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carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Friday, before I went to divorce court I went parasailing (parachute behind a boat...) and immediately after I went and got my hair cut short, decided to dye it brown and now have a totally new much better style.... funny timing? I'm still doing the weekday workout - 3 for 3 sofar this week. I have decid...

arty · arty

HI all, i havent posted in over a year. I broke up with my A last year because i couldnt deal with the drink anymore, and since then i have been so happy...most days. But recently i have been bumping into old friends whom i havent seen in a long time, so im finding myself explaining the breakup. It seems th...

intothewoods · intothewoods

So, my A fiance ended his sober streak tonight. He came home from work with "two beers." (I couldn't help but notice that hey were two 24 oz cans, which is four beers to a normal person.) Of course he was "just going to drink one and not buy any more." (Of course he just went out and bou...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Way back in the day, before the AA program had any steps, traditions or literature at all--and forget al anon!--there were the 4 absolutes. Based on The Oxford Group in England, the first group to attempt to takle alcholism as an individual disease, the foundation for the AA program--and for al anon-...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Well, I guess you could say that today is the kick-off for our divorce. We will be meeting together with our attorneys this afternoon. If anyone is out there praying this morning, I sure would appreciate you throwing me in there. I want to treat it like an al-anon meeting - listen and stay quiet mostl...

Suzannah · Suzannah

There's always one trip, one ride,one surf, one expedition you make which you remember the most, over all the other adventures you have in life. It may be going to gorgeous parts of the world on a holiday, taking a trip to an island, or through rainforests or up mountains, however that feeling of being...

maresie · maresie

I grew up in a an abusive, chaotic home where all the responsibiltiies were reversed. My relationship with my two sisters was based on survival, shaming, blaming and competition for meager resources. So i grew up as a magnet for an alcoholic who is active. I grew up used to taking responsibility fo...

Codependent · Codependent

So I find that I have made some new friends who live near me that I share similar upbringings with- well with the wife. Both of us come from dysfunctional homes with abuse, etc. Anyway, I find when I visit with them she and I often drink wine together and vent about our childhoods. Although this often,...

pickford · pickford

I've only posted (reply) once, but needed to write out my thoughts of the past week and thought this would be a good place. My AH was arrested last Monday for domestic violence...not that this was the first time or even the 10th. I probably would have let it go longer but for one thing...our 6-year-old...

ddub · ddub

Has anyone dealt with an A partner and this sleep disorder? (see info below) It states this could happen if drinking or withdrawal & as acute rather than chronic. With functioning chronic AH, I'm not sure if it means he's drinking more or less and whether this is going to continue or what. I am...

sdisnie · sdisnie

Okay, I have a question about binge drinking. I know when we're practicing al-anon, we only worry about ourselves and not the alcoholic, their disease is their thing etc etc. Yet, when you have an A that is a binge drinker and has been on the wagon with the program AA etc, and they relapse, are you 'allo...

Aloha · Aloha

I've shared in here a while ago that my AH and I had to go file a claim in small courts to get our deposit back from our addict-landlord. She flipped out on us when we told her we were going to have to move back in late January/early February. Our deposit should have been paid to us 15 days after we vacated, but...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

The divorce went through yesterday, I thought there might be a problem because the A filed a response from the jail requesting to be brought in for the hearing but since he got out of jail and didn't respond and proceeded to leave the state (watch out PA...) I was granted the divorce and full custody of my...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, Do to the conversations that took place during the business meeting I was unable to get to the discussion of meeting coverage. Just to let you all know Norwood has stepped up to be the Wednesday OP. So yay norwood, we have been needing a chair for that night. Yours in recovery, Mandy

Loupiness · Loupiness

I had all three on Fri, but I have to admit that the good outweighed them all. My workload ended up pretty light and I knew there was a meeting at noon. It was in another town and one I've never been too, and I just had this burning desire to go. I walked in and immediately felt uncomfortable. All strange...

Jen · Jen

I get like this sometimes and have never really found a good way to work myself out of it. I could really use some esh on how you all manage to get going again. I know I have been under a lot of stress lately and at the moment have a bit of a head cold or something(sore throat, headache, body ache). I don't know i...

nmike · nmike

You have said to me don't go to the hardware store to get milk. The As don't have what we want or need. Go to meetings, get a sponsor, work your recovery program, and get what you need from your HP. I go to my AHsober for less and less. Mainly because he is less and less available. I have glimmer of understandi...

barisax · barisax

I was going to reply to the "highway" thread but thought maybe I should start a new one. Recovery does not end with putting the plug in the jug. Recovery begins with putting the plug in the jug. That's the way it was for me. I believe that physical, mental, and spiritual recovery begins with o...

Tracy · Tracy

We have choices we can leave we can love and take care of ourselves My A has only been gone for 2 and a half weeks. Let me down got drunk has not been in touch since. You see I have not rung him but would I be back in the cycle if he had rung me. Why didnt I get out earlier Why do I look after everyone and not me my needs...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I've been in this program a year and pretty sure I know the answer, but then I resort back to my controlling ways and think that this situation may be "different". Yeah, right. If nothing else, typing it out her may clarify things for me. My brother is an A. I haven't posted much about him bec...

Jorbax · Jorbax

I allowed my 58 yr old Alcoholic Brother tomove in w/ us. I thought he was rock bottom and thought this was a new beginning for him. Spent 6 months last year in jail for 4th dui...... Ha! We are 9 out of the past 11 days w/ him coming home drunk. We have 2 children and my 80 yr old Mother (w/ Alzheimer's)...

JeannineM · JeannineM

Hello everyone and thanks again for the replies. I wanted to know where I start. I am unable to get to a face to face meetings I have tried to find ones that allow children but w/o success. I am to the website out of complete desire for a way to help myself and get some answers and vent when i have to. All of y...

shebear · shebear

Hi, folks. You would think I'd have recognized the signs, coming from a family where pretty much all the men are either alcoholics or addicts. But here I am at 45 married to an alcoholic in denial, and his defense is "I'm not that bad." No, he doesn't beat me, nor pee in inappropriate places (A...

acjmom · acjmom

I have been talking to the A about trying to work things out, and Im not sure if that is what I want or not, he says (AGAIN) he is willing to really work a program this time but does not feel AA is for him....but wouldnt mind going to Al-Anon with me, which, he is the son and bro of an A...so I guess he DOES in a way...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

Hey guys, so, I am petitioning the court to allow me to move out of state with my daughter. The people closest to me are cautioning me because the attitude I am portraying is one of confidence and peace. I am being told I have my head in the clouds because even though I have my opinions about how my ex is wit...

omajoy · omajoy

While looking back to May 2, 2007, in my pocket calendar I realized I was coming home from the hospital from my third chemo treatment. I was quite ill and quite BALD.....I had not one hair on my head, no eyebrows, or anywhere else!!! Ahead of me lay fourth hospital stay for more chemo in ten days and aft...

Maria123 · Maria123

Friends, I just had to share this with y'all. Thank goodness for this program. I am recovering one day at a time from the craziness I was involved in, perpetuated, and had no control of. Last week I was working on a part of my recovery. I had a habit that I wanted to break (nothing dramatic) just somethi...

barisax · barisax

Do you post when you are in a crisis and desperate? Do you post when in transition and feeling confused? Do you post when you are bored? Do you post when you're feeling good and want to share? Do you post when something newsworthy happens in your program? Or your life in general? I guess I post when I f...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Hello Family, This weekend has been an eye-opener for me, and one that has really proved to me that I am working my programme. However, I have come across some things that have got me thinking about what I should do or shoud not do. Remembering that I have accepted step one - I have no control over my daugh...

charr · charr

My ah and i have been married for 18 years and together 20. At first the only things we had in common was drinking. I think that should have been my sign. (i grew up with an AF and my mother suffered as us kids did) I really wish i could go back and change what happened and left. we never really talked in the be...

meagain · meagain

I wrote before about my Ds and DIL perhaps separting. I finally had a email from him (after I emailed him ) stating Mom we are OK we just need time. OK what does that mean. Well to me--it means butt out--he will call when he feels ready. So I will not die if I don't see the kids for a few weeks or so. ....Anyway I t...

amybear · amybear

I know that I'm married to an A... have known for years, lived in denial that it wasn't that bad... no beating, no trouble with the law, always living paycheck to paycheck.... Then about 2 years ago, he felt like he was having a heart attack and off to the hospital we went... turns out he has acid reflux dis...

emma · emma

Hi roomies, It has been a while since I've posted. I've had a series of opportunities for growth ... Some things that a few years ago would have upset me terribly, now just seem specially sent to get me to where I am to be. That 4th step that my sponsor and I only got partially through ... an opportunity to...

Christy · Christy

This is just a shout out to all my Alanon sisters and brothers. I hope this song makes your spirits soar :) (from the movie Patch Adams)

charr · charr

My husband wants to go out with this couple and The man is one of the stray dogs he brought home and he wants to me and him to hang out with him and his wife, I told him i don't feel comfortable around those people. It just makes me sick to my stomach. I really hate this guy, i blame him for what he is doing with my h...

marmare · marmare

First I want to say that it is nice the door is always open here and it feels so right, so welcoming, and so much like home.... Well, my A has been sober two days, he also has made his own doctor's appointment to get back on meds for the bi-polar, without me urging him or pushing him, or telling him he needed to...

martin · martin

Hi There! I'm here for myself and my children. My husband drinks and smokes pot. For many years he has been using daily. I first realized what a problem it was and what denial I was in about my situation a little over a year ago. I was drinking as well, but not daily. One day, I looked around and saw that...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

The sun is shining today, and I am filled with gratitude. We will have our next group conscience at AA a week from this coming Wednesday and will discuss Alanon starting up again. I was over at my sponsor's last night, and his wife is also commited to making a go of Alanon, so that is good! I am excited, and I...

norwood · norwood

Hi all, I recently rediscovered my love and kindness and became once again comfortable with that being my nature. Of course, that is so much due to my program and my wonderful support. I have some incredible direct support from my family, my sponsor and those I guess I could call my chorus of positive...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

We have been in a wind advisory today with gusts up to 60 mph. For two years now, I have put up with my neighbor to the west who has a crappy old metal shed that isn't anchored down. It keeps blowing into my fencing. Today was the final straw as her idea of 'anchoring' it down was putting railroad ties laying d...

ddub · ddub

Ever feel like you are running in circles or yup, hitting your head against the wall? Yeah, me too. Awareness, acceptance, action again & again. Things change but not anything that makes a different result. Maybe I can figure this out with writing now or MIP help so...... ah is courteous, kin...

DeadOrAlive · DeadOrAlive

Hello friends, I am just trying to hold on and let my AH do what he does and not react. But boy is he pushing my buttons this am. He was supposed to get up at six (my son had to wake him) and take our son to his SATs. I t o l d him the time frame he had planned was cutting it close, but does he listen? Well it is out...

Jill · Jill

Weeks ago someone posted about a friend who died of alcoholism and asked if anyone wanted prayers for someone we hold dear who is in the same boat. I asked prayers for my brother and have received some feedback from our members assuring me they are praying for him. I have found this such a comfort during t...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

It's hard to reflect back over my life and comprehend just how little I settled for throughout my adult life. I was born to two very loving, caring parents, neither alcoholics, but along with their union in marriage came the baggage of generations of alcoholics on both sides. I was a very shy kid growin...

Tracy · Tracy

Its been 2 weeks since I saw my A most of the time I am doing o.k life is a lot more manageable. Feel like I am heading in right direction. But then the emotions take over anger one minute, lonely the next, scared so scared. How can he have ever loved me why hasn;t he called to apologise for letting me down aga...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hello ((((Family)))) This Sunday evening is the monthly business meeting (9pm CST), I hope you can make it! Please try to be there!!! Here is the agenda for the meeting! MIP Al-Anon Business MeetingMay 4, 2008Open with Serenity PrayerSecretary's Report ...

glad · glad

I thank God for the two good meetings I went to this week. I learned so much from other peoples shares. I really didn't think I would ever have any idea why I feel so incomplete or "not as good as" the rest of the world. I now have some idea and realized that there is a higher power that (not only CAN...

JeannineM · JeannineM

please someone shoot me end the pain. i am currently at my in-laws house pickin up my daughter. My Ah is here right now and is piss drunk. he is currently screaming, falling over and blaming everything on me. he is in the basement talking to his father. my daughter is down the park with my mother-in-law....

intothewoods · intothewoods

I need some ESH on this guys.... how do you deal with an A who's not in denial anymore, but still isn't exactly in recovery? My A fiance is going to therapy and genuinely trying to work out his issues and figure out his disease, etc. Of course he won't go to AA. There's a million excuses, but the bottom line i...

Aloha · Aloha

After the emotional weekend I had with my AH, I've just been feeling pretty low and beat down. I'm thinking part of it is hormones - PMS time for me. I imagine PMS must feel something similar to how it feels when an A isn't drinking. I'm restless and irritable and I go through high highs and low lows. I've be...

acjmom · acjmom

Hello All, have not posted in a week or so but have kept up on the reading here....always such a big help...seems like when Im about at the end of my rope I can come here and read for a bit and it helps to calm me. LOTS of changes in my household the past week or so....I made up my mind that I will no longer do th...

meagain · meagain

Thankyou for the posts from the other nite. I have tried to call my son re: separting from his wife. I left messages on his cell phone. I don't want to call his home-I feel that I would be interfering with his wife and him. I would love to take the kids for the evening...........I am trying to LEt Go and Let G...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Some of you will remember that I first came here, devastated by the relationship I had with my daughter, well to be honest the relationship I did NOT have with my daughter. Since then I have been learning how to focus on me; to change the things I could in me and accept the things I could not change in her. I...

cookie1971 · cookie1971

(((((Family))))) Well I'm back home again. We had a great flight both ways. I must say, I was worried for nothing. I truly had a good time. My daughter enjoyed her birthday , and I didn't have to end up being a third wheel with her and her boyfriend Hubby was on his best behavior, going out of his way to make m...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I just went to my first AA meeting despite not being an A. I bawled through most of the meeting. I caused the woman that was heading hte meeting enough that she wanted to talk to me afterwards. She told me about Alateen and Alanon. Once I got up the urge to speak to her (I had kept saying to my friend, Nate, I do...

Momto4 · Momto4

I've been with my A husband for almost 10 years. We've had 3 children with one on the way. I'm pretty much at my wit's end with him. After reading this board for the last few days I see I am pretty much a textbook A wife/sig. other. His biggest complaint about me is I'm a control freak. (in his words) I've alwa...

doublesmommy · doublesmommy

To an Al-Anon meeting next Monday evening. I posted late last week my story, and thank you to everyone that responded, I did some more reserach on Al Anon, and after thinking about it and talking with my counsellor today who helped me to realize my H is alchohol dependant (he is a functioning alcoholic,...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((Family)))))))), Thank you all for the wonderful birthday wishes. It was indeed a lovely day. Even though the sun was shining we pretended it was a rainy day. We stayed home, watched movies and ate . I made all of my favorite foods with lots of butter. Julia Child had nothing on me that d...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Today is my Friday! (assuming you don't count my 2nd job in which case Saturday is my Friday LOL) Next time I come here I will be a divorced woman! For those of you who know my story you're probably saying it's about dang time!!! ;) Monday is the court date to finalize the divorce and give me full custo...

round3 · round3

I'm so blessed to have this board. I've been reading so many of the posts lately - and so many apply to my situation. (HP????) As many of you know...my on-again off-again on-again off-again 30 year romance with my A seems to be on again - albeit from a great distance. But he's been talking to me about...

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	I forgot to mention... (Preview) Friday, before I went to divorce court I went parasailing (parachute behind a boat...) and immediately after I went and got my hair cut short, decided to dye it brown and now have a totally new much better style.... funny timing? I'm still doing the weekday workout - 3 for 3 sofar this week. I have decid...	carolinagirl	6	661	May 8, 2008 by serendipity
	why does it bother me so much? (Preview) HI all, i havent posted in over a year. I broke up with my A last year because i couldnt deal with the drink anymore, and since then i have been so happy...most days. But recently i have been bumping into old friends whom i havent seen in a long time, so im finding myself explaining the breakup. It seems th...	arty	12	967	May 8, 2008 by Diva
	So THIS is what detachment feels like! (Preview) So, my A fiance ended his sober streak tonight. He came home from work with "two beers." (I couldn't help but notice that hey were two 24 oz cans, which is four beers to a normal person.) Of course he was "just going to drink one and not buy any more." (Of course he just went out and bou...	intothewoods	4	679	May 8, 2008 by nmike
	The 4 Absolutes (Preview) Way back in the day, before the AA program had any steps, traditions or literature at all--and forget al anon!--there were the 4 absolutes. Based on The Oxford Group in England, the first group to attempt to takle alcholism as an individual disease, the foundation for the AA program--and for al anon-...	Tiger2006	4	9986	May 8, 2008 by nmike
	today's the day... (Preview) Well, I guess you could say that today is the kick-off for our divorce. We will be meeting together with our attorneys this afternoon. If anyone is out there praying this morning, I sure would appreciate you throwing me in there. I want to treat it like an al-anon meeting - listen and stay quiet mostl...	Loupiness	6	524	May 8, 2008 by ddub
	The risk was worth it... (Preview) There's always one trip, one ride,one surf, one expedition you make which you remember the most, over all the other adventures you have in life. It may be going to gorgeous parts of the world on a holiday, taking a trip to an island, or through rainforests or up mountains, however that feeling of being...	Suzannah	3	617	May 8, 2008 by ddub
	Over responsibilty (Preview) I grew up in a an abusive, chaotic home where all the responsibiltiies were reversed. My relationship with my two sisters was based on survival, shaming, blaming and competition for meager resources. So i grew up as a magnet for an alcoholic who is active. I grew up used to taking responsibility fo...	maresie	2	416	May 8, 2008 by ddub
	Exposure (Preview) So I find that I have made some new friends who live near me that I share similar upbringings with- well with the wife. Both of us come from dysfunctional homes with abuse, etc. Anyway, I find when I visit with them she and I often drink wine together and vent about our childhoods. Although this often,...	Codependent	3	550	May 8, 2008 by Christy
	Wild week-AH arrested (Preview) I've only posted (reply) once, but needed to write out my thoughts of the past week and thought this would be a good place. My AH was arrested last Monday for domestic violence...not that this was the first time or even the 10th. I probably would have let it go longer but for one thing...our 6-year-old...	pickford	6	695	May 7, 2008 by pickford
	alcoholic sleep disorders (Preview) Has anyone dealt with an A partner and this sleep disorder? (see info below) It states this could happen if drinking or withdrawal & as acute rather than chronic. With functioning chronic AH, I'm not sure if it means he's drinking more or less and whether this is going to continue or what. I am...	ddub	7	1422	May 7, 2008 by maresie
	Binge Drinking question (Preview) Okay, I have a question about binge drinking. I know when we're practicing al-anon, we only worry about ourselves and not the alcoholic, their disease is their thing etc etc. Yet, when you have an A that is a binge drinker and has been on the wagon with the program AA etc, and they relapse, are you 'allo...	sdisnie	8	1012	May 7, 2008 by maresie
	Ex ALandlord woes (Preview) I've shared in here a while ago that my AH and I had to go file a claim in small courts to get our deposit back from our addict-landlord. She flipped out on us when we told her we were going to have to move back in late January/early February. Our deposit should have been paid to us 15 days after we vacated, but...	Aloha	4	534	May 7, 2008 by Aloha
	Finally free (Preview) The divorce went through yesterday, I thought there might be a problem because the A filed a response from the jail requesting to be brought in for the hearing but since he got out of jail and didn't respond and proceeded to leave the state (watch out PA...) I was granted the divorce and full custody of my...	carolinagirl	6	484	May 7, 2008 by Christy
	NEW WEDNESDAY OP (Preview) Hi all, Do to the conversations that took place during the business meeting I was unable to get to the discussion of meeting coverage. Just to let you all know Norwood has stepped up to be the Wednesday OP. So yay norwood, we have been needing a chair for that night. Yours in recovery, Mandy	Mandy123	0	369	May 6, 2008 by Mandy123
	the good, the bad and the ugly.... (Preview) I had all three on Fri, but I have to admit that the good outweighed them all. My workload ended up pretty light and I knew there was a meeting at noon. It was in another town and one I've never been too, and I just had this burning desire to go. I walked in and immediately felt uncomfortable. All strange...	Loupiness	4	727	May 6, 2008 by maresie
	feeling blah and unmotivated (Preview) I get like this sometimes and have never really found a good way to work myself out of it. I could really use some esh on how you all manage to get going again. I know I have been under a lot of stress lately and at the moment have a bit of a head cold or something(sore throat, headache, body ache). I don't know i...	Jen	6	729	May 6, 2008 by maresie
	Then what ARE we suppose to get from the A? (Preview) You have said to me don't go to the hardware store to get milk. The As don't have what we want or need. Go to meetings, get a sponsor, work your recovery program, and get what you need from your HP. I go to my AHsober for less and less. Mainly because he is less and less available. I have glimmer of understandi...	nmike	16	861	May 6, 2008 by omajoy
	How does recovery begin? (Preview) I was going to reply to the "highway" thread but thought maybe I should start a new one. Recovery does not end with putting the plug in the jug. Recovery begins with putting the plug in the jug. That's the way it was for me. I believe that physical, mental, and spiritual recovery begins with o...	barisax	11	826	May 6, 2008 by carolinagirl
	Courage to change (Preview) We have choices we can leave we can love and take care of ourselves My A has only been gone for 2 and a half weeks. Let me down got drunk has not been in touch since. You see I have not rung him but would I be back in the cycle if he had rung me. Why didnt I get out earlier Why do I look after everyone and not me my needs...	Tracy	5	595	May 6, 2008 by maresie
	just gotta ask.. (Preview) I've been in this program a year and pretty sure I know the answer, but then I resort back to my controlling ways and think that this situation may be "different". Yeah, right. If nothing else, typing it out her may clarify things for me. My brother is an A. I haven't posted much about him bec...	Loupiness	7	549	May 6, 2008 by Loupiness
	How do I do this? Help...... (Preview) I allowed my 58 yr old Alcoholic Brother tomove in w/ us. I thought he was rock bottom and thought this was a new beginning for him. Spent 6 months last year in jail for 4th dui...... Ha! We are 9 out of the past 11 days w/ him coming home drunk. We have 2 children and my 80 yr old Mother (w/ Alzheimer's)...	Jorbax	4	854	May 6, 2008 by Karilynn
	where do i start? (Preview) Hello everyone and thanks again for the replies. I wanted to know where I start. I am unable to get to a face to face meetings I have tried to find ones that allow children but w/o success. I am to the website out of complete desire for a way to help myself and get some answers and vent when i have to. All of y...	JeannineM	5	735	May 5, 2008 by maresie
	How bad is bad enough? (Preview) Hi, folks. You would think I'd have recognized the signs, coming from a family where pretty much all the men are either alcoholics or addicts. But here I am at 45 married to an alcoholic in denial, and his defense is "I'm not that bad." No, he doesn't beat me, nor pee in inappropriate places (A...	shebear	9	734	May 5, 2008 by canadianguy
	Just wondering (Preview) I have been talking to the A about trying to work things out, and Im not sure if that is what I want or not, he says (AGAIN) he is willing to really work a program this time but does not feel AA is for him....but wouldnt mind going to Al-Anon with me, which, he is the son and bro of an A...so I guess he DOES in a way...	acjmom	4	545	May 5, 2008 by maresie
	Is it pride, stupidity, or???? (Preview) Hey guys, so, I am petitioning the court to allow me to move out of state with my daughter. The people closest to me are cautioning me because the attitude I am portraying is one of confidence and peace. I am being told I have my head in the clouds because even though I have my opinions about how my ex is wit...	seekingserenity	5	719	May 5, 2008 by thinkstoomuch
	gratitude (Preview) While looking back to May 2, 2007, in my pocket calendar I realized I was coming home from the hospital from my third chemo treatment. I was quite ill and quite BALD.....I had not one hair on my head, no eyebrows, or anywhere else!!! Ahead of me lay fourth hospital stay for more chemo in ten days and aft...	omajoy	7	568	May 5, 2008 by Gailey
	My Son Rocks!!!! (Preview) Friends, I just had to share this with y'all. Thank goodness for this program. I am recovering one day at a time from the craziness I was involved in, perpetuated, and had no control of. Last week I was working on a part of my recovery. I had a habit that I wanted to break (nothing dramatic) just somethi...	Maria123	10	554	May 4, 2008 by cookie1971
	When Do You Post? Yet another thread spin-off (Preview) Do you post when you are in a crisis and desperate? Do you post when in transition and feeling confused? Do you post when you are bored? Do you post when you're feeling good and want to share? Do you post when something newsworthy happens in your program? Or your life in general? I guess I post when I f...	barisax	7	779	May 4, 2008 by cookie1971
	Dope habit (Preview) Hello Family, This weekend has been an eye-opener for me, and one that has really proved to me that I am working my programme. However, I have come across some things that have got me thinking about what I should do or shoud not do. Remembering that I have accepted step one - I have no control over my daugh...	Suzannah	3	985	May 4, 2008 by cookie1971
	new member and trying to start with al-anon (Preview) My ah and i have been married for 18 years and together 20. At first the only things we had in common was drinking. I think that should have been my sign. (i grew up with an AF and my mother suffered as us kids did) I really wish i could go back and change what happened and left. we never really talked in the be...	charr	7	703	May 4, 2008 by charr
	my feeling are so raw right now (Preview) I wrote before about my Ds and DIL perhaps separting. I finally had a email from him (after I emailed him ) stating Mom we are OK we just need time. OK what does that mean. Well to me--it means butt out--he will call when he feels ready. So I will not die if I don't see the kids for a few weeks or so. ....Anyway I t...	meagain	1	578	May 4, 2008 by omajoy
	New here... need some support (Preview) I know that I'm married to an A... have known for years, lived in denial that it wasn't that bad... no beating, no trouble with the law, always living paycheck to paycheck.... Then about 2 years ago, he felt like he was having a heart attack and off to the hospital we went... turns out he has acid reflux dis...	amybear	4	701	May 3, 2008 by Jerry F
	HP in charge (Preview) Hi roomies, It has been a while since I've posted. I've had a series of opportunities for growth ... Some things that a few years ago would have upset me terribly, now just seem specially sent to get me to where I am to be. That 4th step that my sponsor and I only got partially through ... an opportunity to...	emma	1	468	May 3, 2008 by Jerry F
	Faith of the heart (Preview) This is just a shout out to all my Alanon sisters and brothers. I hope this song makes your spirits soar :) (from the movie Patch Adams)	Christy	4	444	May 3, 2008 by ddub
	I really don't want to be around these people.. (Preview) My husband wants to go out with this couple and The man is one of the stray dogs he brought home and he wants to me and him to hang out with him and his wife, I told him i don't feel comfortable around those people. It just makes me sick to my stomach. I really hate this guy, i blame him for what he is doing with my h...	charr	4	642	May 3, 2008 by Christy
	Short Update (Preview) First I want to say that it is nice the door is always open here and it feels so right, so welcoming, and so much like home.... Well, my A has been sober two days, he also has made his own doctor's appointment to get back on meds for the bi-polar, without me urging him or pushing him, or telling him he needed to...	marmare	5	528	May 3, 2008 by emma
	I'm new! First Post (Preview) Hi There! I'm here for myself and my children. My husband drinks and smokes pot. For many years he has been using daily. I first realized what a problem it was and what denial I was in about my situation a little over a year ago. I was drinking as well, but not daily. One day, I looked around and saw that...	martin	7	1611	May 3, 2008 by martin
	A couple of updates (Preview) The sun is shining today, and I am filled with gratitude. We will have our next group conscience at AA a week from this coming Wednesday and will discuss Alanon starting up again. I was over at my sponsor's last night, and his wife is also commited to making a go of Alanon, so that is good! I am excited, and I...	Tenderheartsks	2	336	May 3, 2008 by Tenderheartsks
	The scorpion and the frog (Preview) Hi all, I recently rediscovered my love and kindness and became once again comfortable with that being my nature. Of course, that is so much due to my program and my wonderful support. I have some incredible direct support from my family, my sponsor and those I guess I could call my chorus of positive...	norwood	5	740	May 3, 2008 by ESH
	A sense of humor helps! (Preview) We have been in a wind advisory today with gusts up to 60 mph. For two years now, I have put up with my neighbor to the west who has a crappy old metal shed that isn't anchored down. It keeps blowing into my fencing. Today was the final straw as her idea of 'anchoring' it down was putting railroad ties laying d...	Tenderheartsks	7	1028	May 3, 2008 by ESH
	repeating patterns (Preview) Ever feel like you are running in circles or yup, hitting your head against the wall? Yeah, me too. Awareness, acceptance, action again & again. Things change but not anything that makes a different result. Maybe I can figure this out with writing now or MIP help so...... ah is courteous, kin...	ddub	2	388	May 3, 2008 by ESH
	Irritated (Preview) Hello friends, I am just trying to hold on and let my AH do what he does and not react. But boy is he pushing my buttons this am. He was supposed to get up at six (my son had to wake him) and take our son to his SATs. I t o l d him the time frame he had planned was cutting it close, but does he listen? Well it is out...	DeadOrAlive	1	353	May 3, 2008 by debilyn
	Thank you for your prayers (Preview) Weeks ago someone posted about a friend who died of alcoholism and asked if anyone wanted prayers for someone we hold dear who is in the same boat. I asked prayers for my brother and have received some feedback from our members assuring me they are praying for him. I have found this such a comfort during t...	Jill	2	511	May 2, 2008 by Jerry F
	Why did I settle for so little for so long? (Preview) It's hard to reflect back over my life and comprehend just how little I settled for throughout my adult life. I was born to two very loving, caring parents, neither alcoholics, but along with their union in marriage came the baggage of generations of alcoholics on both sides. I was a very shy kid growin...	Tenderheartsks	4	783	May 2, 2008 by nmike
	Emtion overload (Preview) Its been 2 weeks since I saw my A most of the time I am doing o.k life is a lot more manageable. Feel like I am heading in right direction. But then the emotions take over anger one minute, lonely the next, scared so scared. How can he have ever loved me why hasn;t he called to apologise for letting me down aga...	Tracy	3	506	May 2, 2008 by maresie
	May Business meeting--- Hehe let's party!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (Preview) Hello ((((Family)))) This Sunday evening is the monthly business meeting (9pm CST), I hope you can make it! Please try to be there!!! Here is the agenda for the meeting! MIP Al-Anon Business MeetingMay 4, 2008Open with Serenity PrayerSecretary's Report ...	Mandy123	2	628	May 2, 2008 by norwood
	Really good meeting! (Preview) I thank God for the two good meetings I went to this week. I learned so much from other peoples shares. I really didn't think I would ever have any idea why I feel so incomplete or "not as good as" the rest of the world. I now have some idea and realized that there is a higher power that (not only CAN...	glad	1	337	May 2, 2008 by Gailey
	help help help (Preview) please someone shoot me end the pain. i am currently at my in-laws house pickin up my daughter. My Ah is here right now and is piss drunk. he is currently screaming, falling over and blaming everything on me. he is in the basement talking to his father. my daughter is down the park with my mother-in-law....	JeannineM	9	680	May 2, 2008 by glad
	Is it AA or the highway? (Preview) I need some ESH on this guys.... how do you deal with an A who's not in denial anymore, but still isn't exactly in recovery? My A fiance is going to therapy and genuinely trying to work out his issues and figure out his disease, etc. Of course he won't go to AA. There's a million excuses, but the bottom line i...	intothewoods	7	1087	May 2, 2008 by Aloha
	Not doing well (Preview) After the emotional weekend I had with my AH, I've just been feeling pretty low and beat down. I'm thinking part of it is hormones - PMS time for me. I imagine PMS must feel something similar to how it feels when an A isn't drinking. I'm restless and irritable and I go through high highs and low lows. I've be...	Aloha	11	538	May 2, 2008 by Tracy
	Busy Busy week....lots of changes (Preview) Hello All, have not posted in a week or so but have kept up on the reading here....always such a big help...seems like when Im about at the end of my rope I can come here and read for a bit and it helps to calm me. LOTS of changes in my household the past week or so....I made up my mind that I will no longer do th...	acjmom	2	385	May 2, 2008 by maresie
	What else can I do? (Preview) Thankyou for the posts from the other nite. I have tried to call my son re: separting from his wife. I left messages on his cell phone. I don't want to call his home-I feel that I would be interfering with his wife and him. I would love to take the kids for the evening...........I am trying to LEt Go and Let G...	meagain	4	570	May 2, 2008 by maresie
	Celebrating an engagement! (Preview) Some of you will remember that I first came here, devastated by the relationship I had with my daughter, well to be honest the relationship I did NOT have with my daughter. Since then I have been learning how to focus on me; to change the things I could in me and accept the things I could not change in her. I...	Suzannah	10	518	May 2, 2008 by ddub
	Back From Vegas (Preview) (((((Family))))) Well I'm back home again. We had a great flight both ways. I must say, I was worried for nothing. I truly had a good time. My daughter enjoyed her birthday , and I didn't have to end up being a third wheel with her and her boyfriend Hubby was on his best behavior, going out of his way to make m...	cookie1971	5	530	May 2, 2008 by ddub
	ftf meetings (Preview) I just went to my first AA meeting despite not being an A. I bawled through most of the meeting. I caused the woman that was heading hte meeting enough that she wanted to talk to me afterwards. She told me about Alateen and Alanon. Once I got up the urge to speak to her (I had kept saying to my friend, Nate, I do...	Lanchas	3	485	May 2, 2008 by Jean4444
	very new to this, have questions (Preview) I've been with my A husband for almost 10 years. We've had 3 children with one on the way. I'm pretty much at my wit's end with him. After reading this board for the last few days I see I am pretty much a textbook A wife/sig. other. His biggest complaint about me is I'm a control freak. (in his words) I've alwa...	Momto4	8	719	May 2, 2008 by ddub
	I'm going (Preview) To an Al-Anon meeting next Monday evening. I posted late last week my story, and thank you to everyone that responded, I did some more reserach on Al Anon, and after thinking about it and talking with my counsellor today who helped me to realize my H is alchohol dependant (he is a functioning alcoholic,...	doublesmommy	11	699	May 1, 2008 by ddub
	Thank you! (Preview) (((((((((((Family)))))))), Thank you all for the wonderful birthday wishes. It was indeed a lovely day. Even though the sun was shining we pretended it was a rainy day. We stayed home, watched movies and ate . I made all of my favorite foods with lots of butter. Julia Child had nothing on me that d...	Karilynn	5	417	May 1, 2008 by maresie
	Update on me... (Preview) Today is my Friday! (assuming you don't count my 2nd job in which case Saturday is my Friday LOL) Next time I come here I will be a divorced woman! For those of you who know my story you're probably saying it's about dang time!!! ;) Monday is the court date to finalize the divorce and give me full custo...	carolinagirl	3	404	May 1, 2008 by maresie
	What if? (Preview) I'm so blessed to have this board. I've been reading so many of the posts lately - and so many apply to my situation. (HP????) As many of you know...my on-again off-again on-again off-again 30 year romance with my A seems to be on again - albeit from a great distance. But he's been talking to me about...	round3	10	617	May 1, 2008 by round3
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