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notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone. some of you know me and some dont. long story short...been in the program few years now. was with an alcoholic/crack addict for 8 yrs and magaged to leave him and get my life back. i was extremely happy and healthy. i was on top of the world. currently ive lost myself again. my life is falling...

mich8 · mich8

I am new to this board - I have read a few posts and love the way people share and support each other... I found this week that my son, age 16, has been using drugs for quite some time and it was right under my nose. I found an ADD drug all crushed up and ready to snort in his pocket while I was doing laundry. Whe...

Suzannah · Suzannah

((((((((((((Family)))))))))))) I am sharing this with you all as I have with my Sponsor, 'cos I need your help, your clarity, your thoughts on this craziness of mine. "...So trying to practise my OWN self confessed approach and letting go letting God this morning; and after a session of visual...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Its incredible, the more I lean on HP, the less it matters what ANYONE does/doesn't do or says/doesn't say. I am taking things less and less personally with each passing month. The more I am gentle with myself, the more others are gentle towards me. The more I understand that we are each on our own journe...

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanoners, Sure feels like it sometimes. Just got off the phone with him - my AHSober. It takes us about 2 secs now to get into that circular conversation. I called to see if he could take the truck in for brakes and he says when are we going to sit down with the specifics about the divorce. He says you have...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Love the miracles in my life...feel so much is happening as I accept more and more of what is in my life. Not fighting my life as much these days, and I am sure that is something to do with Alanon and practising the programme and reading and writing and sharing with this ((((family)))). Nothing stays the s...

queenie105 · queenie105

AH has been sober now for about 10 days, since losing his job (of over 20 years) due to his drunkeness 3 weeks ago. I'm sorry to say I have not kept up with the enforcement of my own boundaries. When he lost his job, I told him I would not leave him if he got sober, went to 90 meetings in 90 days and remained s...

Diva · Diva

I have no knowledge of how the court system operates: A got arrested May 22nd for public intoxication. At that time he apparently appeared before a judge. He doesn't remember doing so, but the paperwork he brought home indicates that he did. At that time he was given the date of June 25th (yesterday) to...

junehouse · junehouse

I had tried to send this via private message a long time ago but it did not go through, I have had some trouble with sending intracomputer notes and usually have to cut and paste the email on my own email. I think it has something to do with my security computer system maybe? anyhoo below is the message fr...

Mabeleileen · Mabeleileen

I am done with it. I am done trying to be the only one trying to make our marriage work. I am done listening to him make drink after drink. I am done watching him drink. I am done watching how he is treating our wonderful children. I am done being treated like a child. I am done yelling. I am done crying. I am don...

AJ · AJ

The thought of taking care of myself is rather foreign. I always believed that you put other people's needs ahead of your own, and that if you thought about yourself for any length of time it was not a good thing to do. I'm sure I adopted this behavior from watching my mother who catered to my father's (and...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

just want some advice on dealing with another anon or codependent who is not an A

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family!! I was asked in a PM to take the subject of "doing the opposites" out a bit further or to expand on what I had mentioned in a reply to a post earlier. In that post I had mentioned that I had learned "the opposites" from working with help from the program, sponsor and my th...

meagain · meagain

Thanks You to all of you for your prayers and concerns about the issue with my son and DIL. But mostly I need to thank my Higher Power-God is always in control and He is My Strength. My son called me tonite---yes we have issues to discuss-not on the phone he said, that's OK. I can see the grandkids and that...

Jen · Jen

Things have been going really well. I am hopeful, but still a bit reserved. AH had 10 months sober on the 27th and I told him last fall that I would not let him back in for at least a year. So our year is coming up in August, and I have at times recently felt pressured (by myself) to be ready to have him back at hom...

jackie S · jackie S

Hi, I feel like I am absolutely emotionally drained b/c of my AH. I can never do enough.......whether it is cleaning around the house, running errands, cooking, doing things w/ our daughter. I totally lost it this morning b/c I asked him if he could help me hang 1 thing up on the wall and he said he was too t...

Sylvie66 · Sylvie66

My ABF keeps changing the scenery on me! At Christmas, he had a violent blackout, my own personal rock-bottom. First, he said he was stopping completely. 6 weeks later, at my request, he said he would not be drunk near me or the kids. At the beginning of June, after a night of drinking when he was verbally...

kellia · kellia

I am so at the end of my rope here in Alabama! I don't mind saying where I live. My husband has been struggling with alcohol (plus other) addiction for the past 3 years. He has been to rehab twice and all of a sudden....even though he wavers back and forth between recovery and active add. he knows EVERYT...

debilyn · debilyn

A long time ago a friend used this word. I asked about it. It is a major tool in my life. Putting myself in anothers place and thinking how that may feel.It has made me ever so much more humble and loving. Used to be shy believe it or not. NO on really knew I played the role well I guess. But some thought my quie...

jackie S · jackie S

Hi, I tried to figure out how to email someone privately but had no luck. Someone in the chat room told me to double click on the persons name, which I assumed meant that meant that when that person was talking in the meeting room. I'm not sure. Anyway, I tried to double click in the meeting room but nothin...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family!! I have again had my belief in wise sayings validated. I've been around Al-Anon and AA for sometime and have seen lots of mysterious stuff. As I have related I was born and raised in this disease and know that it has affected lots of generations before me both as consumers and "dire...

maire rua · maire rua

At the moment, I am trying to complete a major piece of work. I had not contact my supervisor in this for a long time and he contacted me today. Finally I have faced up to this and instead of putting things off as I usually do, I told him my action plan and asked him what he needed me to do to fit into the criteria...

AJ · AJ

My MIL called me at work today and we discussed my AH - poor decision on my part to engage in a conversation at work about him, especially with my MIL. She just doesn't "get it." She is heavily pressuring me to take him back. She accused me of drinking during our 5 year relationship. You drank,...

mitch026 · mitch026

Hey everyone, this is my first post so Im still figuring out how this all works. Both my parents were chronic alcoholics, my dad died a few years ago mostly attributed to alcohol. My mother stopped, drinking. Basically this entailed only drinking every other night. Both my parents were physically an...

greta · greta

I have made a pact with myself to post this today. I have been upset with things that are going on with my job and have been letting the stress of it spill over into my personal life. So not good for me. I decided yesterday to start looking for another job and to take all the upset at work as a signal from my h...

laurab · laurab

Yesterday I was foolish enough to think that a corner had been turned. My A Son went home (off the steet) with his X Wednesday night. Yesterday she called to say they had been to the mental health clinic and as soon as they felt his body was clean, he would go back on Lithium. Today was supposed to be outpati...

jackie S · jackie S

I love the meetings in the chat room and I'm wondering...................... what goes on in the chat room after the meetings are over? I dont want to just "listen in" but I want to know what kind of things people talk about in the open chat room. I'd like to visit, but dont know what to expect....

jaysbaby · jaysbaby

Today, after allowing my alcoholic/drug abusing H back in, only a few days later, I have thrown him out. In the past couple of days, he has antogonized me, accused me of cheating on him, cornered me, threatened me... demand that I go to bed when he goes to bed (I enjoy watching tv late at nights alone by my...

mo14 · mo14

This is my first share and I am struggling. My husband has been out of rehab for 21 days and everyday I am feeling our saga is coming closer to the end. He is completely shutting me out and I am not handling it well. I married him for better or worse for sickness or health I believe that when you are married yo...

Bettina · Bettina

Tea and Kismet, found your messages, Thank you, Bettina -- Edited by Bettina at 20:19, 2008-06-28 -- Edited by Bettina at 20:26, 2008-06-28

nat2000 · nat2000

Hi has anyone ever had this problem?. I did a fourth step before ..but it wasn't really an honest one. I am now starting another five years later. I am trying to get a list of people I resent and can only come up with one person so far and that was just resent A month ago I was resenting all kinds of people and t...

annamae · annamae

hi. i don't know much about doing this but i really need help. i have hit a bottom with my fear and i cant take it anymore. i cannot turn my will over to God, I am so afraid of life. If i let go of what my partner is doing, he will hurt me, we will end and my life will be over. i have been living with this for so lo...

Barbs45 · Barbs45

Hi everyone, I haven't posted here in a while, tonight I just felt I wanted to be here are at MIP. I have recently had to detach from my son and daughter, it wasn't easy, although I know now it was the only other thing that I could do. I never thought I'd ever walk away from them both, but I have, I feel sad, but i...

Lexie · Lexie

(((((((friends)))))))))) My A, my son, has another court date set for July 1st. He is still doing very well, but this court date had to be set up because his probation is nearly over, but his fine is not paid in full due to his small income. He is representing himself, since he can't afford an attorney....

SuSUN · SuSUN

Hi Everyone, I am new here and I am jumping in with both feet as I am stuck with a drinking hubby that is only getting worse and worse. He hears me, but says nothing in return. I am getting very lonely and keep busy with my work and family. We just dont spend time together anymore. When I ask him to watch a show...

jackie S · jackie S

Hi to all, I've been to 5 alanon meetings and 4 forum chats here (which were awesome) so far. My husband is an active A. He has no wish to stop drinking. He had a DUI several yrs ago which didnt faze him. Now our daughter is 12 yo and is noticing his drinking , the amt , the time spent at the bar, etc, and this abso...

AJ · AJ

My AH has just called me and left 3 angry messages on my answering machine at the house and 2 angry voice mails on my cell phone. I've unplugged the house phone and turned off my cell. He's angry because he's been kicked out of the house for 5 weeks, 2 days because of his drinking. His messages said he's h...

Jen · Jen

Ok, I'm looking to pick the brains of all you oldtimers out there. I am now a sponsor for the first time. I have a sponsor of my own, but its always been a real loose relationship, no schedule for contact or anything. So I'm just looking for any pointers you all may have to help me get started off on the right f...

kbrixham · kbrixham

Hi all, I have a wonderful just turned four year old son. I adopted him from Guatemala as a single parent when he was 5 1/2 months old. He is effervescent, smart, sociable (with adults) and loves life...plus adorable! Yes I am bias but he really is a great kid. As I continue my journey to emotional hea...

Maria123 · Maria123

A Reason, A Season, A Lifetime People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do. When someone is in your life for a reason, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.They have come to assist you through a d...

mslouise · mslouise

This is my first time posting although I have been reading for a while. A little background on me: I am in a relationship with a wonderful man whom I want to marry someday. He has been clean off of meth for 2years and he will soon get his 90 day chip from AA. I am so proud of him! He is really working on th...

Gared · Gared

I can't sleep. The A in my life is sleeping in his bedroom (the guest bedroom) as he has for the past year and he's all excited about his upcoming move to Florida. All my friends are absolutely delighted that he is finally getting out of my life but I can't yet feel that way. This morning when he told me he...

deecee6565 · deecee6565

Ok, my A exH is in jail, will probably blame me when he gets out in the wee hours and I was really worried about it. I started reading these post and then went back to one of them that I had made. After rereading it I felt so much better. Thanks everyone for the support. Having somewhere to write how I am fe...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Just checking in to tell y'all I made it down to Louisville safe and sound. I can genuinely tell you I have never prayed so much in my entire life as I did today. I was so scared and so full of feelings and so on and so forth that I was just like "Oh dear and sweet and merciful God, whatever happens today,...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Dear Friends, Well, last time I had a meeting with my AH and my attorneys I imagined all of you sitting there with me, and it worked pretty well. Wanna come again? Today at 1:30 PST is the big one. If possible, with your own struggles, I'd appreciate if you could throw in a little prayer for me. We will be...

Suzannah · Suzannah

...just cannot get myself out of this stress mode. I am stressing at everything. No tears, just stress, stress, stress and not sleeping, feel like I am being a butterfly right now not settling to anything or anywhere long enough to make any progress with anything. Everything seems to be a really BIG ef...

serenity041807 · serenity041807

Hi All, recently my boyfriend (A) went out. He was out for two weeks that I know of. Now he has been back going to meetings and working with his sponsor. A new sponsor that is. My problem is I am having trouble trusting in anything he says and I just feel like he is up to something. I am obsessing about it. An...

paulaque · paulaque

Sorry to be posting so much negativity but I think I'm going to explode! My AH went into rehab about 11 weeks ago and is about 6 weeks home. The behaviour is almost exactly the same as before. He crossed the line yesterday when he assaulted our 18 yr old son, grabbed and shook him a couple of times. I really...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, Do to the first Sunday of the month being over the 4th of July weekend, and the same weekend of an International Al-Anon convention I am going to reschedule the Business Meeting to the following Sunday. So the July BM will be held on 07/13/08. Agenda to Follow! Yours in Recovery, Mandy

Christy · Christy

This is pretty darn funny..The writer had a sense of humor From Anchorage Daily News: Lawn mower-driving man charged with DUI

be4yourii · be4yourii

I feel like my HP is speaking to me through my horoscope. scorpio October 23-November 21 Thursday, Jun 26, 2008 There could be some responsibilities or obligations you have to other people that might be holding you back a bit right now. Your desire to have a good time might be tempered a bit by your sense...

hopeful332 · hopeful332

Hi everyoneIm new to the website. Ill been checking out the site for the last two weeks, reading the comments and trying to understand this disease and how I can help my daughter. My daughter just turned 17 last week and has been sober for 2 months now. Our world came crashing down about a year ago when the...

laurab · laurab

Last night XDIL drove 100 miles to get my A Son from his "new home" with a coked up girl that he has known for 2 days. A son wouldn't go with her. DIL drove home. ASon called today and she went back to pick him up. They called me at work, both of them yelling. He screaming that he can't stay with her...

glad lee · glad lee

I am so grateful for this program, which has given me the tools to change my life. Since coming to Al-anon, I regularly find myself doing things differently, and now I know what serenity (and consciousness and presence) feel like. I am hooked! And, I never want to go back. That said, I have learne...

Tracy · Tracy

Have not been posting for a while having probs with my computer. been attending meeting twice a week and the programme is slowly starting to sink in. Went to a conference at the weekend closed al anon in the morning and open AA in the afternoon. WOW did HP send me guidance. My AB has been missing for tw...

maresie · maresie

The A called this weekend and one year later I do not even answer the phone. One year of patiently working al anon. He called to ask to see the dogs. Since he abused both of them I'm not about to do that. I have nothing left to say to him. When I last him he was at my storage. He got nasty and loud and I felt emb...

maresie · maresie

I'm having a really hard time in my life dealing with controlling people. This person in my house decided to take the hose I had in the back yard out and put a short one on. I can't even imagine the logic of that. They super weld the thing onto the fawcett then take off for a week. Now let me say this they ha...

jasmine6272 · jasmine6272

I want to introduce myself. I am new to the board and new to all of what is going on in my life right now. I am married to an addict. I have tried to leave him, but we all know how hard it is. I just found out that he was using in January, so this is all VERY new to me. I just need to find someone who understands what I a...

maresie · maresie

I am working on a fourth step not because I really want to but there are certain themes that keep coming up in my life that I have to explore. I can't just keep saying its circumstances. I've been working on this in counselling as well as with a sponsor (although my sponsor is very busy at the moment). I am s...

laurab · laurab

Today was stolen car, credit cards, coke and mirror on the table, outstanding warrent, police called maybe and total chaos. My A son took off Saturday with his X wife's car, disappeared for 2 days, reappeared in some coked out girl's apartment. X DIL kept calling me at work and then he called me to say he...

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	im back!!!!!!! (Preview) hi everyone. some of you know me and some dont. long story short...been in the program few years now. was with an alcoholic/crack addict for 8 yrs and magaged to leave him and get my life back. i was extremely happy and healthy. i was on top of the world. currently ive lost myself again. my life is falling...	notsonew1111	2	474	Jul 2, 2008 by Tenderheartsks
	new here - drug addicted teen at home,what to do.... (Preview) I am new to this board - I have read a few posts and love the way people share and support each other... I found this week that my son, age 16, has been using drugs for quite some time and it was right under my nose. I found an ADD drug all crushed up and ready to snort in his pocket while I was doing laundry. Whe...	mich8	12	1042	Jul 2, 2008 by junehouse
	My marriage and the love of my life... (Preview) ((((((((((((Family)))))))))))) I am sharing this with you all as I have with my Sponsor, 'cos I need your help, your clarity, your thoughts on this craziness of mine. "...So trying to practise my OWN self confessed approach and letting go letting God this morning; and after a session of visual...	Suzannah	13	805	Jul 2, 2008 by Suzannah
	New priorities (Preview) Its incredible, the more I lean on HP, the less it matters what ANYONE does/doesn't do or says/doesn't say. I am taking things less and less personally with each passing month. The more I am gentle with myself, the more others are gentle towards me. The more I understand that we are each on our own journe...	Jean4444	6	592	Jul 2, 2008 by maire rua
	He is not my HP (Preview) Hi Alanoners, Sure feels like it sometimes. Just got off the phone with him - my AHSober. It takes us about 2 secs now to get into that circular conversation. I called to see if he could take the truck in for brakes and he says when are we going to sit down with the specifics about the divorce. He says you have...	nmike	5	652	Jul 2, 2008 by maire rua
	Miracles in my life...after the storm, a rainbow. (Preview) Love the miracles in my life...feel so much is happening as I accept more and more of what is in my life. Not fighting my life as much these days, and I am sure that is something to do with Alanon and practising the programme and reading and writing and sharing with this ((((family)))). Nothing stays the s...	Suzannah	8	669	Jul 2, 2008 by Suzannah
	His stinkin thinkin is startin, I think! (Preview) AH has been sober now for about 10 days, since losing his job (of over 20 years) due to his drunkeness 3 weeks ago. I'm sorry to say I have not kept up with the enforcement of my own boundaries. When he lost his job, I told him I would not leave him if he got sober, went to 90 meetings in 90 days and remained s...	queenie105	3	641	Jul 1, 2008 by debilyn
	How does this work? (Preview) I have no knowledge of how the court system operates: A got arrested May 22nd for public intoxication. At that time he apparently appeared before a judge. He doesn't remember doing so, but the paperwork he brought home indicates that he did. At that time he was given the date of June 25th (yesterday) to...	Diva	10	796	Jul 1, 2008 by ESH
	hi jen (Preview) I had tried to send this via private message a long time ago but it did not go through, I have had some trouble with sending intracomputer notes and usually have to cut and paste the email on my own email. I think it has something to do with my security computer system maybe? anyhoo below is the message fr...	junehouse	2	350	Jul 1, 2008 by junehouse
	I am DONE (Preview) I am done with it. I am done trying to be the only one trying to make our marriage work. I am done listening to him make drink after drink. I am done watching him drink. I am done watching how he is treating our wonderful children. I am done being treated like a child. I am done yelling. I am done crying. I am don...	Mabeleileen	9	523	Jul 1, 2008 by debilyn
	It's hard to keep the focus on myself (Preview) The thought of taking care of myself is rather foreign. I always believed that you put other people's needs ahead of your own, and that if you thought about yourself for any length of time it was not a good thing to do. I'm sure I adopted this behavior from watching my mother who catered to my father's (and...	AJ	8	660	Jul 1, 2008 by maresie
	different type of relationship (Preview) just want some advice on dealing with another anon or codependent who is not an A	notsonew1111	3	424	Jul 1, 2008 by maresie
	The opposites (Preview) Aloha Family!! I was asked in a PM to take the subject of "doing the opposites" out a bit further or to expand on what I had mentioned in a reply to a post earlier. In that post I had mentioned that I had learned "the opposites" from working with help from the program, sponsor and my th...	Jerry F	9	3819	Jul 1, 2008 by thinkstoomuch
	Thank-You!!!!!! (Preview) Thanks You to all of you for your prayers and concerns about the issue with my son and DIL. But mostly I need to thank my Higher Power-God is always in control and He is My Strength. My son called me tonite---yes we have issues to discuss-not on the phone he said, that's OK. I can see the grandkids and that...	meagain	1	361	Jul 1, 2008 by glad lee
	Trusting myself and HP's guidance (long) (Preview) Things have been going really well. I am hopeful, but still a bit reserved. AH had 10 months sober on the 27th and I told him last fall that I would not let him back in for at least a year. So our year is coming up in August, and I have at times recently felt pressured (by myself) to be ready to have him back at hom...	Jen	3	353	Jun 30, 2008 by serendipity
	Emotionally Drained (Preview) Hi, I feel like I am absolutely emotionally drained b/c of my AH. I can never do enough.......whether it is cleaning around the house, running errands, cooking, doing things w/ our daughter. I totally lost it this morning b/c I asked him if he could help me hang 1 thing up on the wall and he said he was too t...	jackie S	7	598	Jun 30, 2008 by kellia
	Newbie - Unclear on the Concept (Preview) My ABF keeps changing the scenery on me! At Christmas, he had a violent blackout, my own personal rock-bottom. First, he said he was stopping completely. 6 weeks later, at my request, he said he would not be drunk near me or the kids. At the beginning of June, after a night of drinking when he was verbally...	Sylvie66	6	547	Jun 30, 2008 by kellia
	frustrated: living w/a parttime active/trying to recover 'know it all' (Preview) I am so at the end of my rope here in Alabama! I don't mind saying where I live. My husband has been struggling with alcohol (plus other) addiction for the past 3 years. He has been to rehab twice and all of a sudden....even though he wavers back and forth between recovery and active add. he knows EVERYT...	kellia	8	703	Jun 30, 2008 by kellia
	playing reversies (Preview) A long time ago a friend used this word. I asked about it. It is a major tool in my life. Putting myself in anothers place and thinking how that may feel.It has made me ever so much more humble and loving. Used to be shy believe it or not. NO on really knew I played the role well I guess. But some thought my quie...	debilyn	7	1262	Jun 30, 2008 by debilyn
	Private Emails (Preview) Hi, I tried to figure out how to email someone privately but had no luck. Someone in the chat room told me to double click on the persons name, which I assumed meant that meant that when that person was talking in the meeting room. I'm not sure. Anyway, I tried to double click in the meeting room but nothin...	jackie S	3	351	Jun 30, 2008 by Mandy123
	Wonders are still and mysterious. (Preview) Aloha Family!! I have again had my belief in wise sayings validated. I've been around Al-Anon and AA for sometime and have seen lots of mysterious stuff. As I have related I was born and raised in this disease and know that it has affected lots of generations before me both as consumers and "dire...	Jerry F	6	625	Jun 30, 2008 by Suzannah
	How to face up to getting things done (Preview) At the moment, I am trying to complete a major piece of work. I had not contact my supervisor in this for a long time and he contacted me today. Finally I have faced up to this and instead of putting things off as I usually do, I told him my action plan and asked him what he needed me to do to fit into the criteria...	maire rua	2	481	Jun 30, 2008 by maresie
	My Mother-In-Law Doesn't Understand (Preview) My MIL called me at work today and we discussed my AH - poor decision on my part to engage in a conversation at work about him, especially with my MIL. She just doesn't "get it." She is heavily pressuring me to take him back. She accused me of drinking during our 5 year relationship. You drank,...	AJ	7	717	Jun 29, 2008 by wp
	My mothers drinking (Preview) Hey everyone, this is my first post so Im still figuring out how this all works. Both my parents were chronic alcoholics, my dad died a few years ago mostly attributed to alcohol. My mother stopped, drinking. Basically this entailed only drinking every other night. Both my parents were physically an...	mitch026	4	413	Jun 29, 2008 by debilyn
	Step one time for me! (Preview) I have made a pact with myself to post this today. I have been upset with things that are going on with my job and have been letting the stress of it spill over into my personal life. So not good for me. I decided yesterday to start looking for another job and to take all the upset at work as a signal from my h...	greta	2	509	Jun 29, 2008 by debilyn
	Dropped on My Head-and rightly so (Preview) Yesterday I was foolish enough to think that a corner had been turned. My A Son went home (off the steet) with his X Wednesday night. Yesterday she called to say they had been to the mental health clinic and as soon as they felt his body was clean, he would go back on Lithium. Today was supposed to be outpati...	laurab	5	485	Jun 29, 2008 by laurab
	Chat Room (Preview) I love the meetings in the chat room and I'm wondering...................... what goes on in the chat room after the meetings are over? I dont want to just "listen in" but I want to know what kind of things people talk about in the open chat room. I'd like to visit, but dont know what to expect....	jackie S	6	1168	Jun 29, 2008 by Tuggboat
	My family has gotten involved (Preview) Today, after allowing my alcoholic/drug abusing H back in, only a few days later, I have thrown him out. In the past couple of days, he has antogonized me, accused me of cheating on him, cornered me, threatened me... demand that I go to bed when he goes to bed (I enjoy watching tv late at nights alone by my...	jaysbaby	7	653	Jun 29, 2008 by Karilynn
	1st share need advice :blankstare: (Preview) This is my first share and I am struggling. My husband has been out of rehab for 21 days and everyday I am feeling our saga is coming closer to the end. He is completely shutting me out and I am not handling it well. I married him for better or worse for sickness or health I believe that when you are married yo...	mo14	5	555	Jun 28, 2008 by Jerry F
	Have a wonderful day. (Preview) Tea and Kismet, found your messages, Thank you, Bettina -- Edited by Bettina at 20:19, 2008-06-28 -- Edited by Bettina at 20:26, 2008-06-28	Bettina	4	605	Jun 28, 2008 by Bettina
	Doing 4th step (Preview) Hi has anyone ever had this problem?. I did a fourth step before ..but it wasn't really an honest one. I am now starting another five years later. I am trying to get a list of people I resent and can only come up with one person so far and that was just resent A month ago I was resenting all kinds of people and t...	nat2000	4	1337	Jun 28, 2008 by Tuggboat
	new and cant take it anymore (Preview) hi. i don't know much about doing this but i really need help. i have hit a bottom with my fear and i cant take it anymore. i cannot turn my will over to God, I am so afraid of life. If i let go of what my partner is doing, he will hurt me, we will end and my life will be over. i have been living with this for so lo...	annamae	5	487	Jun 28, 2008 by nmike
	Detaching From Family (Preview) Hi everyone, I haven't posted here in a while, tonight I just felt I wanted to be here are at MIP. I have recently had to detach from my son and daughter, it wasn't easy, although I know now it was the only other thing that I could do. I never thought I'd ever walk away from them both, but I have, I feel sad, but i...	Barbs45	6	480	Jun 28, 2008 by SuSUN
	Prayer request for son (Preview) (((((((friends)))))))))) My A, my son, has another court date set for July 1st. He is still doing very well, but this court date had to be set up because his probation is nearly over, but his fine is not paid in full due to his small income. He is representing himself, since he can't afford an attorney....	Lexie	5	379	Jun 28, 2008 by Lexie
	Husbands drinking... (Preview) Hi Everyone, I am new here and I am jumping in with both feet as I am stuck with a drinking hubby that is only getting worse and worse. He hears me, but says nothing in return. I am getting very lonely and keep busy with my work and family. We just dont spend time together anymore. When I ask him to watch a show...	SuSUN	6	497	Jun 28, 2008 by SuSUN
	newbie w/ A husband could use a little help (Preview) Hi to all, I've been to 5 alanon meetings and 4 forum chats here (which were awesome) so far. My husband is an active A. He has no wish to stop drinking. He had a DUI several yrs ago which didnt faze him. Now our daughter is 12 yo and is noticing his drinking , the amt , the time spent at the bar, etc, and this abso...	jackie S	4	539	Jun 28, 2008 by stormie
	He's calling - and he's ANGRY! (Preview) My AH has just called me and left 3 angry messages on my answering machine at the house and 2 angry voice mails on my cell phone. I've unplugged the house phone and turned off my cell. He's angry because he's been kicked out of the house for 5 weeks, 2 days because of his drinking. His messages said he's h...	AJ	9	503	Jun 28, 2008 by AJ
	Sponsorship (Preview) Ok, I'm looking to pick the brains of all you oldtimers out there. I am now a sponsor for the first time. I have a sponsor of my own, but its always been a real loose relationship, no schedule for contact or anything. So I'm just looking for any pointers you all may have to help me get started off on the right f...	Jen	3	407	Jun 28, 2008 by Peggy7
	Struggling with fear (Preview) Hi all, I have a wonderful just turned four year old son. I adopted him from Guatemala as a single parent when he was 5 1/2 months old. He is effervescent, smart, sociable (with adults) and loves life...plus adorable! Yes I am bias but he really is a great kid. As I continue my journey to emotional hea...	kbrixham	4	471	Jun 28, 2008 by Peggy7
	on grief and gratitude - A Reason, A Season, A Lifetime (Preview) A Reason, A Season, A Lifetime People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do. When someone is in your life for a reason, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.They have come to assist you through a d...	Maria123	5	517	Jun 27, 2008 by Andrea12
	Need some encouragement - new here (Preview) This is my first time posting although I have been reading for a while. A little background on me: I am in a relationship with a wonderful man whom I want to marry someday. He has been clean off of meth for 2years and he will soon get his 90 day chip from AA. I am so proud of him! He is really working on th...	mslouise	6	479	Jun 27, 2008 by Diva
	Sailing with Captain Morgan (Preview) I can't sleep. The A in my life is sleeping in his bedroom (the guest bedroom) as he has for the past year and he's all excited about his upcoming move to Florida. All my friends are absolutely delighted that he is finally getting out of my life but I can't yet feel that way. This morning when he told me he...	Gared	10	507	Jun 27, 2008 by Bettina
	This place really works! (Preview) Ok, my A exH is in jail, will probably blame me when he gets out in the wee hours and I was really worried about it. I started reading these post and then went back to one of them that I had made. After rereading it I felt so much better. Thanks everyone for the support. Having somewhere to write how I am fe...	deecee6565	2	394	Jun 27, 2008 by Jerry F
	hey y'all (Preview) Just checking in to tell y'all I made it down to Louisville safe and sound. I can genuinely tell you I have never prayed so much in my entire life as I did today. I was so scared and so full of feelings and so on and so forth that I was just like "Oh dear and sweet and merciful God, whatever happens today,...	Tiger2006	5	459	Jun 26, 2008 by Maria123
	Today is THE day... (Preview) Dear Friends, Well, last time I had a meeting with my AH and my attorneys I imagined all of you sitting there with me, and it worked pretty well. Wanna come again? Today at 1:30 PST is the big one. If possible, with your own struggles, I'd appreciate if you could throw in a little prayer for me. We will be...	Loupiness	12	566	Jun 26, 2008 by Jean4444
	Battling with stress... (Preview) ...just cannot get myself out of this stress mode. I am stressing at everything. No tears, just stress, stress, stress and not sleeping, feel like I am being a butterfly right now not settling to anything or anywhere long enough to make any progress with anything. Everything seems to be a really BIG ef...	Suzannah	9	488	Jun 26, 2008 by Maria123
	Regaining trust when the A slips (Preview) Hi All, recently my boyfriend (A) went out. He was out for two weeks that I know of. Now he has been back going to meetings and working with his sponsor. A new sponsor that is. My problem is I am having trouble trusting in anything he says and I just feel like he is up to something. I am obsessing about it. An...	serenity041807	6	2040	Jun 26, 2008 by maresie
	ANGRY, BETRAYED AND TRAPPED (Preview) Sorry to be posting so much negativity but I think I'm going to explode! My AH went into rehab about 11 weeks ago and is about 6 weeks home. The behaviour is almost exactly the same as before. He crossed the line yesterday when he assaulted our 18 yr old son, grabbed and shook him a couple of times. I really...	paulaque	8	579	Jun 26, 2008 by paulaque
	July Business Meeting (Preview) Hi all, Do to the first Sunday of the month being over the 4th of July weekend, and the same weekend of an International Al-Anon convention I am going to reschedule the Business Meeting to the following Sunday. So the July BM will be held on 07/13/08. Agenda to Follow! Yours in Recovery, Mandy	Mandy123	2	474	Jun 26, 2008 by norwood
	MOST of the time alcohol isn't humorous but.... (Preview) This is pretty darn funny..The writer had a sense of humor From Anchorage Daily News: Lawn mower-driving man charged with DUI	Christy	6	423	Jun 26, 2008 by thinkstoomuch
	today's horoscope and a big thanks (Preview) I feel like my HP is speaking to me through my horoscope. scorpio October 23-November 21 Thursday, Jun 26, 2008 There could be some responsibilities or obligations you have to other people that might be holding you back a bit right now. Your desire to have a good time might be tempered a bit by your sense...	be4yourii	2	474	Jun 26, 2008 by thinkstoomuch
	Fighting our way back (Preview) Hi everyoneIm new to the website. Ill been checking out the site for the last two weeks, reading the comments and trying to understand this disease and how I can help my daughter. My daughter just turned 17 last week and has been sober for 2 months now. Our world came crashing down about a year ago when the...	hopeful332	7	543	Jun 26, 2008 by Karilynn
	Continuous chaos and I can do nothing (Preview) Last night XDIL drove 100 miles to get my A Son from his "new home" with a coked up girl that he has known for 2 days. A son wouldn't go with her. DIL drove home. ASon called today and she went back to pick him up. They called me at work, both of them yelling. He screaming that he can't stay with her...	laurab	3	405	Jun 26, 2008 by joyoma
	Getting to meetings... (Preview) I am so grateful for this program, which has given me the tools to change my life. Since coming to Al-anon, I regularly find myself doing things differently, and now I know what serenity (and consciousness and presence) feel like. I am hooked! And, I never want to go back. That said, I have learne...	glad lee	3	391	Jun 25, 2008 by Peggy7
	the merry go round (Preview) Have not been posting for a while having probs with my computer. been attending meeting twice a week and the programme is slowly starting to sink in. Went to a conference at the weekend closed al anon in the morning and open AA in the afternoon. WOW did HP send me guidance. My AB has been missing for tw...	Tracy	4	771	Jun 25, 2008 by Karilynn
	one year later the A calls. (Preview) The A called this weekend and one year later I do not even answer the phone. One year of patiently working al anon. He called to ask to see the dogs. Since he abused both of them I'm not about to do that. I have nothing left to say to him. When I last him he was at my storage. He got nasty and loud and I felt emb...	maresie	6	558	Jun 25, 2008 by maire rua
	controlling (Preview) I'm having a really hard time in my life dealing with controlling people. This person in my house decided to take the hose I had in the back yard out and put a short one on. I can't even imagine the logic of that. They super weld the thing onto the fawcett then take off for a week. Now let me say this they ha...	maresie	3	378	Jun 25, 2008 by maire rua
	new to the board (Preview) I want to introduce myself. I am new to the board and new to all of what is going on in my life right now. I am married to an addict. I have tried to leave him, but we all know how hard it is. I just found out that he was using in January, so this is all VERY new to me. I just need to find someone who understands what I a...	jasmine6272	6	518	Jun 25, 2008 by afglin
	working on a fourth step hard going (Preview) I am working on a fourth step not because I really want to but there are certain themes that keep coming up in my life that I have to explore. I can't just keep saying its circumstances. I've been working on this in counselling as well as with a sponsor (although my sponsor is very busy at the moment). I am s...	maresie	5	745	Jun 25, 2008 by maresie
	What a Day! (Preview) Today was stolen car, credit cards, coke and mirror on the table, outstanding warrent, police called maybe and total chaos. My A son took off Saturday with his X wife's car, disappeared for 2 days, reappeared in some coked out girl's apartment. X DIL kept calling me at work and then he called me to say he...	laurab	6	369	Jun 25, 2008 by laurab
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