Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I know that I have serious trust issues, I have been trying to deal with my feelings that they are heartless machines... Not capable of love, etc. I don't recall feeling this way when I was younger, I felt loved even tho I had been betrayed I believed they were capable of love. Now I'm jaded... I think my...

david62 · david62

Hello ((((Family)))) This Sunday evening is the monthly business meeting (9pm CST), I hope you can make it! We will be having a full meeting, and the election of new officers (Chairperson, Secretary and Treasurer). Please try to be there!!! Here is the agenda for the meeting! MIP Al-Anon Business...

Aloha · Aloha

I love when I find myself in that lovely realm of Serenity. Where my daily focus is not upon the A or what A's done or doing or might be doing. This is such a great, happy place. I feel so calm, collected, open-minded, even joyful. I love this program. It has been my saving grace. If I'd not joine...

david62 · david62

Hi ((((Family)))) For those of you who know our treasurer/member DOT I have an update on her. She had neck surgery recently and suffered some complications from the surgery. She is currently in rehab and will be under care for some time to come. She is in good spirits but will be away from us for a whil...

kes · kes

I have been searching for a forum for advice & thank heavens foun this place. My sister is an alcoholic, yet to admit it, she drinks for breakfast - and then allday/night, lost her job, lost her license, lost everything. I have shared a house with her for many years, and care of her son. He is now 13 goi...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I remember in the beginning I was so desperate to fill the hole in my life with a man. I guess I still want to find that but now I find myself to be much more wary. I have a hard time getting up the motivation to go meet people, I start thinking in terms of forever rather than it's just a date... I used to have l...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family))))))), As most of you know, hubby is a chronic relapser. He has had long bout of sobriety and then BAM, back it again. I am greatful that they are not as severe relapses as they use to be. But I am also keenly aware of how this is a disease of progression. I sometimes wonder if it is almo...

Suzannah · Suzannah

This is the real me. I have left HEARTBROKEN behind. After thinking about ' what a name does and says about someone...' I realised that I could never obtain complete recovery if I continued to be identified with HEARTBROKEN. That is who I was, how I was, and where I was when I first joined th...

Christy · Christy

I do, because I must do something. People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered. Love them anyway. The good you do will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Honesty and frankness will make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway. What you spent years building may be destroyed overnig...

Denoraphy · Denoraphy

After remaining pretty silent the past year and trying hard not to get into any unnessecary conflict with my AH I wound up blowing it a little while ago. He has been trying to engage in conversation the past few days, asking me to put aside some time in my day where we can talk. I have been avoiding him. ...

mum2leahnjosh · mum2leahnjosh

Whilst been here I have learned to take little steps to change things. But Im going to work on 2 things this week. Looking after myself and and change my opinion of my self. Maybe if I can change my opinion of myself I might feel like going out. I understand I have to take it one day at a time. But this is my goal...

Aloha · Aloha

My sponsor sent me this link. It's a woman who's a neuro-surgeon or something who actually experienced a stroke and she speaks about her experience and what happened to her when there became a certain separation between her right brain and her left. It's long - have about 19 minutes to sit and listen...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

My sister in law is in a coma, she had several more massive heart attacks throughout the day. I got a call earlier that she had died but apparently they revived her and she's on machines now. I am just so thankful that my niece got there before she was totally gone because I was told she died while niece wa...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I have heard on more than one occasion, that there is something one can take to pass a drug test. Does anyone here know what that is? Just wondering... Lou

gardengal · gardengal

Although I have learned many things which not only I apply to dealing with this disease, I also can change the way I think in all situations ie: work, friends, family etc. The real biggie for me was learning that I did NOT cause this , I CANNOT control this and I CANNOT cure this. The 3 C's held a major impac...

Just For Now · Just For Now

Amoungst all the nastiness and fog of alcohol....and stress...and finances... just when the stuggles and juggles seem somewhat 'steady'...the road of life get more bumps and holes for travel. Without dragging my thoughts through the grimey muck of this deep sink hole, I am remembering steps 1, 2 a...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

So, I know I haven't been posting in a while. And that's because of alot of things, mostly ego based. I want to show new people that the program works, so I don't want to post bad news and lots of drama, and especially as the quarter was winding up all my life was drama drama drama. And now that I'm an OFFICIA...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I just got an email that my A's sister just had a massive heart attack and is in the hospital. She is in her early 50's. I immediately called my neice who is in the Air Force in Montana and she was crying and packing getting ready to fly out. Nobody really knows what her condition is right now. She has men...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, Yesterday while getting ready for work this song came on. And it has always made me think of him in the past. So of course I started to cry. I then asked myself why does this song have to be about him? It didn't. So I restarted the song and listened to it again. And this time I thought of you all, and how I...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Dear Friends, Thank you so very much for the warm welcome back. It took me awhile to get the courage up to come home, wow am I glad I did. I know how many of you have suffered thru this awful disease. I love you all, thank you so very much, wow I have missed you all. Love, Andrea

Aloha · Aloha

This was blabbering on and on in my brain last night as I attempted to try to go to sleep. I was reflecting on MY addiction. My addiction is obsession, the illusion of control over others, worry. My addiction isn't triggered by drinking, inhaling or injecting a poisonous substance into my body....

round3 · round3

I've received a new peace this week. Have to assume it has something to do with spending HOURS begging for mercy and strength and guidance from HP. And working hard at following the al-anon program. And venting to all of you with my endless "stuff". But for the past few days, I've gotte...

nmike · nmike

Why does my AHsober do what he does? Why do I keep asking why? Because he is sick, sick, sick. My son in the military came this weekend. We had a family gathering for his baby girl; my four month old grandbaby. It was the first time our family and his girlfriend's family had met formally. He had told us on the...

Just For Now · Just For Now

Such a wonderful way to calm yourself....breathing. Alot of anxiety and stress can alter your breathing...causing more anxiety or stress. So for now....just for now...I'm remembering to breath in...then out. Hard to remember that at times when you think at any moment you are for certain your wor...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, This has been a long week and quite frankly I am glad to see it come to a close. But this week has been one of not just pain, but also one of learning. I returned to a place of worship. Oh how my soul missed that. I reached out in a time of need, which is not something I find easy to do. But it is so rewarding....

mum2leahnjosh · mum2leahnjosh

I am now 1 week in to the program. Things are still very confusing BUT I am now sort of seeing things a little different. Like this is a deasese and its not his fault. I have learnt that I do love my partner very very very much I just hate his deasese. Soooo I guess this a thank you for all your help and those of yo...

angel123 · angel123

My heart is full, Having 3 grandchildren over, yesterday really touched my heart. The love and the Joy, I receive from them is so tender. My youngest grandchild Ayden he is 2. His facial expressions alone have you smile, even when I try to teach something like no no to touching something that could hurt...

MIDGET · MIDGET

Im in the middle of a divorce from my active AH. And I told my Mom, (who lives w me) tht I didnt want any kids over this week , incl my nephew.Who by the way wears me out.Hes extremely disrespectfull.He makes me bite my tongue,, alot...I wanted to spend spring break w my kids, and to pack my ex's things.So wha...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am taking it easier these days and remembering Easy Does It! Life isn't kicking me in the butt lately. I guess I am starting to really see that I have no control over life's challenges except to do what is in front of me. I am still very leary of making major changes in my life. I am planning a lot ahead ab...

BooBoo313 · BooBoo313

It was cold and raining and I was feeling sorry for myself this morning (I think someone else had similar thought in a previous thread). I gave into it for a few minutes because I can't help but feel that I've been robbed of my "happily ever after" by the monster that has taken my AH. (sigh) Bu...

CalamityJane · CalamityJane

Morning All! Well, I had an appointment with my GP yesterday. The appointment was about my health but the conversation quickly turned to my parents health (we have the same GP). How the conversation developed onto them and the alcohol i am not sure. The GP is aware of my father's drinking and has been fo...

david62 · david62

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JenniferN · JenniferN

Good Spring Rainy Day Morning Family As the topic says, I'm needing some esh about my sponsor please. I do have one, and we get along quite well. We are very much alike and that is very comforting to me. I'll give you all a little background about me and then let you know what my trouble with her is. I have 3 ki...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I recently celebrated my one yr al-anon b-day and to be honest, I thought I'd be a lot farther along in the program/with myself at this point. I'm amazed at how just one thing can throw me off course. When I list all the reasons I should hate my husband, the list is enormous. Reasons to love him, uh, not a l...

JenniferN · JenniferN

I just wanted to say thanks for the esh. It is very much appreciated. blessings Jennifer

david62 · david62

Guten Morgen, (((((Familie))))) Sorry for the German folks, but I couldn't resist. Yesterday I went to my Oma's (grandma) 90th birthday party. I had a really good time, ate sausage and German Chocolate cake, and listened to some great polka music! lol Okay boys....anda 1 anda 2...... Got to see some...

ESH · ESH

I haven't seen or heard a peep from my A-bf (or his family) for "one-day-short-of-8-weeks." I just got home from a birthday lunch for my Mom... went with a couple of my sisters & a niece. Had a lot of FUN! Had a call on the answering machine waiting for me for when I got home. It was from a...

HopeinVA · HopeinVA

Hi, I am sort of new here although I joined last summer I haven't posted since. As I sit here at 3:15 in the afternoon my AH has yet to come home from being out last night. This pattern has become increasingly difficult recently and I am having a hard time explaining why daddy doesn't come home much to ou...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

My son was 13 years old when his father and me ended our marriage. I was reading for my degree with the intention that, I would be the main bread winner in the family because of my AH's habit and the financial difficulty he had got us into; we had lost our home and had had to move to MOD married quarters - but t...

serendipity · serendipity

I no longer have to worry about the A comming home with drugs or drunk, or not comming home at all. I no longer sit by the window (literally) and feel my stomach drop whenevr I see headlights round the corner. I do not have to wonder who he is talking to, or who he is sleeping with. And the big one is I do not have...

mum2leahnjosh · mum2leahnjosh

Did you know a 2 year old can say "daddy can we go pub" Yes my 2 year old APARENTLY said this yesterday. It was a nice day and I said to mark take Leah outside and play football. Well after 10 mins it went quiet I looked outside and no one was there. When he came back I asked where ahve you been he said L...

sdoody00 · sdoody00

I have been reading the posts in this message board for some time now. It has been very helpful to me. My bipolar AH and I are currently living apart, both of us support this arrangement. He is actively using and not medicated for his bipolar. I have taken the stand that I would not have any contact with h...

JenniferN · JenniferN

I never thought it would happen, but it has: I wasn't surprised today by my A. I have talked to him almost everyday this week. Mostly due to him "needing" a wake up call for work. I put that in quotes because I KNOW he doesn't NEED one, he just says/thinks he does. Anyways, I've borrowed the truc...

norwood · norwood

Hi ((everyone)), I just returned form the Massachusetts annual alanon convention. I have 3 words - WOW, WOW, WOW!!!. I had a spiritual awakening and it was amazing. Thank you all for your support in my recovery. Paul

Maria123 · Maria123

What I learned . . . I went to an Alanon conference this weekend and as someone was sharing this morning in the unconditional love workshop, she said what I felt but did not know I was feeling at the time. When we walk through the doors of the conference, its with a sigh of relief. We arent facing the outsi...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

what does this mean and how do I fix it?

BooBoo313 · BooBoo313

I just came across my AH's drug stash. This wasn't one of those times where I was tearing up the house, looking in every box, nook and cranny, it was almost out in the open. I only stumbled across it because it was hidden in a shoe and the shoes were in a rather unlikely spot, so I went to move them and the s...

angel123 · angel123

The Butterfly Story Before this great change comes about,the fuzzy little worm withdraws from it's caterpillar world,and finds itself a place alone,and there painfully,and with struggling,it wraps itself tightly into a cocoon of its own making;it leterally seals itself off from the world...

angel123 · angel123

Hi Carol, My first husband and I got a divorce many years ago. He never had contact with the children. When my daughter turned of age she wanted to find him. Her brother did from the internet. He was in the VA hospital with cancer. My daughter did not know him. But took it on her self to have him sent here to a V...

glad lee · glad lee

Dear Family, I could use some ESH.... I am confused about a shift in my relationship with my sponsor. Actually, I have a resentment... I haven't seen her or talked with her as much since my divorce was final 2 wks ago... But, her birthday was Thursday. So on Wednesday, I called and expressed how I wa...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hello my family, I am reaching out right now becuase I need some ESH from alanoners. I have talked to a few nonalanons and they have at least helped me dry my tears and keep somewhat of a focus on the tasks at hand. My husband and I are seperated and have been for about 3 weeks. This is the second seperation si...

suzydawn · suzydawn

It's been over a year since I last posted. Briefly, I was living with a BF (and father to my now 2yr old son) whom has a Hx of 4 DUIs, has lost his DL for life and is currently still of probation for his last DUI. He has always been a weekend binge drinker. When I met him he was in recovery - but court ordered. ...

Just For Now · Just For Now

Oh the things you can think...and disillusion yourself with! I few months ago, I quit attending Alanon...but would at least try to make it online and push myself forward. My AH quit things....quit trying to drink...then began...the quit...RoLLeRcoASteRinG. My private prayers seeming endle...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, A few weeks back I created a myspace page at the request (yeah right) of our Allygirl. I am having issues with making it all pretty and fancy. Way beyond my know how and I haven't taken the time to figure it out. But if any of you all are in that world feel free to add me if ya want. http://www.myspace.c...

CalamityJane · CalamityJane

Hi Again!!! I am living with my 2 alcoholic parents. I am in my mid twenties and can't afford to move out of home yet as saving for a deposit for a house. Both my parents have good jobs. they are both professionals. My father has never been involved in home finances. He just earns his money and spends what he...

Aloha · Aloha

I'm learning the hard way today what a total downer lack of sleep is on my ability to approach my day with a good and positive attitude and outlook. I've switched my schedule around so that I'm waking up earlier now to get my daily exercise in. Al-anon meeting schedules after work and various other pos...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Hi all, just a question. It seems to me that the best people in the world associate with al-anon, right? So, it might be perfectly natural for an al-anoner to date another al-anoner, right? Yet, when I think of this, I feel a conflict of interest, somehow. Like dating someone you work with, in your job- i...

BooBoo313 · BooBoo313

I'm glad I have been reading up on this board (I have yet to attend a f2f) as I had to confront my AH tonight. He asked me what was bothering me and so I told him. I'm proud of myself that I didn't get angry nor did I cry. I just stated the facts--What I found, where I found it and why it made me unhappy. He denie...

maresie · maresie

One of my charactor traits is to be naive, too trusting, and then be bitterly disappointed. Recently one of my newer housemates was social with me. She suggested that she could help me out with my dogs as they seem to like her. I was enthused but cautious. This person is in recovery and I was happy to hea...

Christy · Christy

Have you ever wondered what one person can do? Here's your answer. http://www. earthhour. org On 31 March 2007, 2.2 million people and 2100 Sydney businesses turned off their lights for one hour - Earth Hour. This massive collective effort reduced Sydney's energy consumption by 10.2% for one hour...

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	RE love and loneliness (Preview) I know that I have serious trust issues, I have been trying to deal with my feelings that they are heartless machines... Not capable of love, etc. I don't recall feeling this way when I was younger, I felt loved even tho I had been betrayed I believed they were capable of love. Now I'm jaded... I think my...	carolinagirl	6	469	Apr 3, 2008 by drucilla06
	April Business Mtg Sunday....be there!!!!!! :-) (Preview) Hello ((((Family)))) This Sunday evening is the monthly business meeting (9pm CST), I hope you can make it! We will be having a full meeting, and the election of new officers (Chairperson, Secretary and Treasurer). Please try to be there!!! Here is the agenda for the meeting! MIP Al-Anon Business...	david62	0	387	Apr 3, 2008 by david62
	I love this place - not thinking about the A (Preview) I love when I find myself in that lovely realm of Serenity. Where my daily focus is not upon the A or what A's done or doing or might be doing. This is such a great, happy place. I feel so calm, collected, open-minded, even joyful. I love this program. It has been my saving grace. If I'd not joine...	Aloha	2	548	Apr 3, 2008 by maresie
	Prayer Request (Preview) Hi ((((Family)))) For those of you who know our treasurer/member DOT I have an update on her. She had neck surgery recently and suffered some complications from the surgery. She is currently in rehab and will be under care for some time to come. She is in good spirits but will be away from us for a whil...	david62	11	558	Apr 3, 2008 by aunitedway
	Help, I'm new & desperate for advice, re sister & her kid (Preview) I have been searching for a forum for advice & thank heavens foun this place. My sister is an alcoholic, yet to admit it, she drinks for breakfast - and then allday/night, lost her job, lost her license, lost everything. I have shared a house with her for many years, and care of her son. He is now 13 goi...	kes	9	565	Apr 2, 2008 by kes
	tired of being alone but scared to be together. (Preview) I remember in the beginning I was so desperate to fill the hole in my life with a man. I guess I still want to find that but now I find myself to be much more wary. I have a hard time getting up the motivation to go meet people, I start thinking in terms of forever rather than it's just a date... I used to have l...	carolinagirl	11	585	Apr 2, 2008 by chris52
	I sometimes wonder.... (Preview) ((((((((Family))))))), As most of you know, hubby is a chronic relapser. He has had long bout of sobriety and then BAM, back it again. I am greatful that they are not as severe relapses as they use to be. But I am also keenly aware of how this is a disease of progression. I sometimes wonder if it is almo...	Karilynn	11	373	Apr 2, 2008 by chris52
	The real me... (Preview) This is the real me. I have left HEARTBROKEN behind. After thinking about ' what a name does and says about someone...' I realised that I could never obtain complete recovery if I continued to be identified with HEARTBROKEN. That is who I was, how I was, and where I was when I first joined th...	Suzannah	9	430	Apr 2, 2008 by chris52
	Mother Teresa's Wisdom (Preview) I do, because I must do something. People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered. Love them anyway. The good you do will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Honesty and frankness will make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway. What you spent years building may be destroyed overnig...	Christy	6	571	Apr 2, 2008 by maresie
	Avoidance or detachment (Preview) After remaining pretty silent the past year and trying hard not to get into any unnessecary conflict with my AH I wound up blowing it a little while ago. He has been trying to engage in conversation the past few days, asking me to put aside some time in my day where we can talk. I have been avoiding him. ...	Denoraphy	4	646	Apr 2, 2008 by Jean4444
	Aims For The Week (Preview) Whilst been here I have learned to take little steps to change things. But Im going to work on 2 things this week. Looking after myself and and change my opinion of my self. Maybe if I can change my opinion of myself I might feel like going out. I understand I have to take it one day at a time. But this is my goal...	mum2leahnjosh	6	319	Apr 2, 2008 by BooBoo313
	An interesting take on the brain (Preview) My sponsor sent me this link. It's a woman who's a neuro-surgeon or something who actually experienced a stroke and she speaks about her experience and what happened to her when there became a certain separation between her right brain and her left. It's long - have about 19 minutes to sit and listen...	Aloha	3	560	Apr 2, 2008 by BooBoo313
	update (Preview) My sister in law is in a coma, she had several more massive heart attacks throughout the day. I got a call earlier that she had died but apparently they revived her and she's on machines now. I am just so thankful that my niece got there before she was totally gone because I was told she died while niece wa...	carolinagirl	9	355	Apr 2, 2008 by Tenderheartsks
	passing drug tests (Preview) I have heard on more than one occasion, that there is something one can take to pass a drug test. Does anyone here know what that is? Just wondering... Lou	Loupiness	7	879	Apr 2, 2008 by Loupiness
	For us "veterans" of alanon, perhaps we can share to this question "What we have learned in this program called alanon?" (Preview) Although I have learned many things which not only I apply to dealing with this disease, I also can change the way I think in all situations ie: work, friends, family etc. The real biggie for me was learning that I did NOT cause this , I CANNOT control this and I CANNOT cure this. The 3 C's held a major impac...	gardengal	6	2130	Apr 2, 2008 by lin0606
	Yet another bump... (Preview) Amoungst all the nastiness and fog of alcohol....and stress...and finances... just when the stuggles and juggles seem somewhat 'steady'...the road of life get more bumps and holes for travel. Without dragging my thoughts through the grimey muck of this deep sink hole, I am remembering steps 1, 2 a...	Just For Now	2	333	Apr 2, 2008 by Mandy123
	I told my dad he needs to go to drug rehab (Preview) So, I know I haven't been posting in a while. And that's because of alot of things, mostly ego based. I want to show new people that the program works, so I don't want to post bad news and lots of drama, and especially as the quarter was winding up all my life was drama drama drama. And now that I'm an OFFICIA...	Tiger2006	3	404	Apr 2, 2008 by Christy
	Prayers and Good Energy Please!!! (Preview) I just got an email that my A's sister just had a massive heart attack and is in the hospital. She is in her early 50's. I immediately called my neice who is in the Air Force in Montana and she was crying and packing getting ready to fly out. Nobody really knows what her condition is right now. She has men...	carolinagirl	8	582	Apr 1, 2008 by Christy
	"You'll Be in My Heart" Alanon-style (Preview) Hi all, Yesterday while getting ready for work this song came on. And it has always made me think of him in the past. So of course I started to cry. I then asked myself why does this song have to be about him? It didn't. So I restarted the song and listened to it again. And this time I thought of you all, and how I...	Mandy123	3	488	Apr 1, 2008 by Maria123
	Thank You for the Love (Preview) Dear Friends, Thank you so very much for the warm welcome back. It took me awhile to get the courage up to come home, wow am I glad I did. I know how many of you have suffered thru this awful disease. I love you all, thank you so very much, wow I have missed you all. Love, Andrea	Andrea12	7	725	Apr 1, 2008 by Maria123
	MY Addiction (Preview) This was blabbering on and on in my brain last night as I attempted to try to go to sleep. I was reflecting on MY addiction. My addiction is obsession, the illusion of control over others, worry. My addiction isn't triggered by drinking, inhaling or injecting a poisonous substance into my body....	Aloha	8	524	Apr 1, 2008 by Maria123
	Turning a corner (dare I say?!??!?!?) (Preview) I've received a new peace this week. Have to assume it has something to do with spending HOURS begging for mercy and strength and guidance from HP. And working hard at following the al-anon program. And venting to all of you with my endless "stuff". But for the past few days, I've gotte...	round3	8	717	Apr 1, 2008 by Maria123
	Timing (Preview) Why does my AHsober do what he does? Why do I keep asking why? Because he is sick, sick, sick. My son in the military came this weekend. We had a family gathering for his baby girl; my four month old grandbaby. It was the first time our family and his girlfriend's family had met formally. He had told us on the...	nmike	4	429	Apr 1, 2008 by Maria123
	Breathing....In...Out...In....Out (Preview) Such a wonderful way to calm yourself....breathing. Alot of anxiety and stress can alter your breathing...causing more anxiety or stress. So for now....just for now...I'm remembering to breath in...then out. Hard to remember that at times when you think at any moment you are for certain your wor...	Just For Now	2	412	Apr 1, 2008 by Maria123
	Ending the week. Thanks for being here ya'll. (Preview) Hi all, This has been a long week and quite frankly I am glad to see it come to a close. But this week has been one of not just pain, but also one of learning. I returned to a place of worship. Oh how my soul missed that. I reached out in a time of need, which is not something I find easy to do. But it is so rewarding....	Mandy123	7	689	Apr 1, 2008 by Maria123
	1 week in (Preview) I am now 1 week in to the program. Things are still very confusing BUT I am now sort of seeing things a little different. Like this is a deasese and its not his fault. I have learnt that I do love my partner very very very much I just hate his deasese. Soooo I guess this a thank you for all your help and those of yo...	mum2leahnjosh	5	327	Apr 1, 2008 by Maria123
	Responiblity.....let go and Let God (Preview) My heart is full, Having 3 grandchildren over, yesterday really touched my heart. The love and the Joy, I receive from them is so tender. My youngest grandchild Ayden he is 2. His facial expressions alone have you smile, even when I try to teach something like no no to touching something that could hurt...	angel123	3	565	Apr 1, 2008 by Maria123
	I should write a book..........Am I insane, or are they? (Preview) Im in the middle of a divorce from my active AH. And I told my Mom, (who lives w me) tht I didnt want any kids over this week , incl my nephew.Who by the way wears me out.Hes extremely disrespectfull.He makes me bite my tongue,, alot...I wanted to spend spring break w my kids, and to pack my ex's things.So wha...	MIDGET	11	720	Apr 1, 2008 by getoverit
	I feel better! (Preview) I am taking it easier these days and remembering Easy Does It! Life isn't kicking me in the butt lately. I guess I am starting to really see that I have no control over life's challenges except to do what is in front of me. I am still very leary of making major changes in my life. I am planning a lot ahead ab...	Hoot Nanny	4	372	Apr 1, 2008 by Karilynn
	Had a pity party this morning, but feeling better now... (Preview) It was cold and raining and I was feeling sorry for myself this morning (I think someone else had similar thought in a previous thread). I gave into it for a few minutes because I can't help but feel that I've been robbed of my "happily ever after" by the monster that has taken my AH. (sigh) Bu...	BooBoo313	4	607	Apr 1, 2008 by round3
	Been to the Doctors about my parents...... (Preview) Morning All! Well, I had an appointment with my GP yesterday. The appointment was about my health but the conversation quickly turned to my parents health (we have the same GP). How the conversation developed onto them and the alcohol i am not sure. The GP is aware of my father's drinking and has been fo...	CalamityJane	4	568	Apr 1, 2008 by CalamityJane
	The Cab Ride (Preview) **********************************************************************	david62	14	694	Mar 31, 2008 by whitie
	(This is a bit long) Needing esh about my sponsor (Preview) Good Spring Rainy Day Morning Family As the topic says, I'm needing some esh about my sponsor please. I do have one, and we get along quite well. We are very much alike and that is very comforting to me. I'll give you all a little background about me and then let you know what my trouble with her is. I have 3 ki...	JenniferN	7	567	Mar 31, 2008 by kismetstrand
	I need an epiphany, or a lobotomy.... (Preview) I recently celebrated my one yr al-anon b-day and to be honest, I thought I'd be a lot farther along in the program/with myself at this point. I'm amazed at how just one thing can throw me off course. When I list all the reasons I should hate my husband, the list is enormous. Reasons to love him, uh, not a l...	Loupiness	5	546	Mar 31, 2008 by Tenderheartsks
	Just a quick note (Preview) I just wanted to say thanks for the esh. It is very much appreciated. blessings Jennifer	JenniferN	0	310	Mar 31, 2008 by JenniferN
	Back from Grandma's (Preview) Guten Morgen, (((((Familie))))) Sorry for the German folks, but I couldn't resist. Yesterday I went to my Oma's (grandma) 90th birthday party. I had a really good time, ate sausage and German Chocolate cake, and listened to some great polka music! lol Okay boys....anda 1 anda 2...... Got to see some...	david62	8	403	Mar 31, 2008 by maresie
	Sheesh! A call from the ER (Preview) I haven't seen or heard a peep from my A-bf (or his family) for "one-day-short-of-8-weeks." I just got home from a birthday lunch for my Mom... went with a couple of my sisters & a niece. Had a lot of FUN! Had a call on the answering machine waiting for me for when I got home. It was from a...	ESH	7	838	Mar 31, 2008 by carolinagirl
	In need of support, how to answer tough questions from the kids (Preview) Hi, I am sort of new here although I joined last summer I haven't posted since. As I sit here at 3:15 in the afternoon my AH has yet to come home from being out last night. This pattern has become increasingly difficult recently and I am having a hard time explaining why daddy doesn't come home much to ou...	HopeinVA	9	614	Mar 31, 2008 by canadianguy
	There's the truth and then there's the truth... (Preview) My son was 13 years old when his father and me ended our marriage. I was reading for my degree with the intention that, I would be the main bread winner in the family because of my AH's habit and the financial difficulty he had got us into; we had lost our home and had had to move to MOD married quarters - but t...	Heartbroken	10	586	Mar 31, 2008 by carolinagirl
	I never have to do this again!!! (Preview) I no longer have to worry about the A comming home with drugs or drunk, or not comming home at all. I no longer sit by the window (literally) and feel my stomach drop whenevr I see headlights round the corner. I do not have to wonder who he is talking to, or who he is sleeping with. And the big one is I do not have...	serendipity	7	602	Mar 31, 2008 by carolinagirl
	Did you know (Preview) Did you know a 2 year old can say "daddy can we go pub" Yes my 2 year old APARENTLY said this yesterday. It was a nice day and I said to mark take Leah outside and play football. Well after 10 mins it went quiet I looked outside and no one was there. When he came back I asked where ahve you been he said L...	mum2leahnjosh	2	275	Mar 31, 2008 by Suzannah
	Treatment discussion with AH (Preview) I have been reading the posts in this message board for some time now. It has been very helpful to me. My bipolar AH and I are currently living apart, both of us support this arrangement. He is actively using and not medicated for his bipolar. I have taken the stand that I would not have any contact with h...	sdoody00	8	510	Mar 31, 2008 by sdoody00
	Not Surprised Anymore (Preview) I never thought it would happen, but it has: I wasn't surprised today by my A. I have talked to him almost everyday this week. Mostly due to him "needing" a wake up call for work. I put that in quotes because I KNOW he doesn't NEED one, he just says/thinks he does. Anyways, I've borrowed the truc...	JenniferN	1	359	Mar 31, 2008 by Mandy123
	Massachusetts annual alanon convention (Preview) Hi ((everyone)), I just returned form the Massachusetts annual alanon convention. I have 3 words - WOW, WOW, WOW!!!. I had a spiritual awakening and it was amazing. Thank you all for your support in my recovery. Paul	norwood	3	313	Mar 30, 2008 by Mandy123
	What I learned . . . (Preview) What I learned . . . I went to an Alanon conference this weekend and as someone was sharing this morning in the unconditional love workshop, she said what I felt but did not know I was feeling at the time. When we walk through the doors of the conference, its with a sigh of relief. We arent facing the outsi...	Maria123	3	328	Mar 30, 2008 by Mandy123
	can't enter room/unknown host exception? (Preview) what does this mean and how do I fix it?	seekingserenity	1	289	Mar 30, 2008 by getoverit
	I just found his stash.... (Preview) I just came across my AH's drug stash. This wasn't one of those times where I was tearing up the house, looking in every box, nook and cranny, it was almost out in the open. I only stumbled across it because it was hidden in a shoe and the shoes were in a rather unlikely spot, so I went to move them and the s...	BooBoo313	23	831	Mar 30, 2008 by getoverit
	The butterfly story (Preview) The Butterfly Story Before this great change comes about,the fuzzy little worm withdraws from it's caterpillar world,and finds itself a place alone,and there painfully,and with struggling,it wraps itself tightly into a cocoon of its own making;it leterally seals itself off from the world...	angel123	4	3156	Mar 30, 2008 by Peggy7
	((hugs)) (Preview) Hi Carol, My first husband and I got a divorce many years ago. He never had contact with the children. When my daughter turned of age she wanted to find him. Her brother did from the internet. He was in the VA hospital with cancer. My daughter did not know him. But took it on her self to have him sent here to a V...	angel123	3	389	Mar 30, 2008 by Peggy7
	Sponsor problems (Preview) Dear Family, I could use some ESH.... I am confused about a shift in my relationship with my sponsor. Actually, I have a resentment... I haven't seen her or talked with her as much since my divorce was final 2 wks ago... But, her birthday was Thursday. So on Wednesday, I called and expressed how I wa...	glad lee	7	729	Mar 30, 2008 by glad lee
	He has decided to use sex to end our marriage (Preview) Hello my family, I am reaching out right now becuase I need some ESH from alanoners. I have talked to a few nonalanons and they have at least helped me dry my tears and keep somewhat of a focus on the tasks at hand. My husband and I are seperated and have been for about 3 weeks. This is the second seperation si...	Mandy123	14	771	Mar 30, 2008 by norwood
	relapse experience? (Preview) It's been over a year since I last posted. Briefly, I was living with a BF (and father to my now 2yr old son) whom has a Hx of 4 DUIs, has lost his DL for life and is currently still of probation for his last DUI. He has always been a weekend binge drinker. When I met him he was in recovery - but court ordered. ...	suzydawn	5	449	Mar 30, 2008 by lin0606
	Fell from my rocker (Preview) Oh the things you can think...and disillusion yourself with! I few months ago, I quit attending Alanon...but would at least try to make it online and push myself forward. My AH quit things....quit trying to drink...then began...the quit...RoLLeRcoASteRinG. My private prayers seeming endle...	Just For Now	7	456	Mar 30, 2008 by Karilynn
	Ally made me do it, she really did lol. (Preview) Hi all, A few weeks back I created a myspace page at the request (yeah right) of our Allygirl. I am having issues with making it all pretty and fancy. Way beyond my know how and I haven't taken the time to figure it out. But if any of you all are in that world feel free to add me if ya want. http://www.myspace.c...	Mandy123	0	376	Mar 30, 2008 by Mandy123
	How can I stop lending them money? (Preview) Hi Again!!! I am living with my 2 alcoholic parents. I am in my mid twenties and can't afford to move out of home yet as saving for a deposit for a house. Both my parents have good jobs. they are both professionals. My father has never been involved in home finances. He just earns his money and spends what he...	CalamityJane	7	731	Mar 29, 2008 by maresie
	DON'T Neglect your PHYSICAL being (Preview) I'm learning the hard way today what a total downer lack of sleep is on my ability to approach my day with a good and positive attitude and outlook. I've switched my schedule around so that I'm waking up earlier now to get my daily exercise in. Al-anon meeting schedules after work and various other pos...	Aloha	11	580	Mar 29, 2008 by maresie
	Has anyone dated a fellow al-anoner? (Preview) Hi all, just a question. It seems to me that the best people in the world associate with al-anon, right? So, it might be perfectly natural for an al-anoner to date another al-anoner, right? Yet, when I think of this, I feel a conflict of interest, somehow. Like dating someone you work with, in your job- i...	Jean4444	10	1464	Mar 29, 2008 by maresie
	Confrontation tonight about the stash discovery... (Preview) I'm glad I have been reading up on this board (I have yet to attend a f2f) as I had to confront my AH tonight. He asked me what was bothering me and so I told him. I'm proud of myself that I didn't get angry nor did I cry. I just stated the facts--What I found, where I found it and why it made me unhappy. He denie...	BooBoo313	5	617	Mar 29, 2008 by maresie
	doing things differently (Preview) One of my charactor traits is to be naive, too trusting, and then be bitterly disappointed. Recently one of my newer housemates was social with me. She suggested that she could help me out with my dogs as they seem to like her. I was enthused but cautious. This person is in recovery and I was happy to hea...	maresie	4	479	Mar 29, 2008 by Andrea12
	(Off topic) Earth Hour (Preview) Have you ever wondered what one person can do? Here's your answer. http://www. earthhour. org On 31 March 2007, 2.2 million people and 2100 Sydney businesses turned off their lights for one hour - Earth Hour. This massive collective effort reduced Sydney's energy consumption by 10.2% for one hour...	Christy	3	515	Mar 29, 2008 by Karilynn
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