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Living in the moment
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Hi all!
Thought I would share this poem that my al-anoner cousin wrote. lol
It really makes sense to me as an al-anon .... not conference approved..but good for thought.
I hid my sorrow, and I hid my pain....
'til I forgot I was out there....
in the rain.
I've no idea where I'm going...
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What kind of fool am I???
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Well, whatever, I don't want stuff to ruin the holiday and, by the way, I did mean to wish you and yours a holiday. I hope we make it through with peace at least for a little while!...I'm trying not to let things get to me but I sure am feeling like fool now! Here I am thinking there...
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hippietippiechick! Read this!!
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Hey!! I have the book "One Day at a Time in Al-Anon if you want it! It's yours!! Just send your address to me at korinne48@yahoo.com and I'll get er' in the mail either today or tomorrow! I am so happy just to help you out, since I am leaving my AH and I don't need it any longer. OK? It is a GREAT book too. I almost...
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Gayle
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Pleases Stop being so harsh and let others share there feelings...
You may not like what others are doing but that is not your place to judge them...
We are all here learning and growing together.....
I grew up with alcoholic parents who sound like you do and it really bothers me!!!!
I...
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Never thought of myself exactly as a doormat
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.......as gayle put it in her response to my last post. I know full well I'm co-dependant and have fallen for a lot of my A's stuff. I think he and I are sick in our own ways in relation to the disease of alcoholism. I read an excerpt from another site that, using dif...
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I'm with Stupid
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After telling my ex (A), the father of my son, it's over for good for good for good and not talking for the last couple of weeks and not spending Xmas together, today I get a phone call and he wanted me to meet with him to talk.
He said he still felt like there was something there, and it's not really over.&n...
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THANK YOU!
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Thank you so much to all of you! I can't tell you how strange it is to hear such understanding and supportive words....I have never been a much of a reacher outer, so to do it once and get all this care back sorta rocks my world view...other people care about others as much as I do! I will keep on contacting/r...
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grateful and kinda like ya'll
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Thank you all for your comments. It really helped me so much and Fifi thanks for the laugh you turkey! lol
I do feel better, lots. Have found that the harder the stuff, the pain and confusion, the neater it is when you find your conclusion.
well did not mean to rhyme that...geez
Want to make it clear...
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Gayle & Al-anon meetings
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Gayle, I respect your obvious knowledge of alanon and how it work, however I would appreciate it if you could show more respect for other members here, your responses can be very hurtful. -- Edited by maire rua at 10:11, 2006-12-26
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labels
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When I first arrived, whenever I posted it said "newbie" now it says veteran member. I see others as senior member, service worker, etc. What does that mean? That I am now considered a veteran member. I know Ihave been in and out and and around 12 step programs since I was 17 years old and now I am 36 has not t...
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Gratitude
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a small list of thanks to my HP
Thank you HP for: -A warm house, most all conveniences of life, my health, my ability to choose my path -My friends and support group, these amazing people on this board and alanon, those that choose to stand by me in need and in sincerety of love and care -My family, for tho...
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Christmas (or Holiday) memories
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Every Christmas I hope for the best but expect the worst. --Adult child group member
As bells ring out and carols echo everywhere, we should not be surprised if our spirits take a nosedive. It isn't that we don't understand the meaning of Christmas, or that we reject it, but rather that the idealiz...
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Shares for a New Book
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To My Fellows;
Children, Parents, Families of addicts and alcoholics.
I am requesting stories in the following categories. I am seeking those shares for a book called: “Please Understand.” The reason for I am writing this book is for those in our lives that...
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stinking computer won't let me into chat
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For some reason, my security on my computer is blocking me from getting into chat. Sometimes when it would do this, if I kept trying, I could eventually get in. But since yesterday, after my nephew was online, I tried to log in and the chat main page came up completely black in place of where...
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From the Merry Old Land of Oz
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I am in Kansas, flew here from my home in Ohio, to visit with Mom, sister, and nephew. My AH is left at home taking care of the cats, I hope. He was spending Christmas day with his A-friend couple, who I don't care much for, but the guy and my AH have been friends since 1st grade. Actually...
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How to surive the year of 2 alcohol and drug death of teenagers
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Can anyone give suggestions on how to wake up with out a 18 and 22 year old on Christmas. I have stayed busy this season. But do not know about Christmas Morning.
Marsha
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Good christmas but things still a mess with me
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Hi Folks,
I hope everyone had a peaceful Christmas. Mine was pretty good, as I spent it with my kids and wife who I am separated from. Probably not so odd that having a good Christmas together reminded me of a better time and a yearning for that time once again. Alcohol did not seem to cause any problem...
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Losing my "one day at a time" living
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Hi, I'm new to the board, but not to ALANON face2face.
I'm tired of my AH making decisions with his family that affect me.
On New Year's eve or day, he has plans to deliver a package for his niece. It's not like we're invited to a party. This means a lot of driving that I don't really like to do on holi...
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Losing my mind
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I just want to start by saying that I am very unsure of the whole Al-anon experience. I joined online several years ago and was very turned off by the response that I got from that meeting and have never tried again. I have so many things going through my mind on a daily basis that i don't even know where to st...
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happy holidays!!!!
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hello everyone, havnt been here in long time. but wanted to say happy holidays to everyone and hope all is going well. things have been going pretty good for me and when its not ive been handling it all well. one year ago was the beginning of a big change in me. i speant like three days straight in the chat ro...
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inching along on a plan b
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Well the good news is that I have another job (albeit a temporary one) that pays better. That will get me through the next three months. I am looking for inspiraiton to move me along in plan b.
I used to believe I would never earn more. Now I am. I can get so lost in despair of moving alo...
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about my earlier post...
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I'm sorry if it sounded like I meant my daughter is no longer with me. I tried to title it so it wouldn't sound like that.
For those of you who know how my daughter tries to control things in our house, this is why this was an issue last nite and this morning. Like I said in my post, had she menti...
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MIP ((family))
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I wrote these lyrics in a book I bought my son for Christmas. As I wrote the words I also thought of all of you.
MY wish for today and always for my sisters and brothers of MIP...I hope You Dance.
I hope you never lose your sense of wonder
You get your fill to eat
But always keep that hunger
Ma...
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Merry Christmas
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Hi all,
I hope you have a great christmas, i am going to remember and keep it in mind all day long that no one can ruin my christmas unless i let them. Good reminder huh  Be good to yourselves. See you soon.
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Possibly Silly Gift Giving Advice Request
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Hi,
I'm new to this board, and just started posting. But I've been reading a lot of things that sound like I could have written them...
I left my AH almost 3 months ago. Took my 3 kids (now 7-1/2, almost 6, and almost 4) and moved in with my mother, about 45 minutes away from our house.&nbs...
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strange update to my great xmas at home in years
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I wrote this to my mother, and my mom and I are now starting to become more like friends. I was invited to Christmas dinner for the first time in years--or invited over period. God has made a miracle between my mom and I. I stopped reacting. Why can't I do that with a drunk?
Anyway, if you care to read on, he...
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How about a little humor
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Anonymous poem I read once as an adolescent:
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One bright day in the middle of night,
Two dead boys got up to fight.
Back to Back they faced each other,
Drew their swords and shot each other.
The deaf policeman heard the noise,
Came and got the two dead boys.
If you don't believ...
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few words of faith
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So many sweet posts, just wanted to share too :o)
words of faith,
wisdom,
joy, and
spirit.
wash over
pain,
misery, and
disdain.
memories energize,
enlighten,
uplift, and
comfort.
security remembered,
embraced,
celebrated, and
sh...
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Never knew the meaning entirely until years after I wrote this
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In 1995 0r 1996 I began to write poetry. I was in a psychiatric ward after having a nervous breakdown while I was working.
This below is the first on I have written:
ONE DAY AT AT TIME
We only have one day at a time. To think of more would be a crime.
To hurt ourselves with usleless worry, just makes us...
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Poem I wrote to my A a while back--read please very touching
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Just to let you know one of my spiritual gifts, I believe, is writing, especially poetry. My A is going thru the worst month of every year. He had a lot of close family die around this time, however, I do now know the full scale of what he went through and is going thru, but I have to say I feel for him.
If you c...
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every time i start a new topic......,
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every time i start a new topic my Self tells me.......,
"nooooo, you don't want to do that.
what makes you think these people want to read what you have to say?"
i know that is just the sick part of me,
the abused and bruised person of the past.
just for today i would like to say.......,
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christmas morning without my daughter here
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I've been up and down with emotions the last few days leading up to Christmas. Usually I'm upbeat, positive, but especially last nite and this morning it's been hard. I think I've gone from sad to hurt to lonely to angry to resentful to just plain I don't care.
We had planned to have Chris...
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A Christmas Gift for Everyone!
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For all members of Miracles In Progress 12 Step Recovery Forums, I and Rose designed a small Christmas web page for you to view. It has music on it, so turn your speakers on or off, whichever you prefer as you view it.
http://www.12stepforums.net/christmas/index.html
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what a mess
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what an absolute mess my life has become in a few short days. I am not feeling very positive anymore. I don't have any idea what I am going to do. Today I need to finish my kid's Christmas shopping, but I don't even feel excited about it at all. I wish I could just skip over this hol...
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MERRY CHRISTMAS MY WONDERFUL FRIENDS
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(((((((((((((((((((((((((((FRIENDS)))))))))))))))))))),
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An unwrapped Gift
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With a smile like a cheshire cat, my little girl asked me, "Did you get me a Christmas present Daddy?" I said, "Yes, I did, but I'd like to say something about this year's Christmas." She cheerfully said, "sure."
"I got you a present, but not a stack of presents. That...
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Merry Christmas!
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Hello everyone and Merry Christmas! I've only posted a few times and it's been quite a while. I come here and read your messages of hope and inspiration from time to time and I just wanted to thank you for the help you've given me. I want to wish you all a very happy holiday.
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Christmas Wishes
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(((((((((((((friends))))))))))))))
I wish all of you wonderful people that have become such an important part of my life, a very peaceful Holiday Season filled with happy times and precious memories. Thank you for all that you do and all that you are. I am happy to be part of th...
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I read this every day of my life.
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As far as I am concerned, it says it all. Diva
Desiderata
Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
ev...
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Merry Christmas to All
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And to All a Good Night!
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My Christmas Wish
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Merry Christmas (((((((Family))))))) Just got home from my "other program" and was thinking about some of what was said today. The short version of what was talked about was worthiness and about trying to follow the path our HP wishes for us. And how sometimes, some of the things our HP prods us to do we...
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My xmas day
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Had a fantastic morning just me and my little boy, and was soo cool to see his face light up opening his presents and he was all 'oooh' and 'ahh'. Then we had scrambled eggs, waffles and strawberries for a breakfast treat.
I felt calm and happy. And thankful for what I've got.
However la...
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I'll count my blessings....
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Instead of griping, I'll give thanks for my 4 beautiful kids and my granddaughter who lights up my life. My kids are out own their own for the most part and are faring well for themselves. They are all good people. I'm VERY happy that my 2 daughters and granddaughter are here for the holiday...
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BEST XMAS PRESENT I COULD HAVE WISHED FOR
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(((((((((((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))))))
The last few weeks I have been, Questioning Ally, who Is she?, What Is she all about? Does she deserve to be happy? Will her life ever change? Can she be happy on her own? Does she do her best for people? Does she hurt people? (lol) I could go on. I...
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SHADOWS HOME FROM SURGERY
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((((((((((((ROOMIES)))))))))))))))))
SHADOW IS HOME FROM HER SURGERY. SHE IS NOW IN RECOVERY.AND DOING WELL.
OUR HP HEARD , AND HAS LOOKED AFTER HER FOR US.
LOOKING FORWARD TO GETTING OUR GIRL BACK WITH US.
PRAY FOR HER QUICK RECOVERY
LOTS OF LOVE
ALLY:evi...
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CHRISTMAS WISHES TO ALL
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((((((((((((((EVERYONE))))))))))))))))))))
I would like to wish all the people In Mip, a very "MERRY CHRISTMAS" And an "AWESOME NEW YEAR".
I am praying you all have a very peaceful time over the holidays. And remember not everyone will have a happy holiday. So we can offer a silent pra...
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I am lighting a candle for YOU on Christmas eve
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As I do every year I light a candle to remember and honor my loved ones who have passed on. This year I will light a candle to all the people in alanon as well......... Merry Christmas!
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"On the lighter side of things..."What is your favourite Christmas Carol?"
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Mine is "I'll be home for Christmas" by Kate Smith. When things are rough and tumble this time of year, that song takes me to a simpler time, a more serene time with family and friends. It reminds me of both my parents (who have both passed) and the little town I grew up in. "I'll be home for Christmas...if o...
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Going away for a few days...
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Before we leave early tomorrow morning, I want to wish all of you a most blessed Christmas; and wish you everything your heart desires for the new year. May 2007 and its fresh promise bring you peace, joy, and happiness.
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((¸¸.·´ ...·´ Diva-:¦:-
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an early reminder
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The way it looks now I won't have internet or phone after the 29th of this month.
All I can do is what i do. Put it in hp's hands. I have a house and power.
Some don't even have that.
Feeling pretty down. I guess I have to see what I am really made of.
love,debilyn
ps i am sorry John, I just cannot get th...
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Why I'm here... A husband's tale
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I love my wife.
Tomorrow I will attend my first f2f, and I look forward to it.
We've been married for 2 years. I knew there was a problem. I knew there was lots of baggage. She was molested (by a family friend's son) for a prolonged period as a child (3 years, I think). She started drinking around the age...
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shhhhhhhhh, it's a secret
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Today is (((((((((((((((((((Our David's Birthday  )))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))). 
He'll try to convince you that he's younger than me but don't believe him.
LOLOL 
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Courage to change this year
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Hi Friends,
My three sons are home for the holidays. My AHsober is here also. He left a year and a half ago and is basically living a single life. He says he wants a divorce but has never filed. It seemed important to spend a part of the holidays together as a family especially with our son coming home from...
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I really don't want to deal with him!!!
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My A has been calling asking if he can come over for Christmas, he wants to come Christmas Eve and stay until the day after. I really just don't want to deal with him. I imagine him rifiling my stuff, checking my computer to see who I have been talking to, questioning the kids about what I have...
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daughter needs help
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Hi everyone
Last night my AH went out for 10 minutes and came home 5 hours later. Since I am trying to work this program I remained calm...watched tv ...read some alanon literature ...I was OK...my daughter made a remark as to the where abouts of her dad...she KNEW what he was doing. I did...
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How do you stop that sick feeling in your gut?
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Hi everyone. First I would like to thank everyone who responded to my post earlier. It helps to know there are others out there that have the same problems.
I just feel like venting today. My husband is not only an active alcoholic but he also has a problem with crack cocaine.&nbs...
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Update on Erin
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Just a quick note to say that i talked to Erin the other day. She and the boys are doing good. She has a new job and is making better $$. She wanted to say that she misses all of us. She is hoping to be able to get back on the internet soon, and she wishes everyone happy holidays!!!!!...
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Support needed!!
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I know I haven't been on much lately, just too much has happened. I just need everyone right now, probably more than I ever have. Blake (20 month old) died this morning of heart failure. He has been having the seizures, and has been staying in the hospital. He had a stroke a few days ago, and was on a respira...
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Update and a share...
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hey family
2moro is xmas eve, i haven't posted here in a while and i think i was trying to avoid it really.
the last time i posted i had an awful lot of anger in me..thats still there but has somewhat subsided! i dont know why!
last week i was on a work nite out and when me and a friend came out from the nite...
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chaired a meeting last night....,difficult
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i chaired a meeting last night.
first time in a couple of years.
it was very difficult
the two women who were there had developed their own format.
one in which i was unfamiliar with.
this is a brand new group, [about three meetings in total, we don't have any "how to" material]
wit...
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