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Revelation from interesting weekend
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I forgot to mention that I talked to my sponsor yesterday and told her I felt a little bad because I told my daughter that I didn't want any of the drunk woman's kids coming over. Nothing against them, I just didn't want her drama in my life. Then I realized OH $#!+ Is this why none of us have any...
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Interesting weekend..
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I went over to my new one and only friend's house Sat. nite for margaritas. I brought all the stuff to make this great soup and she was supplying margaritas and all the kids came too. She also has 3 kids. both she and I are recently separated. Everything was great until the neig...
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Happy Holidays
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((((((((((((Family)))))))))),
Just wanted to send my love and blessings for a beautiful holiday season. Whatever holiday you choose to celebrate my wish for you is that it may be surrounded by peace and love. I am incredibly blessed to call you family. I will be thinking of you and se...
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sad Christmas
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Hi MIP family,
I have needed to post but latekly the pain has been so much that I couldn't.
Many of you know the story of my grandaughters living with me now.
My oldest grandaughter, who i have had since a baby, she's 17 now; decided week b4 last to just not come home at night, showing up in the m...
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Peace/Quiet Ends Today :-(
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