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tea2 · tea2

A few of you may know part of this and for those that don’t I will explain a bit so when I get to the real story of yesterday you will know why I am a *tad upset and sharing all this. Son is now 17, it has been well over a year (no weekend visitations, holidays or vacations) since his functioning, qua...

Rita G · Rita G

Most of you have been so supportive & wonderful in listening to me vent over the past year about the house drama - we even did a little dance a two weeks ago when the delivered it. So, two and half weeks later you would think everything would be awesome - we would be snuggled in, decorated and rea...

mama_nz · mama_nz

I think I may have gone too far - Last night my ex (A) left messages asking me to call him, because he said he had a toothache and was feeling 'kaka'. All could think of was 'take a Tylenol then' (haha!)... I never thought I'd reach a point where I almost don't care. In the past I'd probably th...

Bsmiles822 · Bsmiles822

Hello everyone! I am new here and I am in need of some advice from people who know exactly what I am going through... My story in brief... I have been married for 2 years to my husband who is an A. We have been together for 5 and 1/2 years. My husbands father and grandparents all A! The only one still alive...

omajoy · omajoy

I have read on posts here re: allowing fathers to see their children if fathers are drinking. I have read that legally fathers who are drinking do not have to be allowed to see the children. How much drinking are we talking about here? Is there a limit? Who determines? Is there a test? And now my rea...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((((((ROOMIES))))))))))))) I have a wee cousin, He Is 17 years old. He has been fighting cancer for the last 5 years or longer. He has been In remission, his cancer returned. He has had numerous treatments, operations. Now the Doctors are saying, there Is no...

twinkie · twinkie

Thank you to everyone on this board! Your friendship and support has been a tremendous blessing to me this year. Whether you've replied to my messages or posted your own, you've helped me more than I can thank you. It is my hope for you that you have a beautiful holiday and can find the ble...

afmom03 · afmom03

Becky1 · Becky1

Today is going to be a whirlwind of activity around here. This past week since getting back from out of town with grandbaby, I have made 2 more gingerbread houses, a decorated gingerbread man for all my friends at work (about 48 of them), some more for people's kids. I just delievered the l...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I hope someone can help me with my last few posts. I am really exhausted thinking about all this:

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hello everyone, well, last night when he came home my A had it heavy on his mind to do some serious drinking. I could see and feel it. I was straight up and said go somewhere. Have a buddy pick you up. Just let me have some time by myslef. some wonderful rest. I stayed up all night on the puter, but it was nice...

melamom815 · melamom815

Just a little while ago the tears started and it made me so mad. Why am I crying over this? Why would I let one person affect me so much? I have been going between fits of anger and crying like a baby for the last few hours. I went to my house today to get some more clothes and t...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) The holiday season is upon us, rushing around decorating and shopping and cleaning up to get ready... whew I am bushed. But an oportunity came up to go out last night with my AW came up last night and I jumped on it. We had a nice time, she was in a good mood.... and she didn't...

angelnomore · angelnomore

It’s been almost 2-1/2 months when I told the X-AA in m life that I was unable and could not be his friend. Our relationship is over and in my grieving it’s extremely difficult therefore any kind of interaction with this X is not in my best interest or health. He h...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

((((Roomies)))), I have been taking an inventory of my last relationship and trying to own my side of the street, as it were. For me, what I can see is now, in hindsight, is that growing up in an A home left me very unclear about what even very basic boundaries are. I can see now that boundaries are to...

jewely · jewely

i am having some trouble making friends with this online system. do i need to tick the little box at the bottom that says, email me whenever there is a new post to this topic ? computer whiz i am not, jewely

ally · ally

((((((((((((((((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))))))))))))

Yours In Recovery Ally

:e...

debilyn · debilyn

Letting this out. No one would relate but many of you. I work on my plan of recovery, it is my life. But being imperfect, things can get to me. As A is surely living off that old girlfriend of his who has cancer, and I am sure is sharing all her drugs with him... He has heat for free, food, she drives him a...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((Roomies)))))))))))))))))) It's getting to the end of another year, and I think we all reflect on the past year, and how our lives have changed In that time. Sometimes for the better or sometimes for the worst. My Life has had a dramatic U turn. Last Christmas I was suffering Depres...

melamom815 · melamom815

Been a while since I have been here. My hub and I bought the new house and moved in the first of November. Everything had been ok until tonight. Of course, all the things he said he was going to change never change, but I didn't expect it too. He actually started drinking...

bear · bear

Well...where do I start really. i have a feeling this is going to be quite a long post so please bear with me! I am very new to alanon and this board but since coming here I have made great changes in my myself. I can't thank you all enough for responding to my posts, listening to me rant in the...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))))))))))) Our good friend Is going through her surgery tomorrow WED. I would like to offer her some support, and love from all In MIP. I know we are all thinking of her at this time. We will be saying prayers for you Shadow, and awaiting news from y...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

((((Roomies)))), Recently, in a conversation with a dear friend of mine, she commented how appreciative she was about how thoughtful I had been recently. When she said this, I felt such a nice glow inside. And her appreciative attitude really helped generate a shift in attitude toward mysel...

hudsond · hudsond

I just wanted to wish everyone a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. This is my last day of work until Jan. 3rd. I'm not sure I will be getting online-I don't have a computer at home and then we will be traveling. I'm going to miss everyone, so I might be able to use my sister's computer,...

emma · emma

Dear (((Roomies))), I am so grateful for this program, for the person who took me by the hand to my first meeting, to John for starting this site with the Board and the twice daily meetings, and to each of you and for all the folks who fill the al anon rooms I've entered, cause it is through you all t...

HereIam · HereIam

Until I first went, almost a year ago, I had little clue. Why didn't I go before? I am not alone. Thank you all.

nycbt · nycbt

I have not posted in a while. I have to tell you that I am doing much better then when I first started here. At this present time my husband is not drinking or drugs. He does have heptaitis but it not in a bad stage that we know of right at this moment. With this program I been able to reach out to other people tha...

megan · megan

Yesterday my siblings and I and our families gathered at my brothers house for a Christmas celebration. My mother's best friend was there. (My mom is deceased 7 years now) My mom's friend was happy to see a smile on my face and to hear my plans to move into a new apartment with my boyfriend...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello (((((((((((freinds)))))))))), Hope you are all well and done fighting the mad Christmas Shopping....lol.....I am doing a little better these days.....not great...still have my sad moments....now, I think they are becomming more pissed off moments...... Hub calls sometime...

maire rua · maire rua

At present I am finding it hard to detach with love. I refuse to speak to my ex-A at present as I can no longer deal with him on any level. I could honestly not send christmas cards to the As in recovery as I am not in that place yet where I can accept the misery that alcoholism brings. This year I refuse to have a...

meagain · meagain

:I always seem to doubt myself and always seem like I am in a turmoil? I am sure its me-I know I am codependent. sorry---anyway last week I talked about my DIL-re: talking about amy son at lunch, etc.etc. I do feel I "stood" my for myself finally! But now she does'nt call or let me know she is not comin...

Roxy Girl · Roxy Girl

I'm new to Alanon and was wondering why Alanon people do the 12 steps and have a sponsor? I thought the 12 steps were for people who have the addiction? Thanks,

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

Well, I never would have guessed I was human after all. I have always been one tough cookie in the terms of, you just aren't going to get me to cryin'. Sure it has happened here and there. Since coming in the program, I found a new strength. Tears just didn't happen, but it was di...

ollie · ollie

Hi everyone, Need some feed back on this if you can. Hubs doctor is going to refer him to hospital for detox,as this is the first time he has had this ,i was wondering if anyone can tell me what exactly this entails,is it a day thing or does he have to stay in. Any feedback will be gratefully recieved....

hudsond · hudsond

I am on edge this morning. Just feel anxious and uneasy. My ex is picking up the kids for his time with them at Christmas. They will be with him from today through the day after Christmas. I just feel like I could fall apart at any minute. That is so not right I know. ...

hersh · hersh

(((Everyone))) I don't know when in the steps that I learned to work on forgiveness, but it is such an important tool. The hurt that the alcoholic causes is sometimes unforgiveable, I thought. Now I know that it is important for ME to forgive them in my mind and heart, that this is for me,...

gardengal · gardengal

I am just getting unable to connect? Is there a problem with the site? Thank -you ........gardengal

abbyal · abbyal

Found this today and thought I would share it , Steps 1-3 are about GIVING UP - I give up the illusion that I can control the alcoholic, that I am sane and the I can manage my life alone. steps 4-6 are about OWNING UP- In these steps I seek the truth about my strengths and weakn...

jewely · jewely

i looked at him last night laying on the family room bed, relaxed and watching TV. and, in a rare moment of calm, the the thought came to me............, '' HE IS NOT TRYING TO DESTROY ME, I AM NOT TRYING TO DESTROY HIM, THE DISEASE IS DESTROYING US''. bing !!! off in my head goes this litt...

david62 · david62

Hi ((((Family)))) I just felt like letting you guys know how my day was today. Actually started last nite. My ex wife called me and asked me to try to find something for her she thought she might have left here at my house when she left. To make a long story short...I didnt have it. And I called her b...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

I have bent over backwards all my life to prove care and love to a family of A's. After 40 yrs of it I left. For 12 years they never noticed I was missing and if i tryed to contact for any reason, it was my fault it was like that. When Hurricane Katrina came and a friend ,supposedly, dropped me at my A daug...

maresie2 · maresie2

One of the things the A does pretty regularly is let certain things be cut off. One of them is the internet. today it happened again. For once I said nothing. I normally go into total over reaction mode and feel martyred by his actions. I know now it is nothing personal to me. I also kno...

serendipity · serendipity

i haven't been here in a while. my ex has been hanging around here with the kids and my old patterns have come back full force. he's sober working his program but i have let my boundries slide. and i am mad at myself. very mad. i really want to re-direct my anger towards him but that would accomplish nothing...

kabbie · kabbie

i have not posted in awhile, and i wanted to wish everyone a peaceful holiday. my daughter has completed her rehab stay, and is now at a halfway house closer to home. she's attending meetings daily, finding a new sponsor since her move to help her with 4th step, job hunting, making new friends, ...

carol · carol

A had 2/3 bottle of vodca yesterday. now is very sick today. I think I'm enablling him by worrying about his health. he doesn't want to worry about health until we are at emergency situation. been in detox 2x. the second time almost killed him. We had a plane to c...

cgolly · cgolly

This is my first post, but I have been reading posts on this board for awhile now and I've learned a lot, so thank you for that. I know I have no control and I have become a lot more calm about his drinking knowing that nothing that I do or say would make any real difference. I have also been pract...

tea2 · tea2

For those who know the story, here is a picture of my lil' guy. He will be missed

(((((Christy))))) Ty for adding the pics and inc a bit of the story. -- Edited by tea2 at 13:43, 2006-12-19

Jennifer · Jennifer

Good morning Everyone, Thanks for the replies to my previous post. The feeling of the doom cloud is passing, and I have a thought that maybe this fire was the reason I was placed in my house with my A for so long. Mom's house will survive and hopefully be redone before I need to move, we all are actually lo...

CJ · CJ

Electrical power has been out for a week... my email consisted of chiseling stone tablets and shipping them through Bedrock Postal Service. Funny how my serenity was at its greatest when I needed to make sure there was wood chopped, candles on hand, food to keep, cooking in the fireplace, making ba...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I was reading a post and it said there is hope, people do get better and get everything back. I am confused as to how anyone can live like that. Before I moved out I had been living on hope for a long time. Hope he would get better, hope this time it wouldn't happen again, hope I wasn't mak...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

Hi All, Been a long time since I posted. I still feel like I'm blowing in the winds Of Hurricane Katrina. All is lost of what life I did have . I have moved twice and 1 more to go. And hopefully this time I will be settled for awhile. As some of you know I hadn't seen my family in 10 yrs before Hurr Katrina and...

JS · JS

Hi There - First I just wanted to wish everyone a very Merry Christmas. I know for some the holidays is very difficult and a sad reminder of the state of affairs in their life, but I pray for blessings and hope for every person on this board during this season. My way of coping and trying t...

debilyn · debilyn

Light now, omg I have to get dressed and go out. Last night was awful and scarey and my guts are like jello. A huge branch came down Sissy and Walters house and went thru the roof. I am praying it did not go in very far. I see the WHOLE ROOF is off the addition on th...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) We had a nice time saturday and sunday. AW, 11 year old son and I, went to see some great light displays all over town on Satuday, Sunday we fished for a while and then went bowling. Son and I had planned on staying at the apartment with my AW on Saturday if she wanted us t...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, I was just thinking..... Whilst going through the breakup with my Abf he told me that he absolutely loves to drink and will do so till he dies. He says he thinks about it at work, and looks forward to the evening when he can drink. He feels he deserves it after a hard day. He says he love...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hello all. I have been laying down for a lot of the afternoon and do not have enough energy to stay on during the meeting. Pray for me. I am really struggling. I will be back. God Bless Stacie

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, I recently broke up from my Abf and have a nice place to live by myself. I know I am very lucky, and I do count my blessings. I miss him a lot though. He's still drinking whenever he has money, and seems to be happy with this. He says he wants to stay friends, and if I'm honest I would like t...

jewely · jewely

hi, i have tried unsuccessfully for half an hour to get into the alanon meeting. i have no idea what a mirc or ir.chat4all is. can anyone enlighten me? sadly disappointed, jewely

jaja · jaja

I know this question is elementary but I've only been back to Al-Anon a few months. I've been going to a particular meeting where there are about 13 regular people and it's a nice group. I have done a reading or two but I haven't shared yet. I'm getting familiar w...

desperate for help · desperate for help

How do you guys deal with it? I am so tired of being miserable in this marriage. He drinks every single night. He gets drunk every single night. I caught him sneaking vodka in the garage. I was mortified. He told me today that he wil not quit drinking no matter wha...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	long update and a share (Preview) A few of you may know part of this and for those that don’t I will explain a bit so when I get to the real story of yesterday you will know why I am a *tad upset and sharing all this. Son is now 17, it has been well over a year (no weekend visitations, holidays or vacations) since his functioning, qua...	tea2	7	487	Dec 23, 2006 by tea2
	The House Saga continues . . . (Preview) Most of you have been so supportive & wonderful in listening to me vent over the past year about the house drama - we even did a little dance a two weeks ago when the delivered it. So, two and half weeks later you would think everything would be awesome - we would be snuggled in, decorated and rea...	Rita G	7	488	Dec 22, 2006 by CJ
	The Ice Queen of Christmas? (Preview) I think I may have gone too far - Last night my ex (A) left messages asking me to call him, because he said he had a toothache and was feeling 'kaka'. All could think of was 'take a Tylenol then' (haha!)... I never thought I'd reach a point where I almost don't care. In the past I'd probably th...	mama_nz	4	407	Dec 22, 2006 by irish54
	New here and need advice (Preview) Hello everyone! I am new here and I am in need of some advice from people who know exactly what I am going through... My story in brief... I have been married for 2 years to my husband who is an A. We have been together for 5 and 1/2 years. My husbands father and grandparents all A! The only one still alive...	Bsmiles822	8	440	Dec 22, 2006 by twinkie
	just a question for my confusion (Preview) I have read on posts here re: allowing fathers to see their children if fathers are drinking. I have read that legally fathers who are drinking do not have to be allowed to see the children. How much drinking are we talking about here? Is there a limit? Who determines? Is there a test? And now my rea...	omajoy	7	423	Dec 22, 2006 by lin0606
	ASKING FOR EVERYONE TO PRAY FOR LIAM (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((ROOMIES))))))))))))) I have a wee cousin, He Is 17 years old. He has been fighting cancer for the last 5 years or longer. He has been In remission, his cancer returned. He has had numerous treatments, operations. Now the Doctors are saying, there Is no...	ally	5	571	Dec 22, 2006 by lilms
	Thank you and Merry Christmas to you... (Preview) Thank you to everyone on this board! Your friendship and support has been a tremendous blessing to me this year. Whether you've replied to my messages or posted your own, you've helped me more than I can thank you. It is my hope for you that you have a beautiful holiday and can find the ble...	twinkie	1	262	Dec 22, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	OH GOSH! One Hour To Go.... (Preview)	afmom03	2	320	Dec 22, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Merry Christmas, or Happy Whatever Holiday You Celebrate! (Preview) Today is going to be a whirlwind of activity around here. This past week since getting back from out of town with grandbaby, I have made 2 more gingerbread houses, a decorated gingerbread man for all my friends at work (about 48 of them), some more for people's kids. I just delievered the l...	Becky1	1	221	Dec 22, 2006 by Karilynn
	old donated alanon literature (Preview) I hope someone can help me with my last few posts. I am really exhausted thinking about all this:	hippietrippiechick	2	362	Dec 22, 2006 by hippietrippiechick
	he went out last night--usually drinks at home? (Preview) Hello everyone, well, last night when he came home my A had it heavy on his mind to do some serious drinking. I could see and feel it. I was straight up and said go somewhere. Have a buddy pick you up. Just let me have some time by myslef. some wonderful rest. I stayed up all night on the puter, but it was nice...	hippietrippiechick	0	250	Dec 22, 2006 by hippietrippiechick
	Just a vent. (Preview) Just a little while ago the tears started and it made me so mad. Why am I crying over this? Why would I let one person affect me so much? I have been going between fits of anger and crying like a baby for the last few hours. I went to my house today to get some more clothes and t...	melamom815	2	316	Dec 22, 2006 by mama_nz
	Went on a date last night... (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) The holiday season is upon us, rushing around decorating and shopping and cleaning up to get ready... whew I am bushed. But an oportunity came up to go out last night with my AW came up last night and I jumped on it. We had a nice time, she was in a good mood.... and she didn't...	rtexas	11	549	Dec 21, 2006 by CJ
	Is this an AA typical behavor? (Preview) It’s been almost 2-1/2 months when I told the X-AA in m life that I was unable and could not be his friend. Our relationship is over and in my grieving it’s extremely difficult therefore any kind of interaction with this X is not in my best interest or health. He h...	angelnomore	5	505	Dec 21, 2006 by Kethry
	You've Gotta Have Boundaries, Baby! (Preview) ((((Roomies)))), I have been taking an inventory of my last relationship and trying to own my side of the street, as it were. For me, what I can see is now, in hindsight, is that growing up in an A home left me very unclear about what even very basic boundaries are. I can see now that boundaries are to...	BlueCloud	4	508	Dec 21, 2006 by twinkie
	eeek! (Preview) i am having some trouble making friends with this online system. do i need to tick the little box at the bottom that says, email me whenever there is a new post to this topic ? computer whiz i am not, jewely	jewely	3	307	Dec 21, 2006 by jewely
	Looking For E,S & H, for Step 4 (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((((((((Roomies)))))))))))))))))))))) Yours In Recovery Ally:e...	ally	4	746	Dec 21, 2006 by Rita G
	vent:Just how far can the disease take you,take from you? (Preview) Letting this out. No one would relate but many of you. I work on my plan of recovery, it is my life. But being imperfect, things can get to me. As A is surely living off that old girlfriend of his who has cancer, and I am sure is sharing all her drugs with him... He has heat for free, food, she drives him a...	debilyn	7	469	Dec 21, 2006 by debilyn
	AL-ANON REALLY WORKS (Preview) ((((((((((((((Roomies)))))))))))))))))) It's getting to the end of another year, and I think we all reflect on the past year, and how our lives have changed In that time. Sometimes for the better or sometimes for the worst. My Life has had a dramatic U turn. Last Christmas I was suffering Depres...	ally	4	591	Dec 21, 2006 by Roxy Girl
	4 days until Christmas and... (Preview) Been a while since I have been here. My hub and I bought the new house and moved in the first of November. Everything had been ok until tonight. Of course, all the things he said he was going to change never change, but I didn't expect it too. He actually started drinking...	melamom815	4	473	Dec 21, 2006 by Christy
	He's getting worse since I'm getting better... (Preview) Well...where do I start really. i have a feeling this is going to be quite a long post so please bear with me! I am very new to alanon and this board but since coming here I have made great changes in my myself. I can't thank you all enough for responding to my posts, listening to me rant in the...	bear	8	466	Dec 21, 2006 by carol
	PRAYERS FOR SHADOW (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))))))))))) Our good friend Is going through her surgery tomorrow WED. I would like to offer her some support, and love from all In MIP. I know we are all thinking of her at this time. We will be saying prayers for you Shadow, and awaiting news from y...	ally	20	847	Dec 21, 2006 by carol
	I've Come a Long Way - Showing Appreciation (Preview) ((((Roomies)))), Recently, in a conversation with a dear friend of mine, she commented how appreciative she was about how thoughtful I had been recently. When she said this, I felt such a nice glow inside. And her appreciative attitude really helped generate a shift in attitude toward mysel...	BlueCloud	1	366	Dec 21, 2006 by nmike
	Happy Holidays (Preview) I just wanted to wish everyone a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. This is my last day of work until Jan. 3rd. I'm not sure I will be getting online-I don't have a computer at home and then we will be traveling. I'm going to miss everyone, so I might be able to use my sister's computer,...	hudsond	4	351	Dec 21, 2006 by Karilynn
	Gratitude ... for lessons learned in Al Anon (Preview) Dear (((Roomies))), I am so grateful for this program, for the person who took me by the hand to my first meeting, to John for starting this site with the Board and the twice daily meetings, and to each of you and for all the folks who fill the al anon rooms I've entered, cause it is through you all t...	emma	1	410	Dec 20, 2006 by Lunamoth
	Thank you Al Anon (Preview) Until I first went, almost a year ago, I had little clue. Why didn't I go before? I am not alone. Thank you all.	HereIam	1	273	Dec 20, 2006 by Christy
	Doing good (Preview) I have not posted in a while. I have to tell you that I am doing much better then when I first started here. At this present time my husband is not drinking or drugs. He does have heptaitis but it not in a bad stage that we know of right at this moment. With this program I been able to reach out to other people tha...	nycbt	4	262	Dec 20, 2006 by Maria123
	I didn't live a normal life (Preview) Yesterday my siblings and I and our families gathered at my brothers house for a Christmas celebration. My mother's best friend was there. (My mom is deceased 7 years now) My mom's friend was happy to see a smile on my face and to hear my plans to move into a new apartment with my boyfriend...	megan	7	474	Dec 20, 2006 by Maria123
	LIFE (Preview) Hello (((((((((((freinds)))))))))), Hope you are all well and done fighting the mad Christmas Shopping....lol.....I am doing a little better these days.....not great...still have my sad moments....now, I think they are becomming more pissed off moments...... Hub calls sometime...	Andrea12	9	451	Dec 20, 2006 by Maria123
	Finding it hard to gain acceptance of As (Preview) At present I am finding it hard to detach with love. I refuse to speak to my ex-A at present as I can no longer deal with him on any level. I could honestly not send christmas cards to the As in recovery as I am not in that place yet where I can accept the misery that alcoholism brings. This year I refuse to have a...	maire rua	4	473	Dec 20, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Question? (Preview) :I always seem to doubt myself and always seem like I am in a turmoil? I am sure its me-I know I am codependent. sorry---anyway last week I talked about my DIL-re: talking about amy son at lunch, etc.etc. I do feel I "stood" my for myself finally! But now she does'nt call or let me know she is not comin...	meagain	3	314	Dec 20, 2006 by Tiger2006
	New to Alanon (Preview) I'm new to Alanon and was wondering why Alanon people do the 12 steps and have a sponsor? I thought the 12 steps were for people who have the addiction? Thanks,	Roxy Girl	3	300	Dec 20, 2006 by ally
	Trouble keeping the focus today (Preview) Well, I never would have guessed I was human after all. I have always been one tough cookie in the terms of, you just aren't going to get me to cryin'. Sure it has happened here and there. Since coming in the program, I found a new strength. Tears just didn't happen, but it was di...	ZiggyDoodles	3	359	Dec 20, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	NEED SOME INFO (Preview) Hi everyone, Need some feed back on this if you can. Hubs doctor is going to refer him to hospital for detox,as this is the first time he has had this ,i was wondering if anyone can tell me what exactly this entails,is it a day thing or does he have to stay in. Any feedback will be gratefully recieved....	ollie	7	412	Dec 20, 2006 by barisax
	Applying Principles to other areas (Preview) I am on edge this morning. Just feel anxious and uneasy. My ex is picking up the kids for his time with them at Christmas. They will be with him from today through the day after Christmas. I just feel like I could fall apart at any minute. That is so not right I know. ...	hudsond	3	266	Dec 20, 2006 by rtexas
	Forgiveness.... (Preview) (((Everyone))) I don't know when in the steps that I learned to work on forgiveness, but it is such an important tool. The hurt that the alcoholic causes is sometimes unforgiveable, I thought. Now I know that it is important for ME to forgive them in my mind and heart, that this is for me,...	hersh	6	291	Dec 20, 2006 by annmarie
	Anyone else experincing difficulties getting into chat? (Preview) I am just getting unable to connect? Is there a problem with the site? Thank -you ........gardengal	gardengal	5	276	Dec 20, 2006 by gardengal
	Giving up steps 1-12 (Preview) Found this today and thought I would share it , Steps 1-3 are about GIVING UP - I give up the illusion that I can control the alcoholic, that I am sane and the I can manage my life alone. steps 4-6 are about OWNING UP- In these steps I seek the truth about my strengths and weakn...	abbyal	6	427	Dec 20, 2006 by Karilynn
	step one: POWERLESS OVER ALCOHOL (Preview) i looked at him last night laying on the family room bed, relaxed and watching TV. and, in a rare moment of calm, the the thought came to me............, '' HE IS NOT TRYING TO DESTROY ME, I AM NOT TRYING TO DESTROY HIM, THE DISEASE IS DESTROYING US''. bing !!! off in my head goes this litt...	jewely	10	455	Dec 20, 2006 by jewely
	Thanks again Al-anon (Preview) Hi ((((Family)))) I just felt like letting you guys know how my day was today. Actually started last nite. My ex wife called me and asked me to try to find something for her she thought she might have left here at my house when she left. To make a long story short...I didnt have it. And I called her b...	david62	8	424	Dec 20, 2006 by Karilynn
	Once they are drinking, count yourself out (Preview) I have bent over backwards all my life to prove care and love to a family of A's. After 40 yrs of it I left. For 12 years they never noticed I was missing and if i tryed to contact for any reason, it was my fault it was like that. When Hurricane Katrina came and a friend ,supposedly, dropped me at my A daug...	d53sjurne	7	510	Dec 20, 2006 by jewely
	Over reaction (Preview) One of the things the A does pretty regularly is let certain things be cut off. One of them is the internet. today it happened again. For once I said nothing. I normally go into total over reaction mode and feel martyred by his actions. I know now it is nothing personal to me. I also kno...	maresie2	1	295	Dec 20, 2006 by jaja
	obsessions (Preview) i haven't been here in a while. my ex has been hanging around here with the kids and my old patterns have come back full force. he's sober working his program but i have let my boundries slide. and i am mad at myself. very mad. i really want to re-direct my anger towards him but that would accomplish nothing...	serendipity	3	263	Dec 20, 2006 by maresie2
	Update from Kabbie (Preview) i have not posted in awhile, and i wanted to wish everyone a peaceful holiday. my daughter has completed her rehab stay, and is now at a halfway house closer to home. she's attending meetings daily, finding a new sponsor since her move to help her with 4th step, job hunting, making new friends, ...	kabbie	4	328	Dec 20, 2006 by maresie2
	enabling (Preview) A had 2/3 bottle of vodca yesterday. now is very sick today. I think I'm enablling him by worrying about his health. he doesn't want to worry about health until we are at emergency situation. been in detox 2x. the second time almost killed him. We had a plane to c...	carol	6	362	Dec 20, 2006 by maresie2
	Did he hit bottom? (Preview) This is my first post, but I have been reading posts on this board for awhile now and I've learned a lot, so thank you for that. I know I have no control and I have become a lot more calm about his drinking knowing that nothing that I do or say would make any real difference. I have also been pract...	cgolly	11	640	Dec 20, 2006 by maresie2
	Scout (Preview) For those who know the story, here is a picture of my lil' guy. He will be missed (((((Christy))))) Ty for adding the pics and inc a bit of the story. -- Edited by tea2 at 13:43, 2006-12-19	tea2	10	491	Dec 20, 2006 by maresie2
	just me & 100 loads of laundry (Preview) Good morning Everyone, Thanks for the replies to my previous post. The feeling of the doom cloud is passing, and I have a thought that maybe this fire was the reason I was placed in my house with my A for so long. Mom's house will survive and hopefully be redone before I need to move, we all are actually lo...	Jennifer	2	376	Dec 19, 2006 by debilyn
	Powerless... literally (Preview) Electrical power has been out for a week... my email consisted of chiseling stone tablets and shipping them through Bedrock Postal Service. Funny how my serenity was at its greatest when I needed to make sure there was wood chopped, candles on hand, food to keep, cooking in the fireplace, making ba...	CJ	4	308	Dec 19, 2006 by debilyn
	I'm confused... (Preview) I was reading a post and it said there is hope, people do get better and get everything back. I am confused as to how anyone can live like that. Before I moved out I had been living on hope for a long time. Hope he would get better, hope this time it wouldn't happen again, hope I wasn't mak...	carolinagirl	10	451	Dec 19, 2006 by bubbles1990
	Blowing in the winds still (Preview) Hi All, Been a long time since I posted. I still feel like I'm blowing in the winds Of Hurricane Katrina. All is lost of what life I did have . I have moved twice and 1 more to go. And hopefully this time I will be settled for awhile. As some of you know I hadn't seen my family in 10 yrs before Hurr Katrina and...	d53sjurne	9	414	Dec 19, 2006 by Cindy
	How do you overcome the Fear? (Preview) Hi There - First I just wanted to wish everyone a very Merry Christmas. I know for some the holidays is very difficult and a sad reminder of the state of affairs in their life, but I pray for blessings and hope for every person on this board during this season. My way of coping and trying t...	JS	12	1410	Dec 19, 2006 by JS
	hurricane at Eden (Preview) Light now, omg I have to get dressed and go out. Last night was awful and scarey and my guts are like jello. A huge branch came down Sissy and Walters house and went thru the roof. I am praying it did not go in very far. I see the WHOLE ROOF is off the addition on th...	debilyn	8	403	Dec 19, 2006 by Rita G
	Why doesn't mom want us to stay with her? (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) We had a nice time saturday and sunday. AW, 11 year old son and I, went to see some great light displays all over town on Satuday, Sunday we fished for a while and then went bowling. Son and I had planned on staying at the apartment with my AW on Saturday if she wanted us t...	rtexas	8	522	Dec 19, 2006 by Rita G
	a reason for drinking... (Preview) Hi everyone, I was just thinking..... Whilst going through the breakup with my Abf he told me that he absolutely loves to drink and will do so till he dies. He says he thinks about it at work, and looks forward to the evening when he can drink. He feels he deserves it after a hard day. He says he love...	annmarie	2	287	Dec 19, 2006 by Lunamoth
	MISSING TONIGHT'S MEETING (Preview) Hello all. I have been laying down for a lot of the afternoon and do not have enough energy to stay on during the meeting. Pray for me. I am really struggling. I will be back. God Bless Stacie	hippietrippiechick	3	410	Dec 19, 2006 by hippietrippiechick
	it's tough to break up with someone you love (Preview) Hi everyone, I recently broke up from my Abf and have a nice place to live by myself. I know I am very lucky, and I do count my blessings. I miss him a lot though. He's still drinking whenever he has money, and seems to be happy with this. He says he wants to stay friends, and if I'm honest I would like t...	annmarie	9	485	Dec 19, 2006 by Karilynn
	meeting (Preview) hi, i have tried unsuccessfully for half an hour to get into the alanon meeting. i have no idea what a mirc or ir.chat4all is. can anyone enlighten me? sadly disappointed, jewely	jewely	2	283	Dec 19, 2006 by jewely
	How do you pick a sponser? (Preview) I know this question is elementary but I've only been back to Al-Anon a few months. I've been going to a particular meeting where there are about 13 regular people and it's a nice group. I have done a reading or two but I haven't shared yet. I'm getting familiar w...	jaja	1	626	Dec 18, 2006 by Christy
	I am so tired of my alchoholic husband (Preview) How do you guys deal with it? I am so tired of being miserable in this marriage. He drinks every single night. He gets drunk every single night. I caught him sneaking vodka in the garage. I was mortified. He told me today that he wil not quit drinking no matter wha...	desperate for help	12	846	Dec 18, 2006 by jewely
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